Breeding Success and Life's Issues

By Becky Enyioma

Breeding Success and Lifes Issues focuses
on the need to be a successful person and having
the right mind-set to be able to achieve that.
For success to occur, one has to be prepared
for it. It doesnt happen in one day, it doesnt
happen in one week. But what matters most
is preparation. The book serves as a piece to
advice people who are also going through real
life issues and with the few examples illustrating
that, one can certainly derive positivity and
confi dence just from reading the book.
The thing about those who breed
success, is if you leave them stranded on an
Island, instead of them building a canoe to
paddle across in no time, they would rather
save their energy by becoming conversant with
their environment by thinkingSURVIVAL
fi rst, thus charging up their instincts as the sea
roughens. They will think of shelter, food, and
clothing before escape.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris UK
• Release date: Sep 1, 2010
• ISBN: 9781453565315

Becky Enyioma

Born in Port Harcourt, Nigeria, Becky Enyioma, started her creative career as a singer and a songwriter, before discovering later on that she could also have a career in writing. Her town of Origin is Akwete Ndoki, in Abia state, Nigeria. She started her career as a singer from a very young age, and has produced a couple of albums back home. She also had a brief career in acting, before relocating to the United Kingdom. She compares writing a book to “writing a song with many chapters”. Over the years, she’s also developed a passion for listening to people and the issues they encounter in their daily lives. She always says that “the problems that humans face in life are similar, but with different plots and settings”. She holds a Master of Arts Degree from the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, in English and film.

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Copyright © 2010 by Becky Enyioma.

Library of Congress Control Number: 2010912682

ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-4535-6530-8

ISBN: Softcover    978-1-4535-6529-2

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Contents

Introduction

Chapter One

Those who breed success.

Chapter Two

Time is Money.

Chapter Three

Do the best you can,

and leave the rest to fate.

Chapter Four

A pale copy of true love.

Chapter Five

Kind words of the Wicked.

Chapter Six

Having a clear and expanded vision.

Chapter Seven

How content are you?

Chapter Eight

Accepting Change.

About the Author

To my Children—John and Joshua.

To achieve success, you must put your best foot forward and make sure it is leprosy free. Make sure it is clean, and present yourself attractively. Work on yourself, and let success be attracted to you!

Becky Enyioma

The author of this book does not recommend the topics in this book to be applicable to life in a more general sense. It is only a way of reasoning that has been put together in writing as a means to entertain the mind. The author would not be held liable for anyone who has put these words to practice. They are merely her way of looking at life and dealing with issues. The intent of the author is only to offer information on how she looks at life, and does not advice such information to become an aspect or aspects of practicality. In the event that you use any information contained in this book for yourself, the author and the publisher, assume no responsibility for your actions.

Introduction

Breeding success and Life’s issues, was inspired by my need to be a better person in life; having been through the difficulties of life, I discovered I had to learn many things all by myself. Life dealt me terrible blows to the point where I felt like giving up. In fact, I was on the verge of giving up when I suddenly sprang up and redefined that word motivation for me to be able to move on.

I had to motivate myself to continue pushing forward and never give up. I had no one to help me, I simply learnt how to come out of it all, just by telling myself words that are found in this book. It was not an easy journey for me, but it was all worth it. I learnt the hard way.

Over the years I was in emotional pain, due to a failed marriage and having to split the children every now and again with my ex husband, I looked around for help, but found none. Instead, I was surrounded with people that didn’t care to indulge me with motivational or inspiring words; rather, they wanted to add more grievances to what I already had on my plate. As it gradually donned on me that they weren’t helping matters, I cut off all ties from them, and became withdrawn, fighting my battle alone, and hoping that things would get better.

That was the only time that the word ‘seclusion’ had made any sense to me. I believed in my heart, that if I wanted to amend the issues in my life, I had to seclude myself from the many people around me at the time. And when I extricated myself; avoiding their gatherings and parties, and avoiding their phone calls, suddenly things began to fit into place. What I really needed was to make the journey all on my own. What I really needed was for me to be away from people, to enable me bear my own cross in seclusion, thus learning the lessons of life at first hand experience. I needed to experience it, all by myself. And it worked.

Of course, things got better, but I had to lose some other things along the way. I lost the family I once had, and changed from being married to being divorced. My pain and my sorrow, led me into being a very strong woman; and I became strong enough by discovering that if I wanted change to occur in my life, I had to do something about the situation, else it was going to eat me alive. And my only objection was to stand on my two feet and face the challenges as they came.

