Jfyi, I recorded all of this episode (except for the very last portion) about 11 weeks ago, so for those currently in DYM programs -- take it personally -- but not because I recorded it thinking of you specifically :)    What is masculinity?  What our society says it is? Powerful, rich, authority, direct, right, muscular, able and willing to kill, tough, deep, deep voice, no emotion, immovable, winner in every arena, sexually desired, admired by all... Do you feel you have to always have the last word or you're considered weak? Do you feel you have to fight to preserve your "manhood"? Do you feel you have to have sex in a certain way/frequency/variety/engagement/enthusiasm from her, for you to feel like a man? Do you feel your wife has to treat you with respect for you to feel like you're masculine?   I get how it is confusing based on the poor role modeling we get in our SERIOUSLY backward society.   The problem is...  A mature woman scarcely gives a crumb about the aforementioned descriptions.  And lucky you... you married a mature woman who grew from the early days of your relationship where a lot of those things mattered. And now she wants a man who... well, I'll tell you.   There's an actual, clear example of true masculinity.  The manliest of men. The best example of manhood.  The only one we must compare ourselves to and rise higher because of. It's impossible to overstate the importance of us looking at Jesus as the role model of masculinity.   Jesus. The one who was ridiculed, spit on, false accused, humiliated, laughed at, disrespected, endured suffering when he could have killed them all with a simple word... That is the true man.  That is our true masculinity.  And that is what it means to be potent.    When you live, love, and lead like Jesus, that is the man your wife is longing for.   Blessings,  Belah   PS - If you're ready... but you don't know how to do this practically.  That's why we've created and perfected the program Masculinity Reclaimed... God has used it to restore and revive MANY a sexless and lonely marriage.  We'd love to help you, starting with a simple risky step of getting on a call with a Clarity Advisor who themselves have gone through a DYM program and God change THEIR marriages as a result.  Would love to join you in this delightyourmarriage.com/cc Be a real man, (LOL ;) we'd love to take that next step with you.