Live Your Dream Life: Maximising Happiness and Balance
()
About this ebook
A discovery of what is really important in your life, that examines the key question about how much time you really spend nurturing what it is that makes you, you, to enable the delivery of the dreams you have for the future, for you and for your family.
So if you are stressed out about life and priorities. If you want to focus on what is really important to you. If you are happy with life and want to make sure that you keep your focus and gain even greater success. If you, with your life partner want to form a deep understanding of individual and joint priorities. If you have ever made a New Years Eve resolution. Ever written a list of things you’d like to achieve. Or you just simply need some guidance on how to prioritise your life and get all the elements in balance, then this book is for you!
Live Your Dream Life is a guide to maximising your happiness across key areas of life that are important to you.
Based on research on how people feel about their lives, with practical advice for you to design the life you dream of.
At the end of each chapter readers are asked to assess how they feel (based on an informed view after reading the research on how the chapter topic impacts our well-being as human beings) about the key theme of the chapter and whether, or not it’s a priority for them, and to what extent. The aim to clarify and perhaps change your thinking so you can create real life plans after connecting with what really matters to you.
By identifying, with this book as a guide, what the priorities are in your life, you will have a framework to, live your dream life.
Related to Live Your Dream Life
Related ebooks
The 5 Step Approach To Living in Your Gift Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe 7 Life Miracles: Conquer any goal and overcome any obstacle to unlock your dream life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSelf-Love: The Ultimate Solution Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsA New Way of Life: A Guide for Transformation from Living a Lie to Freeing Your Soul Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTurning Adversity into Purpose Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMagic in You Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsIT'S TIME TO START LIVING WITH PASSION!: YOUR JOURNEY To Self-Discovery Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYou are the Architect of Your Life: Designing, Building and Living the Life you Desire Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Blueprint: How to Design and Live a Life of Authenticity and Purpose Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHead to Heart Talks: Rediscovering Your Authentic Self! Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow to Create Prosperity Write Now Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFearless Thinking, Stress-Free Living: A Life Changing Solution for Peace and Happiness Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYour Best Days are ahead of you: Reverse the rut and unleash the best version of you Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsInspired Action: Create More Purpose, Productivity, & Peace in Your Life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSweet Spot Careers: A Practical and Creative Guide to a Successful Midlife Career Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDesign Your Life: Pursuing the Life You Want Without Losing Who You Are Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWhat Would You Do If You Knew You Could Not Fail?: How to Transform Fear into Courage Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDancing Through Life: Indulge Your Dreams and Pursue Life's Possibilities Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGiving Myself Permission to Grow: Seven Solutions for Personal Development Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Gift of Shift: Discover the Key Within to Unlock Your Best Life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow to Create an Extraordinary Life for Yourself Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFollow Your Passion and Live Your Life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSummary of Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living: Conversation Starters Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsReinvent Your Life: How to Turn Your Life Around, Rediscover the Fire of Your Faith, and Get Your Power Back Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsIt's Not Your Life, It's You: A Deeper Journey Into the Power of Perspective Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Joy of Living - 7 Steps to Give up Worry, Open Your Heart, and Love Your Life! Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBalancing Priorities and Prioritizing Balance Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Life Design for Women: Conscious Living as a Force for Positive Change Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Relationships For You
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Big Book of 30-Day Challenges: 60 Habit-Forming Programs to Live an Infinitely Better Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'm Glad My Mom Died Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5ADHD: A Hunter in a Farmer's World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Adult ADHD: How to Succeed as a Hunter in a Farmer's World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/58 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: The Narcissism Series, #1 Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Codependence and the Power of Detachment: How to Set Boundaries and Make Your Life Your Own Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Art of Loving Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5It's Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for Live Your Dream Life
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
Live Your Dream Life - Andy Marshall
LIVE
YOUR
DREAM
LIFE
Maximising happiness and balance
Andy Marshall
Andy Marshall
This is an IndieMosh book
brought to you by MoshPit Publishing
an imprint of Mosher’s Business Support Pty Ltd
PO BOX 147
Hazelbrook NSW 2779
https://www.indiemosh.com.au/
Copyright 2018 © Andy Marshall
All rights reserved
Licence Notes
This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to your favourite ebook retailer and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted by any person or entity, in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, scanning or by any information storage and retrieval system, without prior permission in writing from the author and publisher.
Disclaimer
Although the author has made every effort to ensure that the information in this book was correct at press time, the author and publisher do not assume and hereby disclaim any liability to any party for any loss, damage, or disruption caused by errors or omissions, whether such errors or omissions result from negligence, accident, or any other cause.
Andy Marshall
One of the things Andy Marshall loves the most, is people watching. The way people interact with each other and with the modern world tells us a lot about who they are. Andy is a pioneer Technoclientologist
. He created the term Technoclientology, which he defined as the psychology of how people act and interact in a modern world and so therefore, a technoclientologist looks at interactions, modernity, socialisation (aka Humanology 1.0 coined by Amy Jo Martin[i]) and insights from the field of neuroscience that, when combined, allow us to observe, collate data, analyse and draw conclusions about how people will react and make decisions in a given situation when faced with competing choices.