But I had to first, be truthful to myself about my situation instead of shielding it. I was simply in an abusive marriage and all that years of verbal and domestic abuse had slowly caught up with me. I was beginning to let go of life. But in time, just out of nowhere, I summoned up the courage to stand up and face my battles, else I was going to hit rock bottom pretty fast.

My triumph didn’t arrive in one day; I told myself all the words found in this book. I knew I was stuck on an Island; having been brought over to the United Kingdom by my husband at the time, and for me, the United Kingdom was an Island where I had to start life all over again. I simply craved for success. And for me to be successful or come out of pain, I had to become conversant with my environment. Of course, the United Kingdom is really an Island, but for a woman going through the pang of divorce in a country foreign to her, it was not an ordinary Island. It was a painful one, and a painful experience it was.

No one advised me; no one came to my rescue. I knew I had to fight for myself by remaining sane and focused. I told myself daily, that things were going to get better. Slowly, I took each step, and within a space of four years since I relocated to the United Kingdom, I had my second child, while I was still in the marriage; twelve months later, the marriage failed, and separation/divorce proceedings began. Within that time, I decided to go back to university, and as I took each step through the coldest winter days, I knew I had to remain strong and continued pushing. I knew that the divorce process was just a means to deviate my attention from what I was yet to achieve. I refused to negotiate with words like ‘give up’.

Once the storm was over, I finally graduated with a Master of Arts degree in English and Film, from the University of Aberdeen; became a British citizen—despite the fact that my ex-husband had been legally battling I leave the United Kingdom, and his overall plan was that I went back to my country, thus abandoning everything I had been working so hard to achieve-and got my life back.

My creator was on my side. For me to become successful, I had to remain positive. And so I was. Through it all, I simply refused to give up. I came out of it all, a Winner! I am a winner because I did not let all that negativity to deprive me of who and what I hoped to achieve.

My main reason for writing this book is for someone out there, who may be going through the same thing I went through. My word to you is ‘perseverance’. I felt someone out there, may be in need of help; and just like me, they might end up having nowhere to turn to. So I made a decision to put this down as words of advice for those that may need it, or for those who just want to know some of my thoughts. I have derived joy from this book, as I am aware that it will help anyone out there whenever they need some motivational words.

This book shall support you all the way, because I have been through the hardship of life as a woman. I know how it feels to strive for success, and having all the negative factors try to pull you down from your dreams. But, you have to remain strong and focused, just like I did. And remember, that what you may be facing today is an experience that prepares you for greater things that are yet to occur tomorrow.

I am fighting every day for my success in life, and failure has found no dwelling place in me. I have also added some pages from my first book, titled A Journey of Thoughts and Realities, taken from the sub-title, Thoughts I knew not, just in case you come across some familiar words. Above all, remember to always pray. Surround yourself with positivity. Indulge your thoughts and actions in those positive energies surrounding you.

Have a good read and remain blessed.

Love

Becky Enyioma.

Chapter One

Those who breed success.

The thing about those who breed success, is if you leave them stranded on an Island, instead of them building a canoe to paddle across in no time, they would rather save their energy by becoming conversant with their environment by thinking—SURVIVAL first, thus charging up their instincts as the sea roughens. They will think of shelter, food, and clothing before escape. They are very strategic in their thoughts and actions. They waste no time in lamentations. They only know how to move forward and not backwards. They are focused despite the situation. If they are caught in a difficult situation, it only empowers them to forge ahead in life. They have strength of will to forge ahead in every situation.

The major points here are:

A. A successful person; a person that breeds success, and capable of deriving success in any environment. Such person can be distinguished from a group of people or from the crowd; because of they have a drive for success. They can push boundaries, and break through any barriers.

B. The setting or the situation in which they find themselves. In this case, such setting is an Island; a place of isolation; a place worth getting used to, if one hopes to survive there.

C. The necessities; the essentials highly required for survival, which are-shelter, food, and clothing.

D. The vessel via which escape is possible, and that will be, the canoe.

E. The situation and challenge; the rough sea. And the synonyms of rough are as follows: uneven, coarse, bumpy, irregular, jagged, violent, and forceful. When such words are synonymous to a ‘rough’ situation, then it means that anyone caught on the Island, would be faced with difficulty. But, they are able to grab the bull by the horns, by facing their challenges. How will a person caught in such a rough situation, handle matters? What exactly does one do on an Island if they are left stranded? Bearing in mind that the surface of the situation is not smooth at all, but uneven,