A Piece of Man Is Better Than No Man: A Work in Progress

By B.J. Young

Most women feel that they are not whole unless they have a man, so they will settle for almost anything that comes along. They feel desperate, especially if they are not married by age of thirty. I hear the young ladies at the beauty salon talking when I go to get my hair fixed, complaining about how they can't find a good man.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Feb 22, 2012
• ISBN: 9781469157498

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Copyright © 2012 by B.J. Young.

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CONTENTS

A Piece Of Man Is Better Than No Man

One Game Too Many

The Money Meant More

Are They Sisters Or Cousins?

The Dealer With A Twist

Two Women/One Wife

Don’t Let Bruce Get Loose

Use Your Head For More Than A Hat Rack

The Devil’s Playground

Girl, You Got Him

Life Is Hard; Just Deal With It

The Memoir Of Mrs. Katy Lynn Jackson

Gypi Dogs On The Prowl

About The Author

A PIECE OF MAN

IS BETTER THAN

NO MAN

Most women feel that they are not whole unless they have a man, so they will settle for almost anything that comes along. They feel desperate, especially if they are not married by the age of thirty. I hear the young ladies at the beauty salon talking when I go get my hair fixed, complaining about how they can’t find a good man.

I sometimes wonder if they ask themselves if they are good women themselves. Okay. Do you have good credit? Do you have a good job? Did you go to college? Do you already have four children with four different daddies? Do you have a car? Do you beg too much? Do you keep a clean house? Can you cook a decent meal? Do you have a lot of debt? Honey, you may have too much baggage.

See, men like women who are independent. They like women who can make it for themselves and are not always running to their mommy and daddy for everything. Sometimes we women are our own enemies.

More questions now. Those four children that you have, are they well behaved, or are they sassy to you? Do you have good hygiene? Do you fix yourself up? Come on now, ladies. Check yourselves to see if you fit in any of these. Do you smoke dope? Do you smoke cigarettes? Do you drink too much? Get angry with me if you want to. I don’t care. I am just telling it like it is.

I got my husband from pure luck—the first two anyway. The last one, I asked the Lord to pick him for me. I finally realized what I was doing wrong. I wasn’t praying for the right man. My husbands were good to me. I had nice homes, nice cars, clothes, and jewelry, but they were whores.

Then I wanted to pay them back. That payback was hell, child. Vengeance is mine, thus says the Lord. I will repay it. If I had just waited on the Lord, I might still be with the first husband I had, but no, I had to do this myself (bad call).

Sometimes we miss a good man because we were so picky. So what if his shoes are a little run-down, his suit is out-of-date, his afro is out of style. If he’s got a car, if he’s got a job and doesn’t live with Mommy, you can help him learn how to fix himself up right. You can teach him to have good manners. You can go to the barbershop with him and kind of express your ideas. If he’s too fat, put him on a diet. Exercise and work out with him.

When you see the results you, will be glad that you did. If you do all these things and he’s still not right and acts like he doesn’t care about anything except a joint and a forty ounce, let him go. Don’t waste any more time on him.

If he’s paying child support to three different women, don’t even stop to talk to him. He’s a loser from the start. Don’t set your sights on breaking up a married man’s home. Always remember this, you reap what you sow. He will court on you too.

Don’t beg all the time, but make sure he does something for you. He’ll care more about you if he’s made an investment. If you don’t watch out, a man will walk all over you, especially if he thinks you are weak.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Don’t let him move in with you. Let him know if you are good enough to live with you, you are good enough to marry.

If you are dating and have a commitment but you keep catching him with other women, let him go. You already know he is no good. If he tells you up front he does not want to marry and you do want marriage someday, keep stepping; he is not for you. Give him credit for one thing though, which is being honest.

Even if you don’t get married, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Keep yourself a cookie jar with money in it. Save some extra money that he doesn’t know about. Baby, all marriages are not made in heaven. You may say, Well, that’s being dishonest. No, baby, that’s being smart.

Don’t jump in bed with a man on your first date; let him wait for you for a while. He will appreciate you more. Don’t be too bossy and insecure. You will run him off like that. Give him some air, and get you some air. Don’t act like the two of you are Siamese twins.

Beauty comes from within. It’s not always about how pretty you are. I see a lot of big girls with nice-looking men who are good to them. It is really how you present yourself.

Don’t talk about a man’s momma even if she is an evil bitch. Men love their mommas. Always remember that even if she doesn’t like you, you don’t worry about it. If you treat her son right, she will come around after a while, especially if she can see that he’s really happy with you.

When he takes you to meet his momma and daddy, dress like a lady. Practice being more ladylike; don’t say that’s not you. If it’s not, maybe you should try being like that. Maybe you will land a good man. I’m not saying you should change your whole personality. Just tweak it a little bit. See, remember, you will be a mother-in-law someday too, and you will find yourself being just like his momma. Mothers are very protective of their sons for some reason.

If a man won’t work to take care of himself, he won’t work to take care of you either. Don’t give him your money. If he needs a loan, make him sign a contract. You cannot buy a man.

Don’t let him always be driving your car. If he doesn’t have a car, you don’t need him anyway. If you let him drive your car, he will drive another woman around in it if he is no good. I have witnessed that.

Try not to marry anyone three years older or younger than you. Men burn out before women do. If you marry a man fifteen or twenty years older than you, you will be sorry because someday, just like you, he’s going to keep aging too.

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