Andy suggests that a ‘technoclientologist’ uses these insights to enable people to become empowered and make decisions that are in their best interests. What is achieved here is the working towards a greater good.
And this is what this book is about. We, as humans interacting in a modern world, have choices, competing choices. We have areas of our lives that are important to us, that make us who we are. Yet in a modern, fast paced world, we have to make trade-offs. We have to juggle priorities and sometimes we do it to our detriment and at a cost to ourselves, our families, our personal growth and our health.
In this book Andy expertly steers us through how we feel and act when we have to play certain roles in our lives and why balance is much needed. Importantly he guides us towards achieving the balance that is right for us as individuals.
Live Your Dream Life
Acknowledgements
#believeinbetter
When I looked at research into life balance: and specifically, what areas of our lives really matter, and which have priority, and which have we neglected in lieu of others, one of the things that became immediately apparent was the impact of money and its’ influence on our behaviour and well-being. I was alarmed to find that a great number of people in democratic Western economies had effectively ‘given up’. These people believed that nothing they did would make a positive difference to their lot in life. The numbers were confronting. As many as 25% of people believed they would live hand to mouth, pay-check to pay-check. From experience, and research, this feeling of defeat was brought about less from a lack of financial resources, but rather from an inability to plan, to know how to explore financial options and to take stock of where people find themselves in life and to then apply basic concepts to their finances.
My parents were prime examples. On arriving from England and into Australia they became everyday ordinary working-class Australians. They mistrusted banks. They took advice from relatives. For a little while my fathers’ financial strategy was Race 6 Horse 4. To get ahead the only possibility seemed to be with luck. Luck at remarkably long odds.
They worked hard. And they provided a life for their children and opportunities to acquire knowledge through education that would in the long run serve them well. Whilst there was a lot in my childhood that went drastically awry, it was not through a lack of my parents trying the best they could.
I’ve not often expressed an acknowledgement of those efforts. So, for now, and in this moment, thanks Mum and Dad. It certainly wasn’t dull, and I really do respect that at the end of the day, we got there!
My reason for embarking on this project was in one way to celebrate the way people get by. The way they make do and provide for themselves and for their families. To showcase that for most of us we are doing the best we can. We need to applaud that. But we also need to highlight that there is with education and illumination often a better way.
Why can’t we have balance? Why can’t we have it all in a way that suits us and our circumstances? Why can’t we have a life of our choosing, of our design?
I believe that we can. I think it takes work. I think it takes planning. But most of all it takes time for us to set out what is really important to us. Prioritisation in this instance when we are looking for balance really matters.
For me my priority is my family.
Therefore, to my wife Kate, my children Jacque and Serena, you are the absolute reason that I smile every day. Thank you for your unending love and support.
Foreword
What is the most important area of your life?
Do I have the meaning of life here for you? And am I going to divulge it in the foreword?
Sadly no … well I don’t think I am, that’s not the plan anyway. That’s up to you to decide. For many of us we are slaves to certain aspects of our lives. Some people think it is money. My research and experience have shown that for many of us, we are under the control of a master, that master being money. It affects what we do for a living, how we allocate our other life tasks. It impacts our relationships and can determine the quality of our health. It determines where we live, perhaps whether or not we rent or own. It can cause us stress that changes our behaviours. As a result, because this book is about maximising balance and happiness across all areas of our lives, money, is an important element. However, it is more important to put money into context, to not place it unnecessarily as the centrepoint of our discussion. Ironically, though, I want to start the entire discussion with a story about the impact on so many life areas that money can have, to the extent that the influence of money can permeate into and become a detriment to the areas of life that are really important to people.
Let’s go back in time. It’s an early winters night. The sun has set. The sky is clear. And despite being in the suburbs of the city, there is not so much housing density, so the stars are starting to become visible. A mother and her 11-year-old son walk side by side from their home to a telephone box. There’s no phone connected at their home, and this is the age well before smart phones, so every few hundred metres or so there’s a public phone box. They have a mission tonight. At her sons’ pleading, the mother is about to make a phone call to the school music teacher. Specifically, a piano teacher. Mrs Boyle. There are piano lessons that the young boy has his heart set on. He watches the call being made from outside the phone box. He can’t really hear the conversation. His mother is softly spoken at the best of times, but tonight her tone is hushed even more so. The call finishes, the boy watches his mother exit the phone box and looks up expectantly. But there are no words spoken, just a look. A wait till we are home
look.
The home is modest, and sparsely furnished. They have been at the address for a year, but still, not only is there no phone connected, but also no dining table, no television, no carpets, no rugs. But it’s home. When they enter the home, the mother breaks the news that piano lessons wouldn’t be starting. Well they could but, what was the point. She had been convinced by Mrs Boyle that to make any good of it, access to a piano at home was in her mind a necessity, and that was a reality that in the circumstances they faced, that was not about to happen.
