The Best Anger Journal: The Interactive 30 Day Cognitive Behavior Retraining Experience

By Carl Robinson

The purpose of this journal is to assist in changing behavior, while helping you understand the difference between problematic and symptomatic issues of pervasive anger. The treatment modalities used in this journal experience will aid you in changing the ways you act and react through what is called cognitive behavioral retraining. As you experience this journal, remember, you must put down that old rusty tool belt and be ready to obtain new tool sets that will help replace some of the dangerous tools you have been using in your old belt. People who say they have changed overnight are not being honest, but small changes with commitment over a period of time can be lasting and meaningful especially while in rebuilding This journal was formulated as a product of various treatment modalities used to touch the lives of people who were in classes and training sessions with me over the last nine to ten years. This information is seriously evidence-based and highly successful in treating behavioral health issues I have been committed to helping our families and communities achieve good mental health. Part of that commitment includes saving relationships and marriages because they make up the core of our civilizations moral fiber foundation. By teaching and training healthier emotional growth, we can restore better mental health, because people suffer mental illness largely because of ill emotional growth.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Apr 25, 2012
• ISBN: 9781469198422

Carl Robinson

Attending Michigan State University, Carl studied Political Science as his minor from 1993 to 1997. Most recently, Carl is the founder and sole contributor to his own political newsletter, The Voice of Reason. Raised in a modest, conservative Christian environment, Carl continues to fight for personal freedoms, limited government, and a return to the Christian principles America was founded on. This book is a unique look at the world around us from a mid-west, grass-roots Republican perspective. No pretenses and absolutely politically incorrect!

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The

Best

Anger Journal

The Interactive Thirty-Day Cognitive

Behavioral Retraining Experience

Carl Robinson, Ph.D.

Copyright © 2012 by Carl Robinson, Ph.D.

Library of Congress Control Number:       2012906585

ISBN:         Hardcover                               978-1-4691-9841-5

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Contents

Foreword

How to Journal

Introduction

Terms

How to Learn

About Anger

Anger Is Symptomatic

How Anger Is Triggered

How Behavior Is Formed

Belief Systems

Understanding Growth in Men

What a Boy Looks For

Understanding Growth in Men:

Like Father, Like Son (Part I)

Understanding Growth in Men:

Like Father, Like Son (Part II)

Understanding Spirituality

Changing Hats

Batterers’ Intervention Placement Program (BIPP)

Domestic Violence Statistics

Texas Women Killed by

Their Intimate Partner in 2003

Domestic Violence: 911 Calls

Domestic Violence:

Laws and Regulations

How to Find the Best Anger

Management Class

Psychological Resilience

Understanding Real Intimacy

What Men and Women

Really Want

What Men and Women

Really Want

What Men and Women

Really Want

What Men and Women

Really Want

Self-Affirmations

Anger Management

Relaxing Thoughts

Who is Dr. Carl Robinson, PhD?

Special thanks

Organizations

Acknowledgments

Foreword

This journal was formulated as a product of various treatment modalities used to touch the lives of people who were in classes and training sessions with me over the last nine to ten years. This information is seriously evidence-based and highly successful in treating behavioral health issues.

I have been committed to helping our families and communities achieve good mental health. Part of that commitment includes saving relationships and marriages because they make up the core of our civilization’s moral fiber foundation.

By teaching and training healthier emotional growth, we can restore better mental health because people suffer mental illness largely because of ill emotional growth.

It is my commitment to see people get healthy. Through my years of conducting evidence-based counseling and classes, I’ve gathered a wealth of knowledge from many different experiences and scenarios that helped me in developing highly effective treatment modalities.

I felt if I was going to be highly effective, I had to learn how to expand my ability and develop a level of thinking that would increase my knowledge and listening skills to reach diverse people who desperately needed my help.

This journal is my extended contribution of my classroom efforts and lifelong experience. What you will learn in this journaling will aid you in your journey to behavioral change.

It is important to read and reread while journaling with expectations for the next twenty-one to thirty days; I believe you will experience some cognitive changes. I call it clicks. After all, that’s what real change is—small increments of difference. Small changes can make a tremendous difference, and when that happens, you will see changes in yourself as well as the change others see in you.

How to Journal

In this journal, I will share insights into emotional intelligence, anger issues, relationship management, emotional intelligence, healthy communication, facts, and thoughts. You will learn more about becoming a healthier, happy you; how men are developed; and what is intimacy, to include important insights into marriage and relationship.

You will also be encouraged to fill journal pages after every segment or chapter read. This, together with the information, will help you in becoming the healthier you that you’ve always wanted to be. Before you continue in this journal, here are five guides to help maximize your journaling journey:

1. Put your current skill sets aside, because you will be learning new additional skill sets. Everyone knows learning something new can be hindered by old ways. Remember, this is supposed to be the new you, not the improved old you. Learning to learn is the key.

2. Don’t read this journal for someone else; read it for yourself and your individual improvement. Remember, your own personal mental health comes first in order to help the next person.

3. Prepare to journal your thoughts and experiences and emotions. Find a quiet place where you can read and relax to take in the information. Remember, change is individual, not group. You can never change other people; the best you can do is change yourself and hope for the best for others.

4. Pay close attention to the terms watch this, write this down, and remember this, as they are verbal footnotes for cognitive change during your journaling journey.

5. Finally, learn the terms and use them in your daily interactions and remember to not only share the insights about the book, but also what you feel and think as a result of the journal experience. Remember, this is an opportunity to help others and to teach and influence, not show what you know or control what someone else thinks.

This is a cognitive behavioral retraining experience that will render new direction for your relationships, ways of thinking, foundation, and personal growth.

Let’s get healthy!

Introduction

The purpose of this journal is to assist in changing behavior, while helping you understand the difference between problematic and symptomatic issues of pervasive anger. The treatment modalities used in this journal experience will aid you in changing the ways you act and react through what is called cognitive behavioral retraining.

As you experience this journal, remember, you must put down that old rusty tool belt and be ready to obtain new tool sets that will help replace some of the dangerous tools you have been using in your old belt. People who say they have changed overnight are not being honest, but small changes with commitment over a period of time can be lasting and meaningful especially while in rebuilding processes.

With every new tool set comes a new skill set. You would not benefit using a new tool set the way you used the old one, because new tools would require more innovative ways and usage. So then, old tools become obsolete because of the lack of effectiveness when it comes to making changes. Old skills and old ways may be comfortable to you, but they may be very hurtful and harmful to the people you use them on. That raggedy screwdriver does more damage even though you just put fresh duct tape on it for better grip and comfort, and it feels good to you.

Over this twenty-one-to thirty-day period of time, you will gain new insight into cognitive reconstruction, understand new skills and tools, and a sense of self-realization that will aid you in problem solving and the use of healthy communication skill sets.

In my over twenty-six years of experience in conducting evidence-based anger management and life skill classes, I have found that most people are not proactive; they would rather try to fix it themselves.

In some cases, they have come to the classes with the same I can fix it mind-set. I quickly address that before it becomes an issue. I quickly explain to them that they should not bring their skill set and tool sets to this class, because that’s what got them here. The purpose and goal is to identify the issues and separate