Productiveness IS  good, but we forget that we're not just human doers -- we're also human beings. Take the story of Martha and Mary. Martha was working hard and being productive FOR JESUS. Mary was calmly sitting, being still and LISTENING TO JESUS. Both were Godly women. And Jesus even defended Mary for “choosing the good part” when Martha accused her of not DOING. Consider how Jesus modeled JOY and DELIGHT --  not just productivity. He certainly “did” a lot, but he also had breakfast with his friends, ate dinner and drank wine (sometimes he was even accused of being a drunkard!) and little children ran to him. He must have been pretty enjoyable to be around if even little children want to run up to the revered Rabbi.   If you are ALWAYS thinking that "God wants me to be productive. I need to do this and that..." then I challenge you to sit back, listen to Him, and just take delight in His presence.   We can also apply this to our sex lives. What if sex was fun and filled you up? And it's not just about sex. Being FUN and PLAYFUL in the bedroom EXTENDS to how you interact with your husband daily.   In this podcast episode, you'll discover... Why sex can actually be fun! Sex doesn't have to be miserable - I encourage you to reverse it even if you've endured it for years and years!   It can still be passionate, playful, purposeful --- like how it was in the beginning!   How does fun and playful sex affect us: We empathize easier with our husbands and other people too We rewire our brains to see, think, and do as God wants us to When we’re not constantly doing and we have margin in our lives that comes through playing   We serve a God that loves us. He want us to know that: His love is deeper and wider and truer than we can imagine. He truly wants us to enjoy our lives. He created physical stimuli like laughing when we are tickled. Why? Because all the joys we feel when hugged, kissed, or touched --- it is proof of God's unfathomable deep and true love for us.   SCARED to START BEING PLAYFUL? I'm curious where that fear is coming from? I have Clarity Calls set up especially to get at the root of how you feel underneath the behavior.   If you go to www.dym.as.me for a 40-Minute FREE conversation with me to understand where you are in your marriage. If you're distraught or even if you're on the edge of divorce, by God's grace, a Clarity Call may be exactly what you need to gain hope and discern next steps FOR YOU.