Dirty Laundry: Confessions of a Married Bisexual Man

By Tyson Pete

"Dirty Laundry: Confessions of a Married Bisexual Man" is a candid, riveting, sexy, account of how a Married Bisexual Man's coming out saved his life and his marriage. He also, gives you an inside look into his past relationships with his past lovers without their prior permissions or approvals. This book redefines our most dearly-held beliefs about sexuality, knowing if your man is living on the down-low, monogamy, authenticity, and what it truly means to love someone.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Mar 1, 2017
• ISBN: 9781365791598

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Dirty Laundry: Confessions of a Married Bisexual Man

Dirty Laundry Confessions of a Married Bisexual Man

Copyright © 2017   Tyson Pete LLC

Names related to this Memoir have been changed, in order to protect the well-being and privacy of those involved and their families.

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Written by, Cover design, book design, and layout by

Tyson B. Pete

International Standard Book Number:

978-1-365-79159-8

Printed and Published in the USA

Nothing can be forced to live.

The earth is like a drug now, like a voice from far away,

A lover or master. In the end, you do what the voice tells you.

It says forget, you forget.

It says begin again, you begin again.

-from March by Louise Gluck

We create ourselves by our choices.

-Kierkegaard

No one knows the Author of Memoir

So well like himself.

-Arthur Golden

Contents

Author’s Note

Signs that your Man is living a Gay, Bisexual, or Downlow Lifestyle

Growing up

Confessional/ Man 1

Confessional/ Man 2

Confessional/ Man 3

Confessional/ Man 4

School, Job, Escorting and Girlfriend

Confessional/ Man 5

Confessional/ Man 6

Confessional/ Girlfriend and Man 3

Confessional/ Man 7, Best friend and Marriage

Spilling the Tea (Q&A)

Author’s Note

Writing a memoir is like preparing yourself to go to a confessional at a damn Catholic Church. (No shade or pun intended, I’m just saying) You must first examine your conscience. And that entails honesty. You can’t write an effective memoir if you’re worried about family or friends breathing down your neck and looking over your shoulders, telling you what you should or should not do or say. Even if the truth hurts, if it is truthful, then there’s no other way to present it. At the very least, readers will recognize the courage in that and respect me for it. When you’re truly honest and revealing about yourself, it creates a sigh in other people. They realize that they are not alone and that they are not a freak: Someone else has felt that same exact way or lived the same life or even experienced the same struggles that I have overcome. If you’re going to skimp out on the truth, then you’re doing a disservice. Honesty is not only a gift to other people but it’s also, truly a gift to myself. Thank you all for taking your time out to step into the life of a man that you never knew.

With love, Tyson B. Pete

Before we get started let’s define Gay, Bisexual and Downlow, so that you are crystal clear and know the difference.

Gay:

(Of person, especially a man) homosexual

Bisexual:

A person who is sexually attracted to both men and women

Downlow (Sexual Slang):

Is an African American Slang term that typically refers to a subculture of Black men who usually identify as heterosexual, but who has sex with men; some avoid sharing this information even if they have female partner(s) married or single. The term is also used to refer to a related sexual identity.

Signs that your Man is living a Gay, Bisexual or Down-low Lifestyle

1)     Overly macho, and too fucking concerned with impressing males.

Some males act like they’re annoyed and bored with their women, always mugging her and telling her to shut up, choosing playing video games and spending time with his homies over being romantic with his woman. Yet, when he’s around his male friends, he’s laughing, smiling, joking and giggling. Why in the hell would a man be more flirtatious with his homies than he is with his woman, unless he is on the downlow? Males who think being romantic with a woman is corny or soft unmanly or Simple behavior are simply insecure in their manhood and their sexuality. When a man is more concerned with proving his manhood to other males and cares about impressing other males than he cares about being romantically chivalrous with a woman, his ass is most definitely suspect.

2)     Insecure or insecurely uses social media networks to jealously keep tabs on his woman.