So, the boys’ mother set out to make it a reality. She worked extra shifts at the car parts factory and put whatever extra money she earned from those shifts towards buying her son a piano. Over the months that followed, it was within reach. That was until other bills, and necessities cropped up. The piano fund was exhausted, and so was she.
That was my mum. I was the 11-year-old boy.
Now, 11 was a tough year for me, lots of reasons that we will explore in the context of guiding you towards better life balance across all the key areas of your life. But if you think not learning the piano adversely affected me and still does some 39 years later, no that’s not the case. So boo-hoo I never got to learn the piano
, is not the message here.
What I am more interested in is why my mum had such limited options at hand. Why she and us, her family, were trapped in the cycle we were in. Why it was that money, was the master. And why based on one persons’ opinion there seemingly was only one option (in regard to the piano). I wonder about what she gave up in the desire to provide for and sustain her family both in a monetary, environmental and emotional sense. What about her needs? What did she want in her life? What did she give up? Neglect? Forget? Why couldn’t she have it all? Why couldn’t she have all the elements in her life in balance?
The short answer is, well it depends. It depends on what she wanted out of her life, what dreams she had to achieve, what she understood as being possible, what she needed and how all of this impacted the things in her life that were important to her. And since her focus was purely on money, here we have our first conundrum.
What is and what should be the connection between what’s important to us as individuals (or as a family unit) and the way in which our money is directed, the way we earn it and the way we spend it? When it comes to this single aspect of our lives, most of us haven’t thought about it, about money in that way, in such a detailed way. Some of us like ‘stuff’. We’d like to have more of it. For others it is a means to an end, and what is really important to those people, is family, love and health. Some of us understand that, in order to have the stability of simple things like housing and the associated amenities then, money is important, but we see it as a necessary evil and don’t focus energy on it. Don’t believe me? Here’s a simple example of how disconnected we can be, to money and our day to day life. American consumers spend about 8 hours researching a home loan[ii]. Roughly they look at a range of lenders and the main interest rate and then make a decision. The same consumers spend 11 hours when shopping for a car. Arguably one of the greatest financial commitments for most everyday people (apart from having kids) gets 8 hours of thought. Total.
The stress and focus on money, does have an impact. It affects other areas of our life. It interferes with what arguably is more important than money. Family, relationships, health. It seems to me that we need to think differently and reset.
This is what this book is about.
This book is about redirecting your thoughts.
What I mean by this is getting you to focus on what is really important in your life and getting you to answer questions about how much time you really spend nurturing what it is that makes you, you. And more importantly how much awareness do you have on what it is that will deliver to you the dreams you have for the future, for you and for your family.
In order to do that, we need to understand how we, we humans, think about things. How things, like having a home we are happy with, make us feel and why. And how those feelings impact other areas of our lives. It is only then when we have this sort of clarity that if required we can then deploy the resources we have, be that time, effort and money, towards the fulfillment of those goals and dreams we have. Investigating these lifestyle factors before ‘crunching the numbers’ is really critical. If we don’t have our own definition of success, that may or may not be dependent on how successfully we use our money, then how do we know if we are, in a position, to be happy or not?
For that reason, this book is structured as a workbook of sorts. Don’t groan and roll your eyes, you’re not getting tested on this (not by me anyway). At the end of each chapter I will ask you to assess how you feel (based on an informed view after reading the research on how the chapter topic impacts our well-being as human beings) about the key theme of the chapter and whether, or not it’s a priority for you, and to what extent.
See, it’s not going to be too arduous.
In fact, if anything this book will become as you read it, all about you. By identifying, with this book as a guide, what the priorities are in your life, you will have a framework to, dare I say it, live your dream life.
Introduction
When it comes to our daily lives, there seems to always be one constant that people find stressful. It as we have found, if you’ve read the foreword, money. In fact, close to a third of people, in a study of attitudes and behaviours to all matters financial, found dealing with money stressful and overwhelming.[iii] Now this stress is defined as stress on a continual basis. In other words, there is a group of everyday people, regular folk, in large numbers who avoid dealing with money issues, or when they do they are always overwhelmed by the task. Other studies provide insights into how dramatic this stress can be. The American Psychological Association, in their work on the matter similarly found a chunk of people are consumed by worry to the extent that it caused stress that manifested into sleep problems and at its’ extreme, depression. More disturbing though was that occasionally three quarters of us are stressed about money![iv]
But how are people really feeling about life issues? And how does this relate to money? Are people that stressed about the day to day? Or does money pale into insignificance because when it comes down to it, there are more important things in life that money?
To answer these questions and to gain insights into how people are feeling about a wide range of life issues, Living Your Dream Life conducted a survey[v] asking how people felt about aspects of their life and explored the impact that one of those life aspects, money, had on those life areas.
We assessed key life issues such as; health, and well-being, career