To Have, to Hold, and to Never Let Go: What Men Should Know About Women Before Attempting a Relationship

By Cattina C. Coleman

I am a woman of many attributes and as impressive as my background is I too find it hard to juggle a relationship, family, friends, and my career. With a two year old son, a new found relationship with a handsome young man who is just a year younger then me but so much wisdom he could teach a teacher; still pursuing my Doctorate Degree in Business, and building a company from the ground up; has definitely put my life in the fast lane. The inspiration to my book was having seen male friends of mine who are battling their own love lives and or the family. I wanted to create a book to help guide them in a path where they too can understand where we women are coming from when we ask them a million and one questions about relationships and family. So in my book To Have, To Hold, and To Never Let Go, I am letting men know the inner thoughts and acts of women and show how we are not that much different from you guys in the sense of commitment. The same thoughts you men have us women have too; we just go about them a little differently. So in this book allow these chapters to guide you men on how To Have a Woman, Hold a Woman, and To Never Let Her Go.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Dec 28, 2012
• ISBN: 9781479770366

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TO HAVE,

TO HOLD,

&

TO NEVER LET GO

By: Cattina C. Coleman

CATTINA C. COLEMAN

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Not Just another Relationship Book but a Guide to Staying Happy

To Have

To Hold

And

To Never Let Go

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What Men Should Know About Women

Before Attempting a Relationship

Copyright © 2012 by Cattina C. Coleman.

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.

Rev. Date: 03/05/2013

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CONTENTS

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The Facts about a Woman

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Understanding the Depth of How We Love

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CHAPTER (1) THE RESUME

Knowing Your Worth and Setting Your Standards

CHAPTER (2) UNDERSTANDING A WOMAN

CHAPTER (3) Cheating GAME

CHAPTER (4) KEEPING HER HAPPY

CHAPTER (5) A MESSAGE TO MEN

Act like You Know

CHAPTER (6) HE SAY SHE SAY

Keeping your business to yourselves

CHAPTER (7) REASONS WHY RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

CHAPTER (8) FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

CHAPTER (9) INTERRACIAL CONNECTION

Mixing Things Up

CHAPTER (10) ZODIAC LOVERS

Knowing Your Love Sign & Building a Better Connection

CHAPTER (11) KNOWING EACH OTHER’S FLAWS

Asking Important Questions about Each Other Before Being Invested

CHAPTER (12) OPEN RELATIONSHPS

Taking Your Relationship to a New Level

CHAPTER (13) FAMILY ACCEPTANCE

CHAPTER (14) THE INTERVIEW/QUESTIONS

What Couples Want To Know

CHAPTER 1

THE RESUME

First and foremost let me just start off by saying that MEN please… . stop thinking that because there is a shortage of you running around that every woman alive must lower their standards and date you. There are too many of you men running around here with: (1) no jobs; so you can barely afford to support yourselves let alone pay attention, (2) no education so how the hell would a woman who has gained a higher education even relate to you when your mind is still functioning on a slightly smaller scale, (3) you know you lack in a certain area perhaps your PRIVATE area so with that said you seem to think that a woman should look the other way because she has limited options, and lastly (4) you men who have way too many children to even think that a woman who has none or maybe even one child; should still consider dating you with all the baggage you men come with. Women are not the only individuals walking around with baggage.

This is where THE RESUME comes in at. Women do not raise their standards enough because for years we’ve been put in a category of just being a statistic and accepting that because there are a shortage of men good men we just accept the shortcomings of what men nowadays bring to the table. Men on the other hand knowing their shortcomings do not care about them because they know that there are more then enough women running around here feeling as though because there are a shortage of men good men, that they can date a woman with substance knowing they have nothing to offer in return. So let me explain how THE RESUME works.

Example: I, myself have acquired a tremendous amount of accomplishments so I refuse to allow someone to tell me that I need to lower my standards to find a good man. Should a good man lower his standards to find a woman? If I have a Master’s degree why should I date a man who only possesses a High School Diploma? If I am career oriented in my field making good money; why should I as a grown ass woman lower my standards by dating a man who is barely there or has yet to arrive at his career point? Why should I date a man who has more children then me? Of course we don’t have to date these men; that would be the obvious answer, however for some reason we are expected to lower our standards for these types of men due to the norm that has been built upon us women. We are known to settle, known to accept a mans shortcomings, known to tolerate a mans disrespect, known to be cheated on, known to take care of a man when it is He who should be taking care of us. This is 2012 and that norm is surely about to change.

I like to think of a woman’s worth like a resume! Why? Well, for starters if men approached women as they approached an employer at a job interview they would know what they can and can not offer her and know what they need to bring to the table before pursuing her. The same as a job; women are no different then a job. I want the men to ask themselves this question—would you hire someone who did not live up to the expectations of the jobs functions, would you hire someone with a High School Diploma when the job requires a Bachelor’s Degree, would you hire someone who wasn’t fully qualified and lacked the certifications that the position required? If your answer is NO then why would you expect a woman to lower her standards, worth, and (or) expectations of her ideal man because you like her. Liking a job isn’t going to get you hired; but having the qualifications will. So when approaching a woman I’d like the men to think of a woman like a RESUME or for lack of words a JOB. If you can’t meet the requirements then don’t submit an application because a woman with worth vs. a man with none to give or offer should never be HIRED.

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The Application

When pursing a relationship it’s always best to have a note pad and (or) make a mental note of all the things you require in your potential mate. Having your ideal mate in mind before you think about dating again is extremely important. Without a plan (meaning knowing what you want in a mate) you will continue to fail at finding that one who shares your common interest and or expectations. Doing the ground work such as: first finding out your likes and dislikes so that when you do come across a man/woman you like you need to compare the two by then asking him his likes and dislikes, seeing if you both have hobbies in common so that you don’t go on a meaningless date expecting the other person to want to do the things either of you like or dislike, if you have a child it’s best to find someone who also has a child, finding out that a man/woman doesn’t have a child nor wants a child can be a deal breaker especially if the person you are dating or attempting