Pick up Korea: A Guide to Successfully Picking up and Dating Korean Women

By K Kether

This book is the result of 10 years of experience dating Korean women and coaching other guys to success in dating Koreans. You will learn how to approach, text, date, and maintain relationships with Korean women in a way that shows an understanding of their cultural blueprint in order to achieve the success you deserve!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kether
• Release date: Jan 30, 2020
• ISBN: 9781648269660

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MISSION OF THE BOOK:To provide a general overview and in-depth insights into game as it pertains to such a life in South Korea and to provide tips to improve one's romantic love life whether that be to have sex with as many women as possible, to have sex with the type of woman most desired by the reader, to land a girlfriend, to improve an existing relationship, to get married, or to pursue a similar option long these lines.

One also finds that as they accrue more experience and learn more about themselves and women, their goals naturally tend to adjust in conjunction with their own internal evolution and path. One may start out with the goal of wanting to have as much sex with as many people as possible, and then slowly gravitating towards more attractive partners who are a better fit into their lifestyle and personality.

This book is greater than the sum of its parts in that it touches upon many facets of society from evolutionary psychology, the survival of the fittest, and procreation. Other areas such as female psychology in general, the chemistry between men and women, and why sex happens between individuals, and how one can increase their chance in the dating pool is also a cornerstone of the content that lies within these pages. To understand dating, one has to understand the individual parts that function in unison, only then can it all be brought together.

As the reader dives deeper into the dating market place in Korea, we will have a look at the history of the country, including its unique culture and value system so that one is better able to understand the reason Koreans behave and think as they do; rather than blaming them for being just different as many other people seem to do. Not only will this help the gamer navigate through the landscape in a way that is calibrated to the local populace, but the reader will also be able to display knowledge of their world and break through the perception of being a mere alien from another planet to that of a relatable renaissance man from a distant land who’s not that different than them.

This book provides extensive blocks of realistic dialog written in Korean, with the English translation provided. While learning Korean is not a necessity in this endeavour, it certainly helps a lot to speed up the process of connection, communication, and relatability as well as cast a wider net - especially to hotter women. Learning a language is easy for some and more difficult for others, but investing 30 minutes a day will not only expand the pool of available date partners, but it will also make life more enjoyable in Korea as well as add a level of depth to the interactions you have with Koreans, both men, and women, young and old.

Terminology Note

This book uses several typographic conventions to help the reader. Game Terminology is marked with (GT) Important Korean vocabulary includes the closest pronunciation in [brackets] and the English translation in (parenthesis). The Glossary contains information about both Korean Terms and Game Terminology with more in depth explanations for the reader to reference.

What is Game and Where Can I Download it?

WE’RE NOT TALKING ABOUT the type of games kids play or a cheesy app to kill time on your commute. There are many myths surrounding game as to what it exactly is and why one should learn it. Some think that game is some magical set of verbal and physical routines and lines that tricks the girl into having sex with you via manipulation tactics. Others think that game is about getting into state and hyping yourself up into a woo-woo feel-good frenzy. Others think game is having a lot of money or building social status or good looks! Newsflash: It is none of these.

To first define what game is, it’s best to eradicate myths and misunderstandings of what it isn’t. First of all, game is not an empty set of pre-planned routines and magic tricks. It is not flashy displays of value that con a women into having sex. The root of this misunderstanding is from the early days of the "Mystery Method (GT)" which advocated the use of canned lines and stories. While this approach did allow men to go out and socialize with women and have a small degree of success from mass approaching, it failed to address the fundamental mindsets, behaviors, and sub communications of the gamer and also completely ignored how females actually experience men. In addition, it did nothing to improve the internal mindsets of the gamer and how they progress along the journey. Mere words and stories do nothing to undo bad mental frames, emotional blocks, and thought patterns that are holding a gamer back and indeed acts like a band aid over a deep wound... never fixing or addressing the underlying issues lurking underneath. This led to men often connecting with lower-quality, insecure women who were too emotionally/mentally deranged to see through this facade. Occasionally a gamer following the Mystery Method might rarely connect with a good woman here or there, but the short-sightedness of the system usually results in the gamer not being able to keep them around when she found out who they really were behind the smoke and mirrors. The next set of misunderstandings about game is the opposite of routine stacks as previously explained: that merely being in a feel good state is game itself and nothing more. This school of thought comes from the emergence of the biggest pick up company, Real Social Dynamics (RSD - GT). While RSD did move out of the routine-based game paradigm and came with a lot of pioneering inner game concepts, they went off the deep end into the self-help and woo-woo feel good side of things. These do indeed have some application in game, but are not the core-principles of it. As a result of RSD, a generation of gamers thought that jumping around, yelling, and pumping your state up would get you amazing results with women. These same gamers were led to take expensive online program after expensive online program in hopes of improving their results, but were never taught the fundamentals that actually lead to consistent results. Also RSD eventually moved into the self-help space thus drifting from teaching Game as we know it.

