Self Confidence Secrets: How To Build Your Self-Esteem and Heal Your Mind, Body and Soul
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About this ebook
Self-confidence is your attitude and your belief in your ability to get things done. Real self-esteem must be based on competence.
The real solution to consistent victory involves self-confidence. However, this self- confidence must come from the right place. It cannot be stimulated into existence through self-esteem.
You need to build your self-confidence on the solid bedrock of competence. You need to be the best you can be in something.
With this step by step guide:
- You are going to understand the interplay between competence and self-confidence.
- You will learn to develop unstoppable confidence that can help you scale and overcome any kind of difficulty or obstacle.
- You will understand that there's a big difference between self-confidence and self-esteem.
- You can begin to understand why real self-esteem must be based on competence.
- You are going to learn exactly how to build your self-confidence on the solid bedrock of competence.
- The Problem with Modern Self-Esteem
- The Real Foundation of Self-Confidence: COMPETENCE
- Develop Real Self-Confidence through Competence
- Getting Your Game Plan for Competence-Based Self-Confidence
- Start with something you already do well
- Allow your objective competence to become a part of you
- Take ownership of more areas of your life
- Understand that self-confidence can be limitless
- Make sure there is no disconnect between your internal and external confidence
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Self Confidence Secrets - Dr. Michael C. Melvin
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Introduction
Starting in the 1960s, the self-esteem movement in the USA and elsewhere began in earnest. The idea behind this educational movement is pretty straightforward. If you foster self-esteem in students, self- confidence will naturally follow. When people are more confident, they tend to excel better in life. This has been the accepted gospel in education policy for going on fifty years now.
The thinking is pretty straightforward. It's simply elegant, actually, since self-confidence involves one’s attitude about one’s ability to get things done. When people have a high opinion of themselves, confidence should naturally flow, right? Not quite.
It turns out of that hollow
self-esteem only tends to produces impostor syndrome and, worse yet, and entitlement mentality. Whatever achievements people get with this mindset will be quite spotty.
In fact, in many cases, they are unable to replicate their earlier success. They tend to do things right from time to time but not all the time. There is no consistent threshold of success and excellence.
It turns out that the real solution to consistent victory still involves self-confidence; however, this self- confidence must come from the right place. It cannot be stimulated into existence through self-esteem.
Instead, you need to build your self-confidence on the solid bedrock of competence. Let me spell it out for you C-O-M-P-E-T-E-N-C-E. Put simply, you need to be the best you can be in something.
Anything. Find it. Do it.
Scale that upward spiral made possible by a feedback loop that you create. When you become competent in something, you become more confident. After all, you have shown to yourself that you can get things done. You can show up at the right time to produce the right things to achieve the right results with right people which then leads to the right outcomes.
This is not theory. This is not a guess. This is not something that just happened by random luck. This is something that you yourself made happen because you chose to be competent in something.
Once you see this play out, you become more confident. You start to believe that you can make things happen. What do you think happens next? That's right. The more confident you become, the more you do it and do it and do it.
This means that you do the things that you excel in different types of circumstances. You're able to overcome more challenges; you are able to solve more problems and you get better all around. When this happens, you become even more competent and, you guess it, even more confident.
So, this upward spiral process repeats itself over and over again. This is called a positive feedback loop. The more confident you become, the more confident you are, the more actions you take and the more opportunities you give yourself to get even better.
The bottom line is you need to start with competence. This fuels increasing levels of confidence. Competence is the linchpin to sustainable confidence.
Compare this to somebody who just got lucky. For whatever reason, somebody found themselves at the right time at the right place with the right people to produce the right results. So far, so good. That person racked up a victory for