Insecurity in ANY male is a major must avoid at all costs. This type of male will either abuse drugs, abuse alcohol, abuse his woman, or abuse his sexuality. If you get my drift. Not only is it a major turn off to a woman for a man to stalk her social networks, then blow up her phone complaining about her behavior online, it is also suspect behavior. Being clingy is a red flag, not because it hints at jealousy. A little jealousy let’s a woman know her value with her man. However, when a man turns into a CSI agent, stalks a woman’s Facebook, twitter, snapchat, or Instagram activity, keeps track of when she last used her Facebook messenger to seeing how long she was online, blowing up her phone in the middle of the night to keep tabs on her, goes through her tweets, sending screen shots of her online conversations, it has gone way beyond cute jealousy into suspect behavior. When a man stalks your social media, he’s not trying to keep you from cheating nor is he simply being insecure. Two things are taking place here…

A)   He’s using what he feels is ‘stereotypical jealous behavior’ to cause dissension, so you will be hesitant to question his sexuality. This is very slick and cunning. You must admit men are very clever. He wants you to think he’s concerned with you communicating with other men, like he’s so jealous of your attractiveness and sexuality, so you will never question HIS sexuality.

B)     He has a guilty conscience and is stalking your social media to see if any of his gay lovers or past girlfriends who’s previously found out about his sexual preferences are contacting you. Now the funny thing with this is, don’t always think that the other female from his past is trying to hate on your new-found relationship with him. That’s not always the case, open your mind and listen to these other women sometimes. Some of them are trying to warn your ass.

3)     He only has one TYPE of woman that he’s attracted to.

That shit is almost laughable. Let me tell you something… Real Heterosexual men do not have a Type of woman who only her specific body type makes him aroused. Let’s be honest for a quick second; a guy will sleep with a bear looking ass female if that bitch has a working vagina. The truth is many of us barely know what we truly like. Many of us like whoever likes our asses and lack the ability to turn down a woman of any body type who is pretty and giving us the attention that we all seek. The reason some males need a woman with a specific body type in order for him to be aroused, is because he’s simply not naturally aroused by a woman’s femininity. Heterosexual men are extremely attracted to women with curves and a nice shaped ass; however, they’re also attracted to women with slim, petite model frames, with a defined collar bone and a humble shaped ass; because quite frankly, if we’re going to be honest women of all body types are beautiful, as they possess what all heterosexual men are really attracted to; PUSSY. That attraction exists to ensure the continuation of the human race. This is why some men ONLY are attracted to curvy women with a fat ass, or ONLY attracted to skinny women with absolutely no curves or ass whatsoever, or only attracted to Foreign women, or only short women, that is the ONLY type of woman that can arouse him. Food for thought huh? Let’s keep going, shall we? If a man regularly gets erectile dysfunction (Poor Thing) when his woman is wearing the most revealing lingerie, and the only thing that can get him UP for fucking is to watch a specific porn, he may be bisexual or on the downlow.

4)     Speaking of porn (We all like us a good porn occasionally, and if you say you don’t, you are most definitely lying to yourself) Would you rather watch porn than to make love to your woman?

