Communication in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting, 2nd Edition: Better Marriage Series, #1

By Marcus Kusi and Ashley Kusi

How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting - EVEN If You Have a Difficult Spouse

Do you find it difficult communicating with your spouse? Are you tired of arguing and fighting with your spouse whenever you try to communicate?

Have you ever wanted to cry in frustration after yet again another fruitless or useless argument with your spouse? Is your spouse not talking to you anymore?

You are not alone.

Many couples (including us) have had to deal with these communication problems at some point in marriage. And it's not fun! The yelling, shouting, anger, frustration, rejection, resentment, interrupting, blaming, insults... It can definitely be overwhelming.

It could even destroy your ability to not only communicate effectively with your spouse, but also enjoy your marriage. The lack of communication in your marriage can even lead to a divorce.

But don't worry.

No matter what communication problems you struggle with, you can learn how to communicate effectively with your spouse today.

Whether you feel you are not being heard, cannot hear your spouse, or want to communicate better with your spouse without fighting or yelling, this book will show you how.

For the past 7 years, we have used these proven communication skills to go from arguing and fighting whenever we communicated to communicating effectively without fighting, calling each other names, and being disrespectful.

As a result, we now have a better marriage.
 

In this Communication in Marriage book, you will learn:

1. How to communicate effectively with your spouse without fighting.

2. Why trust is essential for effective communication in marriage.

3. Clearly understand why we all communicate differently.

4. How to improve communication in your marriage.

5. How to communicate through conflict, even with a difficult spouse.

6. Our tested, simple, and proven step-by-step plan for effective communication in 7 days or less.

7. How to communicate through difficult emotions.

8. How to prevent communication problems with your spouse.

9. Why your past experiences affect the way you communicate with your spouse.

This book will show you proven communication skills married couples need to communicate effectively with each other.

We have tested and continue to use these effective communication skills in our marriage every single day. And they work!

Whether you feel like you cannot communicate with your spouse, or improve communication in your marriage, you can become a better communicator in your marriage by reading this book today.

You don't need another fight or argument!

You can communicate better with your husband or wife.

How would your marriage be different if you had no communication problems?

Start reading this Communication in Marriage book for couples today.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Our Peaceful Family
• Release date: Feb 21, 2015
• ISBN: 9781393843580

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Communication in Marriage

How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting

2nd Edition

By Marcus and Ashley Kusi

Communication in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting

Copyright © 2017 by Marcus and Ashley Kusi

All Rights Reserved. No part of this book or any of its contents may be reproduced, copied, modified, distributed, stored, transmitted in any form or by any means, or adapted without the prior written consent of the authors and publisher.

The views expressed herein are those of the authors alone and should not be taken as professional advice. The information presented is intended for informational purposes only. The reader is responsible for his or her own actions.

In this book, we share what we have learned in life and marriage; if any of the information is perceived as advice, please take it with a grain of salt.

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Dedication

To our lovely daughters.

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1

We All Communicate Differently

Your Expectations Affect How You Communicate

Non-Verbal Communication: Body Language

Most Common Communication Mistakes in Marriage

Love and Respect

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 2

How to Listen Effectively

How to Listen to Your Spouse

A Few Tools to Communicate Better

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 3

Emotional Intelligence for Better Conversations

Why Patience is Your Friend

Embracing Gratitude

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 4

It’s Not Possible Without Trust

Tips for Cultivating Trust in Your Marriage

Building a Safe Environment

The Value of Marriage Check-ups

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 5

How to Communicate Through Difficult Emotions

How Effectively Communicating Your Emotions Improves Intimacy

Sexpectations

When Money Becomes an Issue

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 6

How to Communicate Through Conflict

Tips for Communicating Through Conflict

Resolving Your Differences

7 Steps for Resolving Your Differences

Learn to Apologize

Don’t Keep Score

Questions to Ask Yourself and Your Spouse

Chapter 7

7 Steps for Getting Started

Your 7-Day Action Plan

Thank You

About Marcus and Ashley

Other Books by Marcus and Ashley

Resources

References

Introduction

Everything that humans do in life involves some form of communication. Money, career, food, sex…it all involves communication. Why?

Because no one can read your mind!

Whether you are having trouble communicating or just want to improve your communication from good to great, this book will provide you with helpful information and actionable steps to help you implement these communication strategies in your relationship. You will see lots of examples from our own marriage, showing you how we used these communication strategies to communicate effectively through our own struggles. Communication in Marriage has helped save marriages and may be just the guide you are searching for.

We struggled to communicate effectively with each other during the first year of our marriage. To be honest, it was not fun! However, that changed when we started using the proven communication skills we share in this book. Little did we know it would absolutely transform our marriage. In fact, many couples have used these essential communication skills to communicate effectively and even prevent divorce. That’s why we are so excited to share the tools we have learned with you.

Communicating with your spouse is not only talking about the good stuff, or only for when things are going smoothly. It also involves talking about the tough things, having difficult conversations, and communicating when everything seems to be falling apart. Coming together to build the foundation of your marriage and develop a plan of action will help you to communicate through both good times and bad. If you can learn even one insight from this book, it will be worth it.

Where do you think you fall on the zero-to-ten scale of communication?

How can you fix your marriage problems if you do not communicate with each other? You will have unresolved conflicts, be unfulfilled in your marriage, and always be thinking, Is this what marriage is supposed to be like? These marriage conflicts will build up over time and explode someday. When this happens, it will not be pretty. You certainly want to avoid it! You want to be able to communicate with your spouse so you both can have the fulfilling life and marriage you dreamed about before saying, I do.

As you may know, poor communication can lead to growing apart as a couple. It also impacts your kids, because they learn from watching you. So, teach them how to do it in a healthy way, by communicating well with your spouse. This may seem like a simple thing to do, but it requires action, intentional effort, desire, and the willingness of you and your spouse to make it happen. When you communicate effectively with your spouse, you will feel secure, heard, and appreciated. You will not be afraid to ask questions or seek answers. What results is a higher level of fulfillment in your marriage.

From our experience, there are many degrees of communication, from bad to better to effective. We want to walk you through the simple, yet effective, communication strategies we have implemented and had success with in our marriage. We learned these strategies from personal practice, research, and watching and listening to other couples. Whether you choose to become a better communicator is fully up to you. It may be uncomfortable at times but will be worth it for your marriage.

What you may not realize is that a lot of seemingly unrelated issues stem from the lack of effective communication. Money issues and fights over being too busy or not busy enough, who does what around the house, starting a family, how many children to have, sex, connecting, parenting, intimacy…starting to get the picture?

Communication is integral to everything you do with your spouse and in your marriage.

If conversations with your spouse are sometimes a painful experience and end with someone yelling or leaving the room, feeling upset and angry, slamming the table, or fighting, then this book is for you.

By learning how to communicate effectively with your spouse, you will be able to succeed in your marriage and do things you never thought possible. You will also excel in other areas of your life where effective communication is essential for success, such as your career, social gatherings, relationships, friendships, meetings, etc. Marriage is one of the greatest growing opportunities we have on this earth. It has its ups and its downs, but the important thing is to learn how to grow closer together, through it all, as a team.

First, you need to understand some key things that play a huge role when it comes to communication in marriage. For example, know why you communicate and what you are communicating about. There will be days when you have more involved conversations. With conversations like these, you both need to know what you need to talk about, so you can prepare well ahead of time. It might not be what you both wanted, but it could be the beginning of something transformational for your marriage. In situations like this, knowing your why for the conversation will set you up to focus on the issue at hand, which will enable you to come to a compromise or resolution, without having to