Matters of the Heart

By Ajiri Nsikak-Okoro

Matters of the Heart

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Apr 16, 2012
• ISBN: 9781469187426

Ajiri Nsikak-Okoro

Mrs. Ajiri Nsikak-Okoro (Nee Odhegba) is a chemical engineer by profession, but her passion is to see God’s kingdom birthed in the hearts of men. Consequently, she has been in active service in the Lord’s Kingdom since she gave her life to Christ on December 6th 1992. As a student at the University of Benin in Nigeria, she was very much involved in campus evangelism and in planting fellowships in other campuses. She was also one of the pioneer members of Christ Embassy Warri, Benin II and Port Harcourt. After working for the Lord in Christ Embassy for 7 years she moved with her husband to The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus House Port Harcourt after a brief stay of 6 months in House on the Rock, Port Harcourt. She presently worships at RCCG, Mercy Place Parish where she is a known committed sister. She has been to prisons, hospitals- psychiatric hospitals inclusive, motherless children’s homes to preach the gospel and pray for the sick and oppressed. She is happily married to Mr. Cornelius Nsikak Okoro and they are blessed with two children Ubong and Olivia Okoro.

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Copyright © 2012 by Ajiri Nsikak-Okoro.

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Contents

Forward

Introduction

1. This Thing Called Marriage

2. Love

3. Sex—Undefiled in Marriage

4. How Far Can I Go During Courtship?

5. Preparing for Married Life

6. Marriage is for the Spiritually Mature

7. Loving and Submitting

8. Some Other Challenges Marriages Face

9. Sexual Anomalies

10. Soulties—Ex Lovers

Last Words

DEDICATION

To

God Almighty and to

My Parents

Mr. and Mrs (Late) Joseph Odhegba

You brought me up with the best of your abilities

My Siblings

Martins, Viano, Stanley, and Mazino

Growing up with you was the best thing that could have happened to me. I appreciate the bond we have.

My Husband

Nsikak, you are the loveliest man a girl could ever ask for. You have been for me a rock in many ways you do not know. Thank you. I love you now and always

My Children

Ubong and Olivia, you love me senseless! And your love is bringing out the best in me. Individually unique, both of you are the best gifts God has given me.

I love you with my life.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

First, I would like to acknowledge my Father—God. He is the best thing that happened to my life. Jesus I love you now and forever. Holy Spirit, I thank you for your ever abiding presence.

Second. Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye. Thank you daddy for your cover, prayers, for leading by example, for being God’s voice to our generation

There are also pastors who have taught me the word at one time or the other:Rev Ray Okotcha, Pastor Miranghe Pela, Pastor Solomon Aror, Evang Eddy Owase, Pastor Tarry Rufus, Pastor Songo Ambie-Barango, Pastor Mark Igiehon, Pastor Ray Eli, Pastor Jide Odunlami, Pastor Idowu Iluyomade and Pastor Seye Kosoko.

I would like to acknowledge mummy Esther Ambie-Barango for being an example of a godly woman.

Finally, I would like to acknowledge Pastor Tony Rapu for being a huge inspiration and motivation.

Comments on Matters of the Hearts

‘Matters of the Heart’ is a bold and sometimes unabashedly direct discussion of the ‘delicate’ issues of love, life and sex within the context of Christian marriage. The author has taken on some topics that others would hesitate to tackle. You need to read it!

—Seye Kosoko.

Bold, forthright & instructive . . . This book touches on subjects that should not be ignored in this rapidly decaying world. A brief and handy guide for all, young and old . . . Enjoy . . .

—’Viano Odhegba.

Matters of the Heart is bold but not brash, truthful but not judgemental. I believe it will transform the life of anyone who takes it seriously.

Are you in a relationship, married or preparing to get married? Are you planning to raise a family or do you already have one? Are you having natural or unnatural struggles with sex, or do you want to enjoy your marriage, family and life as a whole? Matters of the Heart is a must read for you!

—Solomon A. Aror.

FORWARD 

It was written of Jesus Christ that He taught as one having authority and not as the Scribes. In this book, which is unabashedly Biblical in perspective, Ajiri Nsikak-Okoro presents with strong conviction, truths aimed at guiding the reader to an appreciation of the vital issues of life, love, family, marriage, sex and sexuality. Each chapter burns with a passion to minister to people with needs in these areas. And does that not include all of us?

For life to take on true meaning and become purposeful, we must have clear convictions about the distinctions between right and wrong. Irrespective of the current humanistic doctrine of socio-political correctness, which is vying for prominence in many churches around the world, we must hold on to the word of God, because fruitful lives are achieved only by adhering to His truth and not to what is politically correct. The timeless counsel of God still stands sure and unambiguous, and if your life is lived based on it, your life will be