What Is the Matter with My Gender?

By Jack Moser

Jack Moser has been dealing with men and male issues in therapy since 1980. He has witnessed men in relationships as they constantly make the same mistakes. In this book, he calls men the lost gender. His experience with men tells him that less than 10 percent of males ever truly discover who they are. They seem to constantly portray their false self, the self of ego, and control and power to women. Women are not looking for this; rather, they seek secure, compassionate, warm, good-humored men who are comfortable in their own skin. Dr. Moser has not discovered many of these men in his male groups over the past thirty years.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: May 22, 2017
• ISBN: 9781543422740

Jack Moser

Jack Moser grew up in Brooklyn, New York, and, after college, entered the navy as an ensign in 1958. He experienced war in Vietnam in 1967 and 1968. As a naval intelligence officer, he followed the Soviet Submarine Force while working at NSA. In the early 1970s, he worked with the CIA, placing agents into China. After leaving the navy, he received his doctorate in counseling psychology from Florida State University. He has been in four counseling private practice in Pensacola for the past thirty-seven years. He has four sons, four daughters, and ten grandchildren. He lives, works, and writes in Pensacola, Florida. He has written seven books of poetry, four books on the male journey. This book is his first venture into historical fiction.

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Copyright © 2017 by Jack Moser.

Library of Congress Control Number:      2017907677

ISBN:               Hardcover               978-1-5434-2272-6

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CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

CHAPTER I

Our Fathers and Our Work

CHAPTER II

Relationships

CHAPTER III

Men and Their Secrets

CHAPTER IV

Men and Affection

CHAPTER V

Men and Money

CHAPTER VI

Male Time for Themselves

CHAPTER VII

Men’s Feelings

CHAPTER VIII

Men and Spirituality

CHAPTER IX

How Can Men Find The Truth?

CHAPTER X

Male Bonding

CHAPTER XI

So What Is The Matter With My Gender?

CHAPTER XII

Acceptance and Contemplation

CHAPTER XIII

What Might Men’s Lives Look Like In The Future?

OTHER BOOKS BY THIS AUTHOR:

The Male Journey: Quiet Depression (2005)

We Have Forgotten How to Make Fire (2006)

The Murmur of a Gentle Breeze (2007)

If I Should Be Felled (2008)

Men in Therapy (2009)

I Love You to the Moon (2010)

You Can See Me from Here (2011)

The Wonder of It All (2012)

He Doesn’t Have A Clue, Does He? (2013)

Who Cares? I Do. (2014)

The West Coast of Heaven (2015)

The Jesus Chronicles (2015)

Right Train, Wrong Track (2015)

To the male gender

who try to discover

who they are and

why they are.

Every day the search goes on.

Help us, God.

We are broken.

INTRODUCTION

W e, men, would like to give the best of who we are, before we leave this world. But we don’t know who we are and how we came to be.

In 2015, there was a movie called, Still Alice, with Julianne Moore and Alec Baldwin. They were a married couple living in New York City. Alice was a professor at Columbia University who suffers from an early onset of Alzheimer’s. Her husband was a medical doctor. Alice’s condition is rapid and downward. Her physician tells her that she has six months of cognition left. With this in mind, her husband tells her that he has taken a position at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota and they must leave in a week. Alice is stunned. She tells her husband that her last months need to be spent here. Her physicians are here. Her family is here. Her good friends are here. All of her support system is here in New York City. She cannot leave. Oh, he says, you’ll make friends in Minnesota. Alice looks at him and realizes that he has no idea concerning her illness, nor does he care.

What, in God’s name is wrong with him? He is a male and he believes it is all about him. How has this man gotten to this selfish stage? He has no idea as to what this move could do to his wife. What is he thinking? This is what this book will explore. What is wrong with my gender? We’ll see.

Jack Moser

September 2015

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