Stop Arguing and Start Talking...: Even if you are afraid your only answer is divorce!

By Laurie Weiss

Are You Squabbling Instead of Communicating?

Do you end up spiraling into an argument whenever you try to talk about problems? Are you afraid the only answer is a divorce? Would you like to get your relationship back on track? If you love your partner but desperately want their understanding as to why you’r

• Language: English
• Publisher: Empowerment Systems Books
• Release date: Apr 12, 2019
• ISBN: 9781949400151

Laurie Weiss

After more than 40 years practicing psychotherapy and coaching, Dr. Laurie Weiss had no intention of starting a new phase of her career. Then a colleague helped her resolve her persistent, hypersensitivity to noisy places, using an amazing new technique. She was astounded that he did it in just a few minutes, while standing on the sidewalk outside a restaurant, using only words.Dr. Weiss was so intrigued with this recently discovered tool that she and her husband, Dr. Jonathan B Weiss, went to Nova Scotia, Canada, to learn to help their clients make important life changes in a fraction of the time, and with a fraction of the pain ordinarily associated with psychotherapy.Four years and considerable studying later, they became the only Certified Master Logosynthesis® Practitioners and Basic Trainers in the United States.Being innovative was nothing new to Laurie Weiss. Encouraged by her parents to be independent, at age 14, in 1954, she talked the local druggist into hiring her as his first delivery girl! As a teenager, Dr. Weiss read science fiction stories about how ordinary people could do extraordinary things and was determined to find the right teachers to help her learn to do those things too.Living in Chicago, she traveled the United States and Canada as a Senior Girl Scout and decided she wanted to live in Colorado. She became fascinated by science, won awards, was invited to work in a medical laboratory and apprenticed as a medical technician.She met her husband-to-be about a week after she transferred to the University of Colorado. The Weisses returned to Chicago for his graduate work where she supported them as a laboratory technician until she was encouraged to use her skills to teach science.Again she became fascinated by something new, the best-selling book "Games People Play," as a tool for classroom management. In 1969, they moved their young family to Colorado to introduce Transactional Analysis in the Denver area while continuing to study and teach and develop their own work.Their first book, "Recovery from CoDependency: It's Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Childhood," sold 40,000 copies. Acclaimed by John Bradshaw as the only psychotherapists who used a true developmental approach to Inner Child work, they taught at Addiction Recovery conferences for several years.Laurie Weiss has long believed that ordinary people can learn to help themselves solve all kinds of problems if only they have the right tools. Through her teaching and writing, she has specialized in making those tools accessible to anyone. She is known for her expertise in writing in a way that makes complex professional information usable by ordinary people.At different times throughout her career she has developed expertise in and taught:•Science Teaching in grade school•Using Transactional Analysis in the classroom•Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy•Codependency Recovery•Developmentally Based Psychotherapy•Feminist Therapy•Ethics in Psychotherapy•Relationship Development (and Healing)•Personal and Business Relationship Communication•Coaching•Rapid Stress and Anxiety Relief (Logosynthesis)She earned an MA in Psychology and a Ph.D. in Health and Human Services while practicing, writing and raising her family. She is certified as a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst, and Master Certified Coach.She is the author of eight books, several ebooks and numerous articles. Her work has been translated into German, Chinese, Spanish, French, Portuguese.Married in 1960, both Drs. Weiss have traveled extensively, teaching in 13 different countries. They have two children and five grandchildren.They love mixing business and pleasure and have enjoyed visiting with professional colleagues and friends around the globe. Lately, they have discovered the delights of learning publishing and internet marketing while cruising with friends and colleagues.They live and work in Littleton, Col. USA.

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STOP

ARGUING

And Start Talking

Even if you are afraid

your only answer is divorce!

The Secrets of Happy Relationships Series

DR. LAURIE WEISS

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Empowerment Systems Books

Stop Arguing and Start Talking…

Even if you are afraid your only answer is divorce!

The Secrets of Happy Relationships Series

Dr. Laurie Weiss

© 2019 Laurie Weiss

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The author has done her best to present accurate and up-to-date information in this book, but she cannot guarantee that the information is correct or will suit your particular situation.

This book is sold with the understanding that the publisher and the author are not engaged in rendering any legal, medical, or any other professional services. If expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Library of Congress Control Number: 2018913555

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Ebook 978-1-949400-15-1

Downloadable audio file 978-1-949400-17-5

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Cover: Nick Zelinger, www.NZGraphics.com

Interior Design: Istvan Szabo, Ifj.

Family & Relationships / Marriage & Long-Term Relationships / Self-Help

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Special Bonus

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How to Show Respect—Unconditionally

What does it really mean to treat someone you love with respect?

Do you think you are doing so but your loved one disagrees?

Do you feel that someone doesn’t respect you?

This brief report unravels the mystery you need to understand in order to create the respectful, happy relationship you really want.

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Contents

Special Bonus

Chapter 1: When You Don’t Agree

Chapter 2: He Dragged Me to Counseling

Chapter 3: She Tried to Be a Good Wife

Chapter 4: Most Unhappy Couples Make These Mistakes

Chapter 5: Really Listening

Chapter 6: He Thought He Was A Model Husband

Chapter 7: They Thought It Was an Argument About Money

Chapter 8: Is He Trying to Control You?

Chapter 9 Avoid the Circular-Argument Trap—1

Chapter 10: Avoid the Circular-Argument Trap—2

Chapter 11: Confront the Confusion to Avoid the Fight

Chapter 12: Asking Instead of Manipulating

Chapter 13: Managing Broken Agreements

Chapter 14: How to Get Your ‘Honey Do’ List Done

Chapter 15: Couple’s Communication Counseling Verbatim

Chapter 16: How to Apologize Even When You Didn’t Mean to Cause a Problem

Chapter 17: What Do You Say When the Answer Is No?

Chapter 18: Conversations Build Happy Relationships

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About the Author

How to Work With Dr. Laurie

About the Secrets of Happy Relationships Series

Books in the Secrets of Happy Relationships Series

Other Books by Laurie Weiss

Being Happy Together: What to Do to Keep Love Alive

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Chapter 1:

When You Don’t Agree

Does this sound like you?

This was overheard in the dressing room after aerobics class.

Woman One: After all that hassle about getting a new camping trailer we went on the shakedown trip and my husband says he doesn't really enjoy camping anymore. I told him in the beginning that I thought it was a mistake, but he wouldn't listen. I am so disgusted...

Woman Two: I'm glad I don't have a husband like that.

Woman One: I wish I didn't.

Or would you be a part of this conversation?

This is a new couple at their first counseling session. They are telling me why they have come.

He: She could have told me she was going to leave. After all