30 Days 30 Ways To Overcome Depression
By Bev Aisbett
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From bestselling author Bev Aisbett comes a proven, practical and simple workbook to help people manage their depression, with a month's worth of daily strategies and exercises for work and for home.
When you're suffering from depression, sometimes it's as much as you can do to get out of bed, let alone read a book. But this just isn't any other book. This is a practical day-by-day workbook, with clear, simple daily building blocks and exercises designed to help pull you out of the inertia of depression. It's a highly approachable, concise and above all practical way to help manage depression.
Featuring all-new material from experienced counsellor and bestselling author of the self-help classics Living with IT and Taming the Black Dog, Bev Aisbett has based this book on many of the exercises she has been teaching and writing about for the past twenty years to help people manage their depression.
Bev Aisbett
Bev Aisbett, a trained counsellor, is the author and illustrator of 17 highly regarded self-help books for sufferers of anxiety and depression, most notably the national bestsellers Living with It: A Survivor's Guide to Panic Attacks and Taming the Black Dog: A Guide to Overcoming Depression. These titles are distributed to health professionals nationwide and have been sold in English in the UK, US and Canada. In total, her books have been published in eight languages, selling more than half a million copies worldwide. Bev developed a unique recovery program, The Art of Anxiety workshop, designed to educate people about anxiety and provide them with the tools with which to build their own recovery, just as Bev herself has done. Launched in 1998, this program has guided thousands of people in the 'art' of effectively managing anxiety and related conditions. She is also a recognised artist, and her soulful paintings have been regularly exhibited in Victoria and Tasmania. For more information and anxiety resources: bevaisbettartofanxiety.com
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30 Days 30 Ways To Overcome Depression - Bev Aisbett
INTRODUCTION
All of my books are written through LIVED EXPERIENCE, so I know you’re hurting and how bad you feel. I’ve been there and I know the dark hole of depression is a HORRIBLE place to find yourself.
It may surprise you to know that I still make the occasional (but rare) return visit to that dark hole when the going gets tough.
But not for LONG and not too DEEPLY. Now I know BETTER and that’s what I’m handing on to you in this book – the things that have turned my visits into quick DROP-INS, rather than long PRISON SENTENCES.
I’m not always going to go easy on you, quite simply because patting your hand isn’t going to HELP.
All the sympathy in the world isn’t going to motivate you to MOVE ON. I’m not going to invest ONE MINUTE in your disempowerment. I’m not going to tell you you’re a VICTIM, because then you’ll start believing you are. I’m going to call on you to step up and out of this darkness because you CAN. And I believe that you got yourself into this big, dark hole because it was the only thing you knew how to do in response to STRESS, LOSS or HURT.
Those old responses of retreat, shutdown and numbness that once PROTECTED you are now not only UNHELPFUL and INEFFECTIVE, but they are also doing you HARM. It’s time to find a different way of managing the tough things that come along with life, instead of going into COLLAPSE.
Now, I’m assuming that if you’ve picked up this book it means that you’re finally fed up with being in this hole and are ready to move on. Or it may be that someone has plonked this book down in front of you because THEY’RE fed up and want you to move on.
Either way, it’s time for you to start climbing, and if you’re ready to give it your best shot and put in a bit of work on yourself, this book will guide you on that climb.
You can do the 30 Days any way you like – as DAILY exercises or WEEKLY or MONTHLY – it’s up to you. You can even go back and repeat days if you want to. All you’ll need is a pen and paper, and an open mind.
One thing I ask is this: once you’ve started, KEEP GOING. Make that commitment to yourself – because you DON’T DESERVE to feel this lousy and you really don’t NEED to.
So, are you ready? Good. Let’s get CRACKING!
DAY 1
You’re right – life can seriously SUCK at times
Yep – life is no walk in the park. It’s not EASY, it’s not SMOOTH; it doesn’t unfold all NEAT and TIDY like a Hollywood movie.
There are times when life slams you HARD. There are times when your heart BREAKS.
And if you’ve picked up this book, I suspect you’re going through (or have gone through) at least one of these times.
I HEAR YOU. I GET IT.
You could tell me your story and it would have the same title as every other story of depression – ‘It’s Not Fair.’
Well, here’s the thing. Nobody ever carved in stone ‘Life will be FAIR’. Despite this, at the heart of our disappointments and sorrows is the idea that life SHOULD be fair and that unfair things should not happen to us. And yet they DO.
If there is one ABSOLUTE in life, it is this: you WILL be challenged! However, how MUCH you are AFFECTED by these challenges is actually very much in your hands.
The first thing we need to dispose of is the idea of a ‘rewards’ system – i.e., if I do good things, I’ll be rewarded; or bad things only happen to me because I’m a ‘bad’ person or I’ve ‘failed’ in some way.
And life should punish those I deem to be bad or unworthy, and life is unjust if they get to walk away without consequence.
The notion that life is some sort of sideshow alley – where you win the teddy bear for the number of goodness points earned, or the booby prize when you don’t meet the quota – is one that keeps you in misery when things don’t turn out the way you would like.
Life ISN’T fair when it’s limited to your EXPECTATIONS. How can it be, when what might seem FAIR to you, seems UNFAIR to someone else? What seems WRONG to you may be perfectly REASONABLE to someone else.
The truth is, life is neither FAIR nor UNFAIR – it just IS.
We tend to impose HUMAN TRAITS on anything from animals to cars or even the weather – as though they have a will and CHOOSE not to do what we WANT them to do.
But does the river have a personal AGENDA to flood your house?
No – the river is just doing its THING and your house happened to be in its WAY. You might have even built your house on a FLOOD PLAIN!
And your life has been like that – things have come along and you were in the WAY of them. No matter what opinion you place upon such events – RIGHT or WRONG, FAIR or UNFAIR – they HAPPENED. And they happened to you simply because you were THERE.
Life is just rolling along like a big river, and you’re either going to insist on paddling AGAINST THE TIDE (because that would be FAIR!) or go WITH the way the CURRENT is flowing.
There IS a way to navigate life so that you don’t end up dashed against the rocks each time there’s a challenge (and this book will help STEER you); but just for now, if it makes you feel any better, I’ll AGREE with you: yes, sometimes life seems to truly SUCK. So be it.
WORKING DAY 1
• Today, try to embrace the idea that life is neither FAIR nor UNFAIR. Also, let go of the idea you are being REWARDED or PUNISHED.
• On a piece of paper, write down the event or situation that you feel MOST DEPRESSED about. Next, draw a series of squares (about six squares should be enough) to represent a row of doors. Number each door.
Behind DOOR 1 is the choice (or choices) you made in response to the event you listed.
Clearly, your FIRST choice was to BECOME DEPRESSED.
Now go to DOOR 2. Behind this door is