Effective Communication In Relationships & Couple Skills: 33+ Skills, Activities & Questions To Help You Better Communicate, Deepen Your Connection & Enhance Intimacy & Passion in Your Life: Relationship and Couple Skills

By FAYE PALMER

Discover How You Can Effectively Communicate In Your Relationship & Develop The Skills For An Ever Deepening Loving Relationship!

As you probably know by now, relationships will have bumps along the road. However, how you manage, communicate & grow through these can either set you on the path to an ever-deepening love or create cracks that never seem to be resolved.

Luckily, that is why we wrote this book.

Firstly, learning to effectively communicate is ESSENTIAL to any kind of healthy & lasting relationship in your life, but is particularly important with your other half.

Learning to communicate will not only help prevent future conflicts, overcome anxiety & increase trust, but it will create the certainty that no matter what happens, you can talk & communicate through it with your partner.

The vitalness of that alone should not be understated, to say the least.

Couple skills are how you will then build on that effective communication together and dive deeper into each other's expectations of the relationship, desires & personalities together.

Not only that, it will provide the framework to consciously connect & grow together, forever.

By combining both the effective communication skills with the Couple Skills you'll develop from reading and applying the information in this book, you will have laid the foundations for the incredible relationship you and your partner deserve.

Here's a tiny preview of what's inside…

• The 5 Keys To ALWAYS Effectively Communicating With Your Partner No Matter The Situation You Find Yourself In
• How To Deal With Conflict In A Healthy Manner That Actually Deals With The Root Issues Consciously
• Discover 10 Fun Activities You And Your Partner Can Do To Keep The Relationship Fresh, Fun & Joyous! (Remember To Have Fun In Life!)
• Find Out If You're Currently Doing Any Of These 3 Things That Could Be Damaging Your Relationship
• 5 Things That ALL Healthy Long-Term Relationships Have And What You Can Apply From Them In Your Own
• 7 Ways You And Your Partner Can Make Each Other Feel Loved And Appreciated In The Relationship
• Discover Why Effective Communication Is Extremely Essential To Laying The Foundations Of A Healthy & Loving Relationship
• 5 Passion Evoking Practices You And Your Partner Can Use Today To Re-Ignite & Keep The Sparks Flying!
• The 10 Positive Communication Habits That Allow For Healthy Expression At ALL Stages Of Your Relationship
• How To Overcome Your 'Toxic Relationship Habits' That Prevent Your Relationship From Truly Flowering & Being The Best Part Of Each Other's Lives!
• Why Communication Is The Key To Building Trust & Security In Your Relationship
• 33+ Skills, Activities & Questions That You Can Use To Deepen The Intimacy, Passion & Connection In Your Relationship!

...And So MUCH More!

Even if your current communication with your partner is far from effective, even if you feel more distant from your partner than ever & even if you think you have no chance of deepening your connection, these teachings will help finally provide the foundations that will benefit the evolution of your relationship more than you could possibly imagine!

 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Syed Publishing Co
• Release date: Jan 23, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393728634

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Effective Communication In Relationships & Couple Skills: 33+ Skills, Activities & Questions To Help You Better Communicate, Deepen Your Connection & Enhance Intimacy & Passion in Your Life

Relationship and Couple Skills

FAYE PALMER

Published by Syed Publishing Co, 2021.

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS & COUPLE SKILLS (2IN1):

33+ SKILLS, ACTIVITIES & QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU BETTER COMMUNICATE, DEEPEN YOUR CONNECTION, ENHANCE INTIMACY & PASSION IN YOUR LIFE

FAYE PALMER

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CONTENTS

Introduction

SECTION 1 THE HOW, WHAT, WHY, WHEN, AND WHERE OF COMMUNICATING IN A RELATIONSHIP:

1. HOW; Effectively Communicating with Your Partner

2. WHAT; Needs and Desires

3. WHY; Dealing with Root Causes

4. WHO; Narrative Therapy in Couples’ Communication

5. WHEN; Recognizing the Crisis Point and the Breaking Point

6. WHERE; Reconsidering Your Environment

SECTION 2 THE HOW, WHAT, AND WHERE OF MAINTAINING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP:

7. Classes Bring Couples Closer Together

8. Perfect Vacations for Couples

9. Fun activities to Keep the Relationship Fresh

10. Sex and Communication and How to Bring it All Together

SECTION THREE THE HOW, WHAT, WHY, WHEN, AND WHERE OF COMMUNICATING IN A BREAKUP

11. The Elephants in the Room

12. Why, When, What, and How to End it Gracefully

13. The How, When, and Where of Moving on from a Breakup

14. The Hows, When, and Whys of Getting Back Together

Conclusion

INTRODUCTION

Many of us are in an intimate, romantic relationship of some kind. And a lot of those relationships aren’t exactly perfect. While nothing truly is, a lot of these relationships can be improved.

