The Divorce Handbook
By Keaton Hoskins and Ashley Johanna
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Going to War with yourself will be the most taxing, but beneficial thing you do for yourself and the people around you during your divorce. We will dive into my personal life and the struggle I had during and after my divorce, but more importantly what got my head above water again and helped me not only survive, but thrive. Are you prepared to heave yourself over the crossroads when they come? Will you turn back or will you go to war with yourself and finally reach the peak of happiness you deserve?
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The Divorce Handbook - Keaton Hoskins
Copyright © 2021 Keaton Hoskins
& Ashley Johanna Sweat
All rights reserved.
Table of Contents
Title Page
Copyright Information
DEDICATION
CHAPTER ONE ARE YOU READY TO GO TO WAR WITH YOURSELF?
CHAPTER TWO LEARNING TO HATE YOUR EXCUSES:
CHAPTER THREE EITHER IT WAS LOVE, OR YOU’RE THE PROBLEM
CHAPTER FOUR YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE
CHAPTER FIVE THE WAY YOU SPEAK ABOUT YOUR EX SAYS MORE ABOUT YOU THAN IT DOES ABOUT THEM.
CHAPTER SIX EMOTIONLESS DECISIONS AND DEALING WITH YOUR EX.
CHAPTER SEVEN IT’S TIME TO MOVE FORWARD
CHAPTER EIGHT CO-PARENTING
CHAPTER NINE LEARNING TO BE ALONE
CHAPTER TEN LFG
INTERVIEW
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
THANK YOU
DEDICATION
I want to dedicate this book to my ex-wife, my children, and all those who feel lost during a divorce.
CHAPTER ONE
ARE YOU READY TO GO TO WAR WITH YOURSELF?
There are a few questions you’ll need to ask yourself before even beginning this book. The first and most obvious: Are you ready to go to war with yourself? The battle is just that. You’ll need to fight against the nature of your being—fight who you’ve been to become who you want to be.
If you feel like you are ready and willing to accept the hard truths, then here are some questions you’ll need to answer first: Are you ready to take full responsibility for your divorce? Are you ready to accept your own flaws and failures? Are you ready to discover and face your own demons? Are you willing to look at yourself and your life and accept that you are where you are because of the choices you’ve made? Are you ready to sit in your pain? Will you run from it? Will you try to escape it with drugs, alcohol, toxic relationships, toxic behavior, etc.? Are you strong enough to say what your faults are, out loud, and accept the responsibility of change?
This book isn’t about me patting you on the back and telling you how horrible you have it. No sitting around a campfire and singing kumbaya as we bash your ex and say all the things they did to get you to this place.
You did it. You walked the path that brought you to this place, and the sooner you can accept that, the better. This book isn’t about your ex. It isn’t about how terrible you had it. It isn’t called How to Deal With a Monster in Divorce. It’s about you.
This book is to help you understand yourself. To help you grow and change. I’m making this book because I want to help you do that. I want to help you get through your divorce. Divorce is hard. You will have to go to war with yourself—a battle cornered on self-reflection. You can’t control someone else, so why even try? It’s time to take accountability, take action, and be your best self.
The sooner you take responsibility for your past and present, the better you can create the future you seek.
Take time to accept responsibility. Your life is exactly that—it's your life. It is created by you. You are constantly making choices, constantly creating new experiences. And although we can be affected by circumstances which can seem to be completely out of our control, essentially, we decide the direction in which we walk.
—Nicholas Watkins
As you now know, I went through a divorce. I’ve been there. I’ve had the feelings you’re having. I’ve been on my knees at night, crying. I’ve lost hope. I’ve tried to push blame. I’ve tried to cope. I’ve done it all.
I got through it, and so will you. I wish I’d had someone ask me the hard questions and give me the hard answers. Nobody will be able to tell you how to get through a divorce unless they’ve been through it themselves. And if they haven’t, most of us wouldn’t want to hear from them. I will walk you through it, tell you my story, and be open about what I did and didn’t do right. It was my fault, and I’ll be the first one to say it. It was time for me to grow; to go to war with myself, and in turn, find out who I wanted to be.
If you are not in a place where you can stand in front of a mirror and see your own faults, then not only address them but attack them at their core, you’ll read this book and be defensive the entire time. I will not be able to help you. You will be so consumed by this other person and what they did, that you will not be able to change the only thing you can change: yourself. This situation will not only affect you, but everyone around you. You’re the driver; you can lead them down a dark, long, and depressing tunnel, or you can create a path to a place of fulfillment and positivity that negatively affects the fewest people. That’s the goal. You are unhappy and