How to Stop Fighting, or Avoiding, & Get Answers: Part Two of Negative Cycles (First Part is Episode 3)  In this episode we talk about how to understand the best strategies for communication and connecting with your spouse after discovering infidelity in your marriage. Often times we try to heal after betrayal with the old patterns of communication that actually contributed to the affair happening in the first place.  We were caught in a negative cycle before the affair happened and before it was discovered.  Then after the affair is discovered our negative cycle (or old patterns of communicating) don't improve...they simply get worse and cause us to loose control and can cost us our marriage). So in order to completely heal after betrayal we must identify where we get stuck and learn new ways to communicate and connect with each other so you can begin to heal from the infidelity. Until we identify our negative cycle we can't completely heal.  Be sure to check out Episode 3 because it's the first part of this 2 part series.