Miscommunication or a lack of communication is often the cause of the problem in couples’ relationships. It is both symptomatic and causal of a variety of other significant, even life-threatening conditions. Lack of clear communication destroys relationships of all sorts; romantic, familial, friendly, and professional.

The fact is that, in this information-packed world, communicating clearly is crucial not only to our success but also to your happiness, even our very survival.

Yet shockingly, millions worldwide still need to improve better communication skills.- There are many causes, including overthinking, suppressed emotions, inappropriate displays of anger, and aggression. This can also be due to several conditions and disorders and even complexes.

It is vital to know what you’re dealing with, why it’s happening, and when and where this miscommunication happens. Knowing how to communicate better and more clearly to your friends, family, coworkers, and especially your romantic partner is crucial.

This is just the book for you! No matter where you are in the romantic cycle, between a partner and determined to do better, or in the crux of a crisis moment, you’re afraid your relationship may not survive. And you could be right!

We’ll move quickly and thoroughly through the causes and cures for this communication breakdown and tell you how to fix it in every case. We’ll work through different communications techniques and discuss the real motivations, deep-rooted causes, ways to recognize and deal with crisis points and breaking points, and other relationship issues. We’ll look at when and where these points may occur and how to handle them. The book makes complex theories easy to understand, with examples and exercises to immediately get you on the road to a better romance.

We’ll also give you tons of practical suggestions on how, when, and where to improve your relationships, a virtual handbook of romantic travel and adventure that may take you to Paris … or your backyard.

We’ll use journalism’s classic 5 W’s & an H rule (who, what, where, when, why, and how) to take you through every relationship stage and show you precisely how to understand and communicate your wants and desires. We’ll go through the nuts and bolts of communication in your relationship's early, middle, and crucial late stages. We’ll coach you through communication breakdowns and crises. The information will give you the necessary skills to navigate a breakup and recover from it efficiently. We’ll offer tips and tricks that may lead you right back into your ex-partner’s arms if that’s what you want.

We’ll take you through various schools of psychological thought, a virtual primer in modern psychology and communication theory that will help you not only with your inner life, intimate partnerships, friendships, and professional relationships.

We are dedicated to bringing the latest information to our readers to make their lives easier and better. We know everybody’s life could be improved in different ways, and we are happy to do all we can to guide, instruct, and encourage anybody willing to help themselves. We make dizzying concepts easy to understand and apply! My journey through life (like most people’s) has had its share of communication breakdowns on almost every level. But it was with my partners that I often had the most trouble because those relationships are the most delicate and, in many ways, the most important. But I’ve learned from my mistakes, and now you can too!

This book has innumerable exercises and techniques to help any couple communicate better. The information here has been proven to rescue failing romances, and it can do the same for you. But this book can also help you communicate better with your family, friends, and coworkers. It will give you a better understanding of yourself and may set you on a course of self-improvement, making every moment of your life better, happier, and more fulfilled. This book has insights and information that will make any person more effective, productive, and attractive.

And I’m not the only one. Our books have helped thousands of eager and hopeful readers, and these techniques are time-tested, research-based, and can certainly help you in any number of ways. But not just you. They’ve helped people I know, and they help people you know. There’s so much information here, so many different aspects of communication are covered, that you’re certain to know somebody who could benefit from the data you’re about to obtain. You may not have a God complex, but chances are you know somebody who does have one. Have a friend who’s a perfectionist? Do them a favor and get them a copy. Are you a manager with workers? They should all read this and then discuss it. The tool and techniques included here will make any office or workplace run more smoothly, efficiently, and effectively. Because this book is about more than just communication, it’s about relationships. Help clear up relationship issues in the office and at home! There’s a lot more here than just communicating with your partner, but so many of us have bad relationships that this book is of value to just about anyone.

You could save your relationship by incorporating just one technique from this book. Using more or all of them will revolutionize your life and the lives of those around you. Because even if they don’t read it, you’ll be able to guide them with what you’ve learned, improving their lives with your own without them even realizing it. They’d probably prefer it that way!

Not only is this book certain to improve your life and theirs, but you must start now! The maladies this book remedies can be insidious and even deadly. Lack of clear communication is a creeping disease that can have fatal consequences. It’s like cancer that takes hold before you realize it and then spreads to every other facet of your life. And it can be just as deadly, leading to depression, abuse, ill-health consequences, and even suicide.

