You Can Do Better: Healthier, More God-Centered Relationships in 10 Easy Lessons
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Do you want to improve the quality of your relationships? Have you ever wondered what you would need to change to be a better family member, friend, or spouse? Are you ready to love others more fearlessly than ever before? Join bestselling author Kristin N. Spencer as she guides you through specific passages of the Bible that will change the way you approach all of your relationships, including those that you would identify as challenging or impossible.
You Can Do Better: Healthier, More God-Centered Relationships in 10 Easy Lessons will help you understand the nuances and approaches you can implement, starting today, to improve every single relationship in your life.
Though the concepts of love, forgiveness, fulfillment, mercy, grace, humility, and acceptance are nothing new, we rarely look at our relationships through these helpful and illuminating lenses.
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You Can Do Better - Kristin N. Spencer
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You
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Healthier, More God-Centered
Relationships in 10 Easy Lessons
Kristin N. Spencer
You Can Do Better: Healthier, More God-Centered Relationships in 10 Easy Lessons
Copyright © 2019
by Kristin N. Spencer
Imprint of Literary Symmetry
Cover art by Kristin N. Spencer
Scripture taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form by any electronic or mechanical means including photocopying, recording, or information storage and retrieval without permission in writing from the author.
ISBN-13: 978-1-951040-02-4
ISBN-10: 1-951040-02-3
On The Web:
http://kristinnspencer.com
Contact the author:
kristin.n.spencer@gmail.com
This book is dedicated to you, the reader.
I applaud your effort to make your relationships better. It is my hope that you when you finish this book, you will understand how embrace and improve your valuable relationships and how to step away from the destructive ones.
Introduction
Think about all of the relationships in your life, good and bad. What if I told you that you could change every single interaction just by reshaping your mindset? Would you be interested? As Christians, we have the most useful piece of living literature available, but when we compile our standards for living healthy and productive lives, we often base our foundations on things outside of the Bible. In just 10 easy lessons, you can change your entire approach to relationships based on an unequivocal truth that will never change and will leave you feeling more fulfilled, accepted, and loved than ever before. From this place of liberty, you can systemically change your interactions and relationships with the people around you.
If you had met me 10 years before, you would not have thought that I would ever be able to write a book about healthy relationships. I was the poster-child for dysfunctional interactions, and almost every single one of my relationships was based on unhealthy principles that I didn’t even realize had been part of my learned behavior growing up. After going through a particularly difficult work-place situation with an abusive individual, my mother told me she wanted to talk to me. Our video call went something like this:
I feel like this is my fault.
I don’t understand, Mom. What are you talking about?
I never taught you how to have boundaries, and because of that, people use you. I think you need to learn how to protect yourself and your family by establishing what kind of behaviors you will and won’t accept from people.
Okay?
I had never heard my mom mention anything about boundaries before in my life.
Just promise me you’ll think about it. If you want a few resources, I have a list.
Sure, send me what you have.
Boundaries and Personal Worth
As I learned about healthy boundaries, God was also taking me on a journey to find love and acceptance from Him alone (an odyssey I chronicle in You Aren’t Worthless: Unlock the Truth to Godly Confidence). The culmination of these two learning expeditions led me to place I want to take you as well: establishing and maintaining relationships based on Biblical truth. Though this adventure can seem intimidating, I promise it is well worth the end result.
What about this process seems intimidating? Let me give you an example. If someone wants you to do something sinful, and you choose not to, you will set a boundary and say, No, I will not do that.
They might get angry. You can’t control their response, which in this case happens to be anger. But you can control whether or not you decide to participate in that sinful activity. This is part of setting a healthy boundary within that relationship. Remember that the point of this guide is to address things from your side, the things you can control, not the things you can’t control, such as the actions of others. Because of this, each lesson starts with the words, Today I Choose…
followed by each individual topic.
Going forward, it is important to understand that your worth is not based on your relationships or how other people view you. Your worth is based on God’s love for you as His creation. When you keep that in mind, you are able to create boundaries because your worth is not tied up in your relationships or in how others view your worth. If you find yourself having a low-confidence moment, fall back on the following verses and keep pressing forward.
But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.
-John 1:12
Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.
-1 John 3:1
I can’t wait to take this journey with you as you move forward on this relationship-changing expedition.
Chapter 1: Lesson One: Love
Choose