The Marital Voyage: A Guide to Happy Married Life

By Xlibris US

Marriages are universal & normally last for 25-50 years, unless disturbed by death or divorce. Differences & disputes between two human beings particularly Man & Woman are common because of differences in their psychology & prolonged intimacy. This book highlights various aspects of married life, which might affect their success or failure, suggesting ways & means to make it a successful & happy marriage, which is vital to healthy rearing of children & ultimately making a healthy society, healthy nation & world at large, worth living in.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jun 27, 2014
• ISBN: 9781499040104

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Copyright © 2014 by Dr. C. R. Trivedi.

ISBN:      Softcover   978-1-4990-4011-1

                 eBook        978-1-4990-4010-4

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CONTENTS

PREFACE

1. THE VOYAGE

2. THE NEED FOR MARRIAGE

3. THE MARRIAGE

4. LOVE AND SEX IN MARRIAGE

5. THE FAMILY LIFE

6. REARING CHILDREN

7. OCCUPATION AND FAMILY LIFE

8. CONFLICT IN MARRIAGE

9. RESOLVING CONFLICT

1O. MAN V/S WOMAN

11. REALISATION THROUGH MARRIAGE

AUTHOR

Dedicated To:

All those who have strived to

experience eternal peace and

pleasure through the union of

Man and Woman in wedlock,

particularly to my late wife Hira.

PREFACE

M ost people in the world marry and live a family life. However, we come across very few people who are thoroughly happy about their married life. Hence, the saying that it is an institution to repent for those who marry, as well as those who keep away. Most people have felt like running away from it at sometime or the other. It is also true that many people develop, however late, the wisdom, art and philosophy of living happily in married life, of course with their ifs and buts.

In my opinion, man and woman are the masters of this planet. Their healthy relationship is most important in this world. All activities should ultimately subscribe to this goal. Any deviation from this could place the children and through them the world of tomorrow at risk.

I have written this book with an idea to contribute to this healthy relationship, on the basis of what I have seen, heard, read, experienced and most important thought. However, I must confess of my relative ignorance of the wide world of women, to whose sex I don’t belong. Any difference of opinion, due to this, I beg to be excused from women readers of this book.

If this book succeeds in helping and guiding someone in difficulty and confusion, I will feel happy to know that my efforts have not gone in vain.

C.R. TRIVEDI

1. THE VOYAGE

M arriage is universal in most cultures of the world. It is a vital institution of society. It is linked with, rather the origin of, another vital institution- family. Most people have observed more than one such institutions from very close quarters, e.g. parent’s, brother’s, sister’s, son’s, daughter’s, friend’s, etc. However, one’s own experience is likely to be deepest. The institution of marriage is normally of very long duration, say 25-50 years, unless disturbed by death or divorce.

An institution which affects us for such a long time needs to be understood sincerely, seriously and thoroughly. Many people carry biased sketches of this institution, from what they have seen around, before plunging into it.

I have titled passage through this institution as voyage. Voyage means journey by water or in space. Like journey by water or in space, experience through the institution of marriage could be exciting as well as risky. Many proverbs substantiate this. It is said that marriage is an institution about which everyone repents, including those who plunge into it and those who keep away.

The elements of pain and pleasure are built-in in the institution of marriage. However, the proportion would vary with different people. Only pleasure or only pain is rare to find. It must be kept in mind that the experiences of pleasure and pain are more perceptive,personal,and subjective. What could be pain for someone could be a great pleasure for the other. This makes this institution mysterious.

Every participant of this institution develops insight in this mystery, little or more with passage of time. Unfortunately, most of the times, the experiences of married life are kept secret and very rarely shared with others, particularly in its entire correctness.

Practicing doctors enjoy the privilege of getting opportunities to dip in to the depth of experiences of married life of patients under their care. I have been one of such fortunate persons, having practiced for about one and a half decade and that too extensively.

My intention in writing this book is to place these experiences and thoughts on public platform, so that those plunging into this institution have a reference to draw upon, which can guide them.

Without any forethought and with very high expectations, many young people plunge into this institution and then repeatedly collide with damaging rocks of frustration suffering intense misery and agony which can neither be revealed nor borne. If they are told, how common are these experiences, even with the best of people, they feel greatly relieved. If they could be guided to separate out these experiences into pleasant and painful, enjoying the former and tactfully ignoring the latter the voyage could be reasonably ensured to be more pleasant than painful.

2. THE NEED FOR MARRIAGE

I f we can ask all those who marry, the question why they

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Heartfelt story of a marriage