A Man's Guide To Surviving Marriage In The 21st Century: Standalone Religion, Philosophy, and Politics Books
By Paul Haedo
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Marriage in the 21st century seems at first glance to be a road paved with sharp and painful stones, for men at least. And in many ways this is so. This small book aims to change that, by giving men knowledge that can serve as a strong foundation for navigating marriage in the 21st century.
Topics that are covered:
The general arrangement of marriage laws.
What makes marriage in many cases disadvantageous for men.
What women look for in a man that they wish to marry.
Why the state, not women, is to blame for why marriage is the way that it is for men.
How a man can best get out of a disadvantageous marriage.
How a man should live his life if he cannot find an advantageous marriage to enter.
Paul Haedo
Paul Haedo is an author, poet, philosopher, and all-around free spirit, who enjoys the twin joys of writing and reading in his spare time. Paul believes that there is no limit to the number of genres and topics that one can read and write about. An all-around reader and author is something to aspire to according to him, not shy away from. Such a sentiment is reflected all throughout Paul's total body of work. It is reflected in the many topics that he writes about, in the different arguments that he proposes, and in the worlds that he creates. No matter the topic, or the book, Paul tackles it just the same, with an intense passion for wisdom, and a great desire to see others share in the wisdom and joy of reading and writing.
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A Man's Guide To Surviving Marriage In The 21st Century - Paul Haedo
Introduction
In the modern age, marriage at first glance seems to be a rotten deal for men. Wherever you turn, you hear stories about the travesty that is modern marriage for men. Some even compare it to the chattel slavery of old, instead of chains, a man is imprisoned through legal contracts and signatures. Instead of the whip, a man is prodded through the threat and in many cases real possibility of losing everything that he has worked so hard to obtain.
Yet the answer to this dilemma is not as simple as one may initially suspect. Yes, compared to times of yore, the institution of marriage has changed drastically, in many ways for the better, but also in many ways for the worst. Nowadays, marriage is not forced upon the man or the woman nearly as much as it once was. The ability to love and date a partner has expanded, from the forced courting ritual and exclusively heterosexual pairings of old, to the now casual dating and free sexual orientation pairings of now.
For women especially, the liberty of choice is a great thing. No one can argue, unless one views goodness through an exclusively traditionalist lens, that women are not better off today with how the institution of marriage has changed, compared to how they were back in the day, before the institution of marriage had changed to the form that it is today.
Yet the dilemma that we will be focusing on is marriage in regard to men, and it is the male side of the marital equation that we will now focus on for the rest of this book. This book is not intended to be a great treatise on the entirety of marriage, nor is it intended to be an academic paper that researches this vast topic in its entirety. Instead, it is more akin to a pamphlet of knowledge, the purpose of this work is to educate men and the broader society as to the general benefits and disadvantages of marriage for men in the modern age.
We end the introduction with the following note. This work is not intended for use as an axe or wrecking ball against the institution of marriage. Much as light from the sun serves as a source of illumination, allowing one to see things that could not normally be seen in the dark of the night, the same is so for this work.
This work serves as illumination upon the institution of marriage. It allows those who read it to see the institution of marriage, and all of her imperfections, faults, and beautifully polished surfaces. Whether the information contained in this book is used to criticize or praise, that is wholly dependent on the reader. However, much as the axiom of sunlight is the best disinfectant is used whenever someone disagrees with bringing things to light, the same is so for marriage. Only by witnessing the faults and imperfections, can one truly appreciate the beautifully polished surfaces of marriage.
Marital Laws
We jump immediately into the topic of marital laws. One could argue that the vast majority of marriage is simply a unified set of laws, and such an argument will be a powerful one, in many cases it will be the truth. Marriage serves as an institution that is designed to protect, uplift, and ensure stability. That is why marriage was invented by humans, and it is why marriage continues to be used in order to meet those objectives, even now in the modern age.
However, the marital laws that give marriage its power to improve the lives of those who enter the institution, also give marriage its teeth of enforcement. Because of this, we begin with marriage laws, because most, if not all of the criticisms that one can hear regarding marriage, originate from the marital laws.
The first of the marital laws that we will discuss, and a law that is more or less universal across all of the different forms of marriage that can be found across the different cultures of the world, is the law of unification. Unification in the sense of finances, of legal entities, and of everything that distinguishes an individual from another.
What is the purpose of such unification? In nearly all cultures it is to create the human relationship unit known as a ‘family’. Family in the sense and form of a nuclear family, meaning a man and a woman, which results in offspring. In different cultures, the human relationship unit known as a family can also evolve into the unit of a clan, and the clan can then evolve into the unit of a tribe. However, such units tend to be archaic, superseded in many ways by the advent of civilization, which prefers the unit of family as the sole and largest human relationship unit.
Because of this, we will be focusing on the human relationship unit known as a family, specifically the nuclear family. A nuclear family is united in finances, in the legal entity sense, and in responsibility for the children, which until the age of adulthood, are autonomous but still subservient entities to their parents. Unification, and crucially, the maintenance of this unification, is the foundation of marriage, and many of the problems that can be seen with marriage arise from the efforts of marriage.
Following on the heels of unification, marriage also serves as a tool of the government and the state. Marriage is an adaptable tool, able to serve any number of purposes for the government of a nation. Some of these purposes could include the augmentation of fertility in the population. Other purposes could be the corralling of either men or women, or both men and women at once. Another purpose can be the more efficient cultivation of wealth for purposes of taxation and GDP growth in the economy. We will explore each of these purposes, and then return to the foundation of unity.
Firstly, the augmentation of fertility. Like the other two purposes that we will cover soon, this is an example of marriage taking away some of the liberty from those who are single and not in a bond of marriage. With the exception of a few nations with extensive government social and welfare services, procreation tends to be an expensive affair, that in many cases is borne exclusively by the parents, and in many cases, borne at least in the financial sense by the man of the family.
Here we find the first problem of marriage, one that is very often mentioned as one of the main criticisms of marriage, especially by married men. The need to pay, the need to buoy the entire family financially, the need to pay the taxes and obligations that marriage levies upon the family unit. This all originated historically because married women were encouraged and, in many cases; forced to labor domestically, and the married men were encouraged to labor outside of the home, in order to earn money and currency to keep the family unit sustained. This oppresses both genders strongly, the married men especially due to their obligations of financial sustainment.
Nowadays, due to immense pressure by women and others, the domestic duties of women, especially the part where they are forced into doing them, has been lifted. The financial duties of married men, however; have not been lifted nearly as much as the domestic duties of married women. This is primarily because of the interests of the state. The state can afford to ease the boot off of the neck of married women, the state would rather it not