Therefore, if none of the definitions provided thus far fit the definition of game, then how should it be defined? The answer is that: Game is the actualization of one’s internal value plus the ability to remain relaxed and expressive while reading the girls subjective emotional state in order to connect and lead the interaction forward towards a romantic/sexual experience (GT).

Phew, that was a mouthful, and don’t worry if formal and textbook definitions were not your strong suit in school, we will unpack it all in the upcoming chapters. As will be seen, there are mindsets, personality traits, and behavioral shifts that must occur in order to be proficient in game as defined in the above statement. It is important to note, you do not have to change your personality to that of a super social dude that loves to party in order to get girls, nor is just being yourself enough. The age old advice of just be yourself is half-correct. What the quote should actually say is: be your true, best self!

This book will assist the reader in this process and journey by helping to uninstall or even disprove suboptimal mindsets and behaviors that hamper the game process and install those which strengthen it by providing a new upgraded operating system. This will help you to see yourself and women in a new light and thus transform the way you interact with them and improve your results with them. The keyword here is help. There is no magic bullet. Making a few, major and minor adjustments in behaviors and mindsets will change your reality.

Sit back, take in each tip, and implement it to the best of your ability. This book isn’t meant to be read only once, and you may find you get something new from the same chapter as you re-read it from a different angle with more experience later on down the line. Also keep in mind that while this book will certainly be an entertaining and interesting read, it is not meant to be info-tainment or used as some mental masturbation novel. This book is meant to be a life-changing manual that shows how to take necessary action and to reinforce mindsets cultivated throughout the process. Each stage will provide its own fleeting excitement and rushes of ecstasy as one begins to get closer to the perception that results with women are within your grasp. On the other hand, as one gets closer to accepting this reality, the world, and women fully, one may also experience growing pains, discomfort, and ego-panic. If one is able to both appreciate the good experiences while riding out the tough ones, they are in for an amazing odyssey of self-transformation and life of abundance with women they could only fantasize about in the past.

"Divinity lies within... don't look to the churches, or to the big marbled institutions... your divinity lies within... you must learn to operate your brain, operate your soul... learn how to communicate, brain to brain, soul to soul, with other people... "

-Timothy Leary

Table of Contents

Once Upon a Time in the Land of the Morning Calm: Pick up Korea  Background

Korean Culture as it Pertains to the Dating Marketplace

Daygame

Nightgame

Gotta Catch‘em all: Types of Korean Girls

Work Them Fingers Boyz - Texting Korean Girls

Dates: Give Love a Chance

Thus Spoke Kether: Questions, Insights, and Experiences

Stories From the Vault: Experiences that Changed My Game

Inner Game Guide

Spread Thy Seed!: Challenges/Missions

Relationship Dynamics: What are we now?

The Future in the Land of the Morning Calm

Bonus Section: Game Phrases in Korean

Chapter 1: Once Upon a Time in the Land of the Morning Calm: Background of Pick Up Korea

SOUTH KOREA IS A COUNTRY with a long and complex history and it is helpful to understand some fundamental historical and cultural elements in order to gain a clearer understanding of the mindsets and behaviors of the women and men that you’ll be interacting with on this journey. Prior to the 2002 World Cup, South Korea was a country rarely visited by foreigners and the pop culture wave known as Hallyu (한류) had yet to take place.

It wasn’t until 1993 that South Korea actually became a legitimate democracy and opened up internationally. Time magazine published an article on Korea that outlined the miracle on the Han (river) on how South Korea rose from the ashes of the Korean War. It went from being one of the poorest countries with a GDP similar to Zimbabwe and other Sub Saharan African nations to climbing into the ranks of the world’s top 15 GDP’s, putting it on par with some of the most developed European nations within a couple generations. This quick development from a devastated war-torn nation to a developed nation that produces some of the best technology and pop culture in the world is said to have been the fastest in human history! However, this rapid development also had side effects and consequences in the mindsets and behavior of the people. While external development can take place within a quick period, internal socio-cultural behaviors take much longer to change in a culture with thousands of years of rich tradition.

Korea was traditionally known as the hermit kingdom because it chose to isolate itself from external influences. This long isolation resulted in the development of its own unique group-culture dynamics as well as societal norms influenced by Confucianism. In Korean society there are established hierarchies based on age, position within the family and company, or relationships. The grammar and vocabulary usage also widely varies depending on the person and their relationship to you by employing a complex system of honorifics.

