Love Him More! How to Stop Resenting Your Husband After Having a Baby

By Jennifer N. Smith

As your baby develops in your body, you and your husband look forward to the days when you can hold your bundle of joy. You smile as you think about your future, but you never imagine that problems can occur in your relationship after your baby is born. 

As a new parent, you can easily become overwhelmed. You have a new world of responsibilities, new worries and new stresses and no matter how strong your relationship is, you may find that you struggle in your new role. 

This book is going to help you through all of those struggles. If you are concerned about your marriage after the birth of your baby, the information in this book is going to ensure that you have a successful marriage now and down the road. 

With the information in this book you will be able to put your marriage back on track and ensure that your baby has a healthy, happy relationship to look up to as he or she grows older. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jennifer N. Smith
• Release date: Jan 26, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393567554

Jennifer N. Smith

We are a team of writers. We are a team of moms.  We are Writer Moms!  We have experienced what it is like to be a mother and to be completely clueless about raising our children. Through mutual support and help, we have risen out of our early mom days and we want to help you now. We love reading and writing self-improvement and self-help books, especially parenting books that will help you become the best version of yourself for your children. Whether you are a new mother, a veteran mother or an expectant mother, our books can help you.  We have positive, practical advice for all the Mommies (and the Daddies) out there. Instead of just telling you what to do, we believe in giving you step-by-step user guides for your everyday problems.  We love cooking and preparing delicious food for our children and our families. We love spending time with our loved ones. We are Mommies who have jobs, businesses and are stay-at-home parents, and we can help you with many of your questions. Most of our books deal with children and parenting, but we also love to write on other topics related to your home and family.  Most importantly, we believe in a happy home, and we would love to help to make your life so much better, as it should be.

Book preview

Chapter 1- Support Each Other

One thing that many women struggle with is resentment toward their husbands after they have a baby. This often leads to the husband resenting the wife as well. This is how it usually works. Mom stays home and takes care of the baby all day, she barely has time to take a shower or even get dressed let alone feel beautiful or experience anything outside of caring for the baby.

The dishes are piling up, the laundry is undone, she smells of stale formula, dirty diapers and vomit. Her husband comes home after what she sees as an exciting day at the office. He is exhausted but she wants to hand the baby off and take a few minutes to herself. She thinks that it is unfair that her husband has gotten to get away from the mundane life that she now leads.

The husband is tired from a long day at work. He does not feel appreciated and begins to take it out on his wife. He does not understand why the house is not clean, why the laundry is not done and why she does not have time to fix herself up anymore. He thinks he is the one working all day while his wife gets to rest at home, with nothing more to do than a few chores and look after their baby.

The two are romanticizing each other’s lives. They think that the other has an easier life than they do, they both feel as if they are being taken advantage of and this usually leads to an argument. Usually, a big argument.

This is where everything starts to go wrong.

Instead of thinking that we know how the other person feels it is important to talk to them and to show support for everything that they are going through in life. If the husband is the sole breadwinner for the family it is important for you to show him how much you appreciate it. It is not an easy job to go to work every day, take the financial responsibility for your whole family, and to do this day after day. Your husband sacrifices his own life’s pleasure to take care of you and your baby, to make sure that you have everything that you need in life.

It is also important for you to let him know what you are doing during the day. Very often, men get confused and do not understand how much work it takes to keep a household running every day. They do not understand how much time you have to spend taking care of the baby nor how much time it takes to clean, cook and do laundry. Husbands often times forget how stressful it is to be the one who is in charge of all of the bills, the shopping and ensuring that every member of the household is taken care of.

When your husband comes home from work, give him time to adjust to home life. No matter how fun his job may seem to you, no matter how lucky you think that he is to get out of the house, give him a warm and loving welcome. Let your husband have a few moments to adjust to being home before you begin hounding him with all of the problems you have faced during the day.

Don’t be too quick to start asking him about