The Art of Being a Gentleman

By Etiquette & Style Academy

The Art of Being a Gentleman: Classic Skills & Manners for the Sophisticated Modern Man

What you'll learn

• The essence of politeness and respect and learning still the difference between respect and fear. And why it's important to respect your elders and women.
• How to carry yourself with confidence and be comfortable in your own skin, and the goals for your life's journey.
• How to embrace both your sensitive and masculine sides and to appreciate each one and understand why and how they make you a well-rounded person. You will also learn when it is appropriate to use your masculine or sensitive side.
• You will learn the different styles of casual dress, from formal casual to business casual and of course, how to wear and size a formal suit and even the two most convenient ways to tie a necktie.
• You will of course learn how to treat a young lady with courtesy and politeness on your first date. You will learn the basic etiquette of getting and manners to help you make the best first impression possible to build a solid foundation for a relationship of trust and respect.
• You will learn to understand body language and the signals and secret communications that people are constantly sending each other. The skill of reading body language will give you an edge in every aspect of life, from romantic interludes to the board room.
• You will learn some of the most important things that every gentleman should carry with them in their pocket, and how these simple tools can help you solve a wide variety of small to intermediate problems that you may encounter during the life.
• You will learn how to communicate with people in a respectful, honest and honorable manner and to conduct yourself with dignity and self-respect, regardless of the situation that you may find yourself in.
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• Language: English
• Publisher: Royal Hawaiian Press
• Release date: Jul 5, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201407759

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The Art of Being

a Gentleman

The Art of Being

a Gentleman

Classic Skills & Manners for the Sophisticated Modern Man

By Etiquette & Style Academy

THE ART OF BEING A GENTLEMAN

BY ETIQUETTE & STYLE ACADEMY

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Published by Royal Hawaiian Press

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Table of Contents

Introduction

1.2 The Gentleman's Creed Laws 1 Through 5

1.3 The Gentleman's Creed Laws 6 Through 10

2.1 Dressing the Part

3.1 How to Date with Respect

3.2 How to be a Loving and Loved Gentleman

4.1 Tools of the Trade

5.1 Can’t Forget about these Tidbits

5.2 What does it take to become a real man?

5.3 WHY YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS THINKING ABOUT CHEATING ON YOU

5.4 From Hip Hop to Gentleman – Interview with Men Need More Style Gui Bo

5.5 What is the difference between a man and a gentleman?

5.6 How should a true gentleman behave?

5.7 HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN IN LIFE’S MOST AWKWARD SITUATIONS

5.8 Tips to Revive Wintery Relationships

5.9 Stylish Cars for The Modern Gentleman

5.10 5 EVERYDAY TRAITS OF A MODERN GENTLEMAN

5.11 Style Advice That Tall Guys Need To Follow

5.12 5 Ways to be a Thrifty Gentleman

5.13 Whiskey Tasting Guide & How to Taste Whisky

5.14 Inspiration of the Month

5.15 Attract Women as a Gentleman With Bad Boy Attitude

5.16 Gentleman Sport Style: 5 Essential Tips

5.17 How to Creatively Wear the Right Men’s Suit

5.18 Being a Gentleman in the 21st Century

5.19 A Gangster or a Gentleman?

5.20 Reviving the Long-Lost Art of Chivalry

5.21 Why it Sucks to Be a Nice Guy

5.22 How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back Like a Gentleman

5.23 Gentlemen - Raising Boys with Manners and Respect

5.24 A Gentleman on A Date with His Wife - What He Brings - What He Leaves at Home

5.25 Golf is called a Gentleman's Game for Good Reason

5.26 Some Important Japanese Dating Customs You Would Like To Know

5.27 Six Essentials to Being a Gentleman

5.28 17 Tips to Become a Potential Boyfriend

5.29 What Women Look for in a Man

5.30 Dating and Romance for Men Over 55 - Top 10 Rules

5.31 What Every Young Man Should Know about Being a Gentleman

5.32 Gentleman Versus Nice Guy

5.33 Dating Rules, Etiquette and Social Skills

5.34 Is Emotional Attraction More Important Than Physical Attraction in Dating?

5.35 How to Become an Alpha Male - Get Rid of Beta Male Traits

5.36 The Choices We Make

5.37 What does it mean to be a modern-day gentleman?

5.38 What's Wrong With Being a Nice Guy?

5.39 What are the qualities of a gentleman?

5.40 What are the top professions for a gentleman?

5.41 I want to be a gentleman. What is the process and how should I start?

5.42 What are the five best things a gentleman must have?

5.43 How can one become a gentleman? What are some best practices?

Introduction

Walking the manly path, the art of being a gentleman.  The idea of a gentleman has become an anachronism.  It was considered the mark of a true man.  A gentleman was someone that had manners and knew how to carry himself with confidence and swagger.  He understood respect and dignity and treated everyone equally.  But somewhere along the line this concept has been replaced with manliness. Gentlemen became the endangered species.

Dealing with bravado and hyper masculinity.  It is the falsity that he is an action hero and not the sensitive individual who is in touch with his feelings.  A gentleman today is more than an adrenaline junkie or a brute.  Unlike what Hollywood would like us to believe a gentleman is someone who was in touch with his masculinity as well as his emotions knowing real respect. 