This is a crucial distinction as this is different from the English language and Western cultures (hereafter comprising North America and most of Europe). How one is perceived by the group is very important. Identification or assimilation into one’s position within the greater group is mandatory. This kind of thinking and lifestyle is based on Confucianism, but this does not mean that one has to study Buddhism, Confucianism, and Taoism in great detail to understand South Korean culture. Those who come from Western countries that emphasize the freedom of the individual, where one’s relative social identity is quite fluid and malleable. It is often the case that many people have trouble relating or understanding this vastly different social structure. More often than not, foreigners arrive in Korea and view or interact with the society through their own inherited cultural lens and preconceptions. This often leads to frustration and the retreat of expats into their own insular enclaves cut off from the very culture that they live in.

Thus, the aim of this book is not simply to help you bang as many beautiful korean girls as possible, although that certainly is a large part of this book and of living in Korea, but instead to bridge the gap that exists between foreigners and Koreans. In doing so, it will help facilitate romantic/sexual relations between them, provide a greater understanding, and improve communication for better overall relationships, rather than hiding behind impenetrable walls as the case has been for many expatriates in Korea.

My Origin Story

UPON FIRST COMING TO Korea I recall reading reports of pick up artists and instructors who had come to Korea and pronounced that Korean girls seemed prudish and unreceptive. Other reports said Korea was too tough to crack so the ‘experts’ gave advice to focus on the girls who had lived abroad and were interested in foreigners, a.k.a. foreigner-hunters. Unfortunately, as the reader is likely well-aware, these foreigner-hunters are typically not the most physically attractive Korean women. This is because in a given foreign non-european, non-English speaking society the hottest girls are often less motivated or inclined to learn English (unless they are from the very high class families). Regardless of the culture, beautiful women generally live pampered lives, with every whim and desire provided for. These women led lives of relative comfort, which rarely require strenuous academics, learning foreign languages, or competing in the job world. They are cordoned off from wider society - they travel in expensive cars, dine in expensive restaurants, and spend time in exclusive private clubs. To the average foreigner who doesn't speak the language, these women are not realistically approachable or available. However, learning game and learning Korean opens the door to meeting women who populate this tier of society.

It was very clear that another approach was needed in a country that had such a radically different culture, one which is almost the opposite of the west in many ways. I also came upon another group who claimed to have Korea figured out, but the more I saw them approach, it was very clear that they didn’t understand it at all, and weren’t successful with girls considered hot by local standards, let alone average foreign hunters. They used a quirky Mystery Method-based structure with outdated Western game theories overlaid with a slapstick-style animated behavior. The group turned out later to be a cultish multi-level marketing scheme that wasted a lot of guys time energy and money while negatively impacting their mental health and attitudes towards women.

I personally decided to take a completely different approach by diving deep into the culture, language, and mindsets of Korean people. This uncharted territory was ripe and ready to be harvested by an adventurous foreigner.

Upon arrival, I enrolled in a one-year language course. While learning the language is not absolutely necessary for success with women here, it certainly does help cast a wider net. Language and culture are so intertwined that when you learn a language, you also adapt a unique set of lenses which allows you to see how that society views themselves and the world. This helps not only with communication, but also understanding the world of the girls and creates a sense of immediate familiarity. Even if you study-up on the culture, without the language you are missing particular nuances and cultural subtext.

When I was studying the language and reaching a degree of proficiency, I concentrated on dating only Koreans and searched for and gamed with good Korean wingmen who had success with local women. Luckily, I had a hometown friend and who became my wingman on this mission to crack the Korean code. He will be referred to as "Mr. A. I also found a few Korean naturals along the way. Some of the lessons in this book were things that I extracted from gaming with these guys in my early days. Additional lessons are the result of rigorous trial and effort, with Mr. A. Many of these behaviors and lessons were the complete opposite of what was being taught in books like The Game" and other available pick up material.

Thus, for the reader and the next generation of foreign gamers who plan to journey to the land of the morning calm, as Korea is known, this book will save you time, blood, sweat, and tears by avoiding the need to test out things that don’t work well with Korean girls, but instead provide tried and true applicable methods for the masses! Even so, that doesn’t mean you still won’t fail or won’t have to put in the work. You will still have to put in effort (in the form of reps/approaches) to get the required base level of reference experience to improve your interactions. This means you will need to dedicate time to this to seriously improve your results. These experiences can only be understood if you know the theory behind it.

Over nine years of direct experience culminated in the writing of this book. It is also backed up with years of private coaching clients. While many claims can seem hyperbolic or over-the-top, it is verifiable that the clients