Don’t let things go too far, don’t let that cancer spread. You hold the scalpel you need in your hands, the cure for what may be slowly killing your relationship and ruining your life. Don’t wait another second! Your relationship can’t afford it. You can’t afford it. And your friends and family may be suffering too. The sooner you help yourself, the sooner you can help them!

Don’t get caught in the trap of analysis paralysis, overthink, and let negative self-talk or a fixed mindset prevent you from opening up new doors in your life and your love. This book will clarify and revolutionize how you think, feel, and behave. You’ve already begun your journey, and you can take the next steps to save yourself and your loved ones from the common traps that ruin many lives. The next step is the first section, the first chapter, the first day of the rest of your life.

Let’s get to it!

SECTION 1 THE HOW, WHAT, WHY, WHEN, AND WHERE OF COMMUNICATING IN A RELATIONSHIP:

HOW TO SAY IT, WHAT YOU’RE SAYING, WHAT IT TRULY MEANS, WHO YOU REALLY ARE WHEN YOU’RE COMMUNICATING, AND THE EFFECTS OF YOUR ENVIRONMENT

1

HOW; EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR PARTNER

WHY BETTER COMMUNICATION ISN’T JUST IMPORTANT, IT’S CRUCIAL

Experts believe communication skills kick in at around age two when words are formed and associated with basic concepts. But a two-year-old’s ability to communicate is matched by the depths of their desire. They have basic thoughts, almost always self-directed ( Gimme, it’s mine. ) They even refer to the two towering influences in their lives, their parents, regarding their wants or needs.

And that’s fine for a two-year-old. But we learn over time (hopefully) that the more delicate and complex interactions of adults require a more finessed way of communicating. If, for example, you go into your adult romance saying, Gimme, it’s mine, you could lose that relationship and even personal freedom.

We learn in stages, and our ability to communicate develops, evolving with our experiences. Remember that the general population has two basic mindsets: a fixed and a growth mindset. The fixed is a closed-minded view of the world, convinced that things are the way they are, people are the way they are, and these things don’t change. The growth mindset holds that people and their circumstances can be changed over time according to experience.

Why is this important? In truth, it’s important to everything in our lives and at every level. Whether you are of a fixed or a growth mindset will affect every aspect of your life; personal, professional, and social.

A romantic relationship is unique among these things for various reasons, the first being fairly obvious. The physical and spiritual intimacy anybody shares with a romantic partner, by the very nature of that type of relationship, makes each person far more vulnerable. They invest far more in those relationships than any others. Your boss never sees you naked (hopefully), nor they you (ditto). You’re not expected to lay around snuggling and sharing your intimate secrets with your coworkers, no matter how close you are. And just as you may drift away from coworkers after transfers or job changes, you’re not so apt to drift away from the romance, sometimes even years after it’s over. We’ll discuss this later in the book, but to further make the point about commitment, people are more likely to switch jobs (roughly every four years) than spouses (probably twice in your life, perhaps three).

So how we handle ourselves in our romantic relationships is especially important. It goes to the very core of who we are. There’s an old saying which goes something like this. You can judge a man by the way he treats his wife. It doesn’t sound very #metoo, but the point remains. How a person treats the one with whom they are more intimate and loving than anyone else is a good reflection and indication of how that person will treat others. If a man would beat his wife, what would he do to a total stranger?

Of course, I don’t mean to simplify the concept of physical or marital abuse. There’s a lot more to it than that. A man may only abuse his wife because she is powerless to stop him for various psychological reasons.

But it is true that how we communicate in our relationships reflects how we communicate in other facets of our lives. A person with a fixed mindset on one level is virtually certain to have a fixed mindset on all levels. A person who is a good listener and a measured communicator in their romantic life are almost certain to behave that way with their friends and coworkers. It’s all intertwined. So, learning how to communicate on this level is crucial to anyone’s overall success and happiness.

How do we know this is true? Statistics bear it out! Studies show that married couples are almost 9% happier than divorced or separated people. Single people reported being only 0.2% happier than divorced people. Every study shows that those who have never married die earlier than those who have been married and much earlier than those who remain married.

So, a happy, healthy romantic relationship is undoubtedly in our best interests. And healthy communication is vital to any healthy romantic relationship. Another look at various studies reveals that the inability to communicate is responsible for 65% of divorces. The inability to resolve conflict leads to 45% of divorces.

The men researched in a particular study cited complaining and nagging as their top communication problems. We call that blaming or shaming. Women seemed most irked by their partner’s failure to value their feelings or opinions.

There can be little doubt. Clear, healthy communication is paramount to every facet of your life, and nowhere is it more important than your