The Gentleman’S Code Book

By Jojo T. Williams

Has the way of being a gentleman been lost? Morals, standards, and values still do existbut the question is, does everyone follow them? It is up to us to make sure that these ways are not forgotten. Create your own system to express what being a gentleman means to you. Discover what it means to be treated with respect and how to treat others as well. These are some principles that I have shared to get everyone thinking about the importance of morals, values, principles, and standards.

Perhaps the more important topic is how are we gentlemen are supposed to treat women. That is something that seems to be forgotten as well. There are several ways to approach these topics and more. These guidelines should help find your inner gentleman and discover what works for you.

At the end of the day, the world cant stay the way it is. We must do something to improve it as a whole. The choice is yourswhy not do something to improve yourself and the world? This book will help point you in the right direction; it is up to you to read more and learn more. Never stop growing smarter and always continue to learn more. Discover your gentlemans system!

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Sep 15, 2015
• ISBN: 9781512703429

Jojo T. Williams

Jojo Williams, currently an electrical engineer, has a bachelor’s degree in electrical engineering from University of Oklahoma. Jojo is an African American man on a mission to impact the world in his own special way. He spends much of his time trying to find new ways to help or reach out to people in a meaningful way. One thing about this young man is that he always likes to laugh and smile. In his free time he enjoys playing soccer and basketball and lifting weights. He also spends time trying to help the school he has graduated from, Northeast Academy, as an enterprise board member. All and all, this gentleman just likes to help people reach their potential and help in any way he can.

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WestBow Press rev. date: 09/09/2015

Contents

Preface

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Code 1: Respect Yourself and Everyone Despite the Situation

Code 2: Be Courteous To Everyone

Code 3: Positivity + Genuine Friendly Attitude + Big Smile = Positive Impact

Code 4: Be Confident and Proud of Who You Are and Never Lose Sight of Yourself

Code 5: Listen and Pay Attention—You Might Get Something Out of It

Code 6: Carry Yourself with Pride and Take Good Care of Yourself

Code 7: Meeting and Greeting New People—How Exciting!

Code 8: Keep Your Word

Code 9: Do Your Best to Be Polite

Code 10: Stay Focused and True—There Is No Price Tag for Honor

Code 11: Building Relationships with the People Around You

Code 12: Your Legacy Is Priceless and Precious

Code 13: Appreciate the Positives and Negatives and Enjoy Life

Code 14: Hospitality Is Essential

Code 15: Building a Sense of Family

Code 16: Timing Is Everything

Code 17: Understanding How to Treat Women

Conclusion

Preface

The gentlemen’s code is something that can be applied anywhere or to anyone; no matter what, the principles are the same, and these principles have been around for generations. I want everyone to pledge to be open-minded to these principles and to passing them on to other people, whether it be to family, friends, kids, acquaintances, or strangers.

I am hoping to bring back a system of principles and standards as well as a sense that anyone can be part of your spiritual family. All we need to do is tear down those barriers that we humans naturally put up. You will be surprised; if you treat people like family, you can make and keep meaningful bonds with them.

This is one of the biggest principles my father taught me throughout my upbringing, and I would like to pass it along to you as well. Now, I know this won’t happen overnight, but if you stay open-minded, you will be able to help shape the world along the guidelines of respect, family, and love.

I leave you with this message: we as a people need to come together in unity out of love and respect for one another.

Acknowledgments

First, I want to take the time to thank God for giving me the biggest blessing that anyone could have which is life and being able to live it. Without God I wouldn’t be able to write this book and share my story with everyone. I would also like to thank my sister, Nana Williams. She has always had my back, through thick and thin, and she has always supported me through my tough times. She is my best friend, and I hope she knows that.

I would also like to thank Kristen Corrects Inc. for taking the time to edit this for me. She is very patient and hardworking, and I want to say thank you for everything. Also, I would like to thank WestBowPress for taking the time to work with me on this special project of mine. They are very good people to work with, and I appreciate all their support. Also I would like to thank these two artists Billbig and Chandra Halim for bringing my images to life in this book.

I would like to thank my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, nieces, and nephews because they were the ones who gave me the foundation of the gentlemen’s code. I really do appreciate all that they have done for me. Their fundamental lessons were something I needed and the reason I am the gentlemen that I am today.

I have had the chance to come in contact with and listen to many people’s stories, and I really want to thank all of them. If I took the time to thank everyone individually, it would take more pages than anyone would like to read. Hearing other people’s stories and possibly offering them advice always makes my day. I hope that I have helped you just as much as I have learned from you.

Finally, I thank those I have met who mistreat people, don’t treat others as equals, don’t respect themselves, and don’t respect women. I hold no grudges against you; in fact, you have supplied me with the inspiration to write the Gentleman’s Code Book.

Jojo T. Williams

Introduction

Morals, standards, and ethics—what do they all really mean? Should we follow them and make them a part of our lives? Should we hold ourselves accountable for our actions on a higher level? You may not realize it, but not everyone has standards and morals. It’s a difficult truth, but that’s reality, and the sooner you realize it, the better equipped you will be! However, I can’t make you decide to live by a set of morals, and neither can your parents, mentors, or teachers. They can always advise you and point the way, but ultimately, it is up to you and you alone to hold yourself accountable for your own values, morals, principles, and standards. But the bigger question you must be asking now is, What is a gentleman, really? You will discover this answer for yourself as you develop and grow over time.

I mention many principles and standards in this book, and a lot of them will complement each other. But remember—you won’t be able to learn them all overnight. If you stick with it and always try to challenge yourself and read more about ethics, morals, and standards, as well as to have reinforcements (guardians, parents, teachers, friends, and mentors), these principles will become second nature to you. You won’t even have to think about it, because it will become instinctual.

This book is, as the title suggests, a gentleman’s code book. I wrote this book in the name of all males of today’s generation. I look around world today, on social media, in music, on television, on the radio, and at how the people of this world act, and what I see is that chivalry is dead. No one seems to have manners, humility, or respect for others. This is a big problem for a lot of people. I want to help give some direction. Think about this book as a reinforcement of all the lessons taught to you by your guardians, siblings, mentors, friends, teachers, etc.

I have provided a road map for how to be a gentleman. This map will give you guidelines so that you can come up with your own system and definition of being a gentleman. This book will guide you in how you should treat women—because this is very important. Women are equal to men and should be treated with respect and dignity, just as men should be.

As a male, you’re trying to figure out your identity throughout life. I want to assist you to discover yourself and to build some standards for yourself. Even if you’re a bit older, there is no harm in learning something new or in brushing up on ethics.

I certainly do not know everything