Achieving Happiness: How to boost the confidence, self-esteem, success, and happiness of those that matter to you - it's as 'Easy as ABC'

By Jeremy Glynn

Achieving Happiness tells the story of how the author overcame his own self-imposed limitations and then worked as a therapist, coach, and facilitator of psychological workshops, before creating Mindset Priming - a fascinating coaching approach, linking psychology and kinesiology, that "does for coaching what colour did for black-a

• Language: English
• Publisher: Pathfinders
• Release date: Dec 24, 2020
• ISBN: 9781838301910

Jeremy Glynn

Jeremy's background is that he was the first facilitator in Europe teaching a branch of kinesiology that put people in touch with, and helped them progress towards, their ideal future. In parallel with that, for 30 years, he ran cognitive psychology workshops in boardrooms, across Europe and America, where businesses needed to unleash the potential of their people and achieve significant change. He has combined those concepts, with the kinesiology techniques that he pioneered in Europe, to create his 'Mindset Priming' approach which puts his clients in touch with their highest aspirations, and demonstrably removes any self-sabotage that has been inhibiting their progress. An inspired, and experienced, coach said of Mindset Priming "it does for coaching what colour did for black-and-white television - it takes it to a whole new level". His passion is to share these concepts as widely as possible so that individuals can fulfil their potential and coaches can give a much more profound level of support to their clients.

Book preview

Part 1

Introduction

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.

William James

The origins of this book

Having developed this very powerful approach, that integrates kinesiology and psychology, I have often said if I were to die without having taught other people how to use the approach, it would be a terrible waste.

The decision to get writing was given some urgency when talking with Olympic medallists Steve Backley and Roger Black (both of whom had greatly benefitted from kinesiological support).

Roger told me, The man who helped me with kinesiology was very old, and he died before he could write a book. He then looked me up and down (I considered myself to be 69 years young at the time) and continued You’d better start writing!.

On the one hand they told me I needed to produce a book that alerted athletes, aspiring sports stars, and their coaches to the process that would enable them to raise their aspirations, and expectations, by putting them in touch with their inner self-belief. On the other hand they commented that over the last ten years the support given to athletes and competitors in this vital area had greatly deteriorated (at least in the UK).

With their encouragement, and support, I began using this integrated approach with both Olympic, and Paralympic, competitors and prospects, with the aim of boosting their successes in the 2016 Games in Rio and in the World Championships in London in 2017.

The original book’s title, ‘The Inside Track’, came from the fact that, in distance running events, the inside track is the shortest and quickest route to success, which I still think is an excellent description of what my approach will help you to enjoy.

My ‘ABC’ model

I created the ‘ABC’ model to help my clients recognise that, if they wanted to be happier, or improve some aspect of their life, then making successful and lasting change was as easy as ABC.

The model helps them to look at the interactions between their Aspirations, their current Behaviour, their Conditioning and their Description of themselves.

There are inevitably a great many concepts that interact with each other in the complex field of Cognitive Psychology and I found it hard to present them in a coherent form until I developed the ‘ABC’ model.

At a simple level the model helps you understand the need to address the underlying reasons that you get ‘stuck’ at your current levels of performance. I am convinced that when you understand and apply the concepts for yourself you will have a far better chance of achieving the changes and improvements that you hope for.

I am persuaded that far too few people understand that the simplest and most comfortable way to get to ‘A’ (whatever you are aspiring to) from ‘B’ (your current behaviour or performance level) is to focus on ‘C’ (your conditioning) and ‘D’ (your subconscious description of yourself).

I have come across very few people who have the knowledge and techniques required to really focus on ‘D’ – which is probably the most critical element of the change process.

For now, I will just ask you to focus on the fact that the ‘ABC’ model illustrates that your free-flowing behaviour will be driven by your inner description of yourself. It follows that sustainable (and comfortable) change is best achieved by initially adjusting that inner description, and then letting the behaviour progressively follow.

I created the ‘ABC’ model from what I call ‘The Pinnacle of Happiness’ – a model and concept that presented itself to me one night about 20 years ago.

The ‘Pinnacle of Happiness’

If you bring the four elements of the ‘ABC’ model together like this, you have an equilateral triangle with ‘Behaviour’ in the centre, flanked by ‘Conditioning’ and ‘Aspirations’, with ‘Description of yourself’ underneath.

If you then imagine that there are hinges all around the ‘Behaviour’ triangle, by folding up the other three elements, you end up with a three-dimensional shape in which each side is connected to all of the other three.

There is an interaction that takes place within us all, not only between each of the four faces of the Pinnacle but also between each level of consciousness.

This diagram illustrates how each of the four faces has concentric triangles with the conscious level of thought in the centre, progressing through the subconscious level to the unconscious level, and out to the many auric levels beyond.

When (in coaching mode) I am clearing trauma from a client’s past memories, and when I teach the concepts, the model makes it easy for people to understand how and where past trauma has impacted and inhibited them, until now.

In my training programme I help coaches to look in depth at the ‘Pinnacle’ model and recognise that, without additional techniques, their clients’ aspirations, beliefs, and fears, lurking deeper than the conscious level, are for most of them completely