When you see respect today has more to do with fear than anything else.  It is like those portrayed in movies where respect is synonymous with violence where someone disobeys you are getting your way.  They will bear the brunt of your anger.  Respect is honoring your elders or people of integrity.  It is allowing someone to voice out even if you do not agree with their remarks. 

Of course, you can disagree with someone, but you should use logic and recognize when an argument has reached an impasse and you do these without insulting that person.  Respect also means trusting those with experience and being able to heed advice.  You can always catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  Politeness is always important.  We are talking about attitude beyond table manners. 

A gentleman is someone who addresses someone appropriately and is polite always avoiding profanity.  He knows when to avoid certain topics of conversation such as religion or politics or anything that causes friction or discomfort.  A little confidence goes a long way.  The mark of a gentleman is confidence. 

It is confidence in knowing your identity and your goals and being comfortable in your own skin and with your belief’s confidence means standing up for your beliefs and having the courage to fight when necessary.  A gentleman does not let popular opinion guide his decisions and always trust himself to make the right choices.

1.2 The Gentleman's Creed Laws 1 Through 5

Welcome to our book which will walk you on a manly path and guide you to becoming a gentleman. In this chapter we are going to be covering what we like to call the 10-step process of becoming a gentleman.  This is probably the meat and potatoes.  This is the quintessential knowledge.  These are 10 step points and we like to really refer to the gentleman's creed.  So, we'll go through all 10 of them. 

And as we progress throughout this segment, I will go into greater detail about each of the 10 points of the gentleman's creed and hopefully make sense of it all for you. Let's begin on the gentleman's creed.  So, the following ten points are what we call the rudimentary building blocks of becoming a gentleman. 

If you follow them, you will by action be a gentleman.  If you do not follow all of them, you will by action be on lease on the road to becoming a gentleman.  If you do, follow the majority of them, if you violate them, you are possibly at risk of not becoming a gentleman. 

Number one a gentleman commits to always making others comfortable.  I elaborated I was going to go through to ten points here. 

Number two a gentleman adopts an attitude of courtesy and gratitude at all times and says please thank you readily and appropriately. 

Number three a gentleman admits when he is wrong.

Number four a gentleman absolutely does not despair the beliefs of others neither does he wax comically or play comedian about race religion or gender. 

Number five a gentleman never allows a door to slam in the face of another person doesn't necessarily have to be female.  They just don't allow a door to slam in the face of another person. 

Number six a gentleman never jumps the queue meaning a gentleman never cuts line.  This is very ungentlemanly like. 

Number seven. It demands always ready to offer a hearty and courteous handshake. 

Number eight a gentleman is a clean man. 

Number nine a gentleman readily admits his errors when he is wrong.  Which is very similar to number three you know there's maybe some redundancy here.  I'll explain the difference as we get deeper into this book. 

Number ten a gentleman will neither pick a fight nor lose his temper with anyone. 

So, you may be saying to yourself OK some of these are a bit cliche.  We've heard them before.  What did they actually mean?  Well, you have to think of these all-in terms of not necessarily in terms of being ideal but in thinking of them in terms of action.  OK. 

So, let's go back to number one of our gentlemen's creeds.  A gentleman commits to always making others comfortable.  If you are a gentleman, you not only make sure that the elderly around you're comfortable you not only make sure that children’s young boys and girls are comfortable around you comfortable in your environment not to you and limit the comfort to only females being comfortable in your presence but also males. 

So, it doesn't have to be elderly doesn't necessarily have to only be children or females.  A gentleman commits to making others feel comfortable.  Now how do you allow others to feel comfortable around you.  If you are socially awkward you know this may present some challenges for you.  If your introvert this may present some challenges for you but one of the first rudimentary nuances of comfort is being communicable. 

So, communicating means communicative with those that you come in contact with and being respectful not only to yourself but also be respectful to those around you.  Now some of these other points of the gentleman creed actually goes into greater detail about how to develop this type of report respect with others. 

But it all begins with the golden rule.  We like to reflect to whom we've all heard the Golden Rule.  It's very cliche at this point.  Treat others how you like to be treated yourself and this is very true.  As far as your level of comfort things that may make you feel uncomfortable will more likely make someone else feel uncomfortable as well. 

So, making others feel comfortable is point number one in becoming a gentleman. 

Point number two in the gentleman's creed is as follows.  A gentleman adopts an attitude of courtesy and gratitude at all times and says please and thank you readily and appropriately.  If someone ever does a favor for you when some goes out of their way to help you some gives you some nicety.  When someone gives you a compliment it is a gentleman that replies with a hearty thank you replies possibly with a with a compliment himself. 

So, if someone compliments you on the watch you’re wearing as a very handsome, you express thanks that you have one.  Oh, thank you very much.  I really like this watch as well.  I'm glad you like it.  By the way the scarf that you're wearing is pretty stunning by the way.  You know I really like the briefcase that you have.  By the way I like to mention I really like the presentation that you gave. 

You know people like to be flattered and there's a gentleman you don't fan out yes you actually give compliments that are of substance, and they have meaning to that person.  They have context to get interaction with that particular person so don't just say oh you're a smart guy and you never had a conversation person because obviously you don't know you haven't concluded whether or not that person is