Ooops, some of y’all are mad because you know this has happened to you before. I promise I won’t tell. Porn addiction can be an indication a male is on the down low. Before you get all crazy and try to tell me something that I clearly know about, let me explain. A woman can tell that her man is secretly bisexual or on the downlow by his inability to be aroused by the natural female body. If a woman walks her man into the bedroom, gently massages his body, kisses his neck, play with his genitals, and yet him and his right or left hand would much rather go into the bathroom together and watch Pornhub on his phone than to make love to his woman; this could be a very big indication that his ass is bisexual or on the downlow. I know this one to be a fact, not because I have done it, but because I know of an ex-married couple that this happened to personally. Hope I didn’t make you upset darling, if I did, I will make sure to spill that tea in part 2. Anyways, no heterosexual man would choose to have a virtual threesome with his right or left hand and his Pornhub app over making love to his beautiful woman. That’s just not what guys do it’s not a guy thing, it's as fucking SUSPECT as it sounds. What man do you know that is going to turn down some pussy in favor for a damn porno? You may be thinking, Oh, but he’s not attracted to HIS woman’s body type anymore, he only likes the type of woman with big breasts or the type of female that has a big country, ghetto ass like in those porn videos. Girl boo. You better get your head out of the damn clouds and come back to earth. That is some simple-minded thinking if I have ever heard of one. How do you even know he’s looking at the woman’s body when he watches the damn porn? EXACTLY. A male who has a beautiful woman, flawless, flat stomach, curvy figure, nice round ghetto ass, who will do whatever he wants in bed and STILL cheats on her ass is living proof nothing can stop a man from cheating who is simply uncomfortable with his sexuality and is too much of a coward to admit his attraction to women may be in question. Are you still with me? Let’s keep this shit going.

5)     Obsessed with twerking, big butts, and butt play….

I know what most of you are thinking, I thought all men are obsessed with a female who can twerk? Think again. There is only one sexual organ on the Woman body, her Vagina. A Woman’s breasts sole purpose is to feed the baby, that’s why milk comes out, A woman’s ass has the sole purpose of ejecting waste from the cracks of her ass. Males who are obsessed with watching twerking videos, big booty porn, and other shit in that nature are only aroused by a woman’s ass and prefer this over having vaginal sex with a woman. I’ll give you a moment to think on that right there……. That being said, it’s because it reminds him of the type of intercourse he enjoys with his downlow lover. This is how males that are bisexual or on the downlow have gay sex with their women. That is; while he’s having sex with a woman, he’s ONLY using sexual positions that he uses with his boyfriend on the low low, while fantasizing he is having non-vaginal intercourse with someone of the same sex.  If a male likes his own ass played with or ate, that is a HUGE sign also, that he may be bisexual or on the downlow. A heterosexual man would NEVER allow a woman to stick her finger or her tongue anywhere near his asshole.

6)     Uninterested in foreplay or romance and only wants to get his.

If a male doesn’t have a romantic side with you as his so-called woman: BEWARE; that’s very SUSPECT. Heterosexual men love to cuddle and massage their women’s bodies, treating her body like a fat kids treat. Nothing arouses a heterosexual man more than watching, seeing, and making his woman cum (Climax). It makes his mothafuckin’ toes curl, it actually makes him erect to even witness the shit go down. If a male only wants to get his climax and doesn’t care or puts forth the effort to make sure that his woman gets hers, that shit right there is what? SUSPECT. Let me tell you something, the men that say shit like I don’t lick the pearl tongue Pussy’s are nasty to look at and are ugly that shit is Downlow vernacular. It is fucking 2017. Sorry, to say this and be vulgar but straight niggas eat pussy. When a male tells a woman that he prefers to receive oral sex from a woman over vaginal sex; he’s subconsciously trying to tell you that he’s not aroused by the female sex organ. (hint hint) If a man cannot be aroused by the natural femininity of a woman, without her behaving extremely lustful like a fuckin’ porn star; that man is either on the downlow and hiding it from you or on the downlow unbeknownst to his damn self.

7)     This next one is a personal favorite of mine… If he spends more time at the gym with the guys than romancing his woman, that man is what? Let’s say it together… (SUSPECT)

Many males who live in the gym admirably dedicating much of their time perfecting their physique, love the gym so much and yet somehow, they don’t have time to take their woman on a date, show up to a function, text back or call his woman back in a reasonable amount of time, don’t worry he’s doing a little bit more than lifting them damn weights at the gym. That is some straight up bullshit and for those of you who believe that shit, need to seek professional help. The gym is where it really goes down. Been there, done that, now I’m writing a book about it. Trust me ladies everything that I am saying are FACTS. Many men spend so much time at the gym, because that’s the only place that him and his downlow lover or lovers can meet up and spend time together. Why in