While I'm Waiting: What Every Woman Should Know Before Getting Married

By Judy Scott

Let me begin by saying that the Lord loves you. He loves you more than you love yourself. The Bible says that he loves us with an everlasting love (Jer. 31:3). Gods love for you my sister, is steadfast, perpetual and beyond description. God wants you to know today that he is with you and has not forgotten about you. I know your adversary has been trying to wear you down and make you give up and walk away from God. He wants you to believe that God does not love you-that he does not care about you. He will tell you that it will never happen for you, that youre getting old, that youre not pretty enough and no one will want you. These are lies, all lies! Sister, can I please tell you that what God is planning for you is far greater than anything you can plan for yourself. Whatever you do, dont give up, you cannot walk away from God! You must take God at His Word and know that he will come through for you. The man that God has for you is worth waiting for. Wait on the Lord, my Sister and again I say, Wait! You will NOT be disappointed if you wait on God. Sure, you can go out and get your own man. Of course you can. You can hook yourself up! But, if you do that, youll end up with someone that is not Gods best for you. Dont cheat yourself, Sister. God will not fail you. Hold on to God and let Him hold on to you. The rest of your life will be the best of your life. Let God write your love story.

Wow! What an awesome conference, focused on one theme: encouraging women to wait on the Lord! None of us need to go to one more conference, unless its the right conference. While Im Waiting is the right conference. Dr. Cheri Pavi Givens

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 31, 2014
• ISBN: 9781490828831

Judy Scott

Judy Scott is a prophetess and minister. The Lord has given her a tremendous gift to be able minister to single women in such times as these. She is an avid writer and has written for many newsletters, programs, and booklets. Judy is a deeply devoted, Christian, single woman who like many single women is faithfully waiting for her Boaz. Judy resides in Seattle, Washington. She enjoys the outdoors, reading, writing, and exploring.

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WestBow Press rev. date: 05/22/2014

Contents

Introduction

‘A Letter to Unmarried Women’

Part I:

‘Don’t Put the Cart before the Horse’

‘Trust in the Lord’

‘Wait! Before You Say I Do’

‘No Kissing & No Sex before Marriage!’

Part II:

‘A Wise Woman Builds her House’

‘He Didn’t Tell Me That’

‘Identity Crisis’ (Who Are You?)

‘The Place called There’

‘Submission’

Part III:

‘Develop a Prayer Life’

‘Loving Yourself’

‘Dealing with Your Issues’

‘God Will Develop Your Character’

‘Be Faithful’

Part IV:

‘Become a Worshipper’

‘What’s in A Name?’

‘God’s Terms & Conditions’

‘The Needs of a Husband’

Part V:

‘Volunteer Your Time’

‘A Merry Heart does Good like a Medicine’

‘Let the Older women Teach the Younger Women’

‘Foods that will minister to your Mind, Body and Soul’

‘Important Things You Need to Know’

Prayer of Repentance

Finale: ‘A Love Letter from your Heavenly Father’

My Dearest Sister:

Grace and Peace to You in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!

I am humbled and overjoyed that you have made the decision to read my book. It is my sincere prayer that this book will encourage, inspire and help to prepare you for all of the wonderful things the Lord has in store for you, especially your Boaz!

Early in 2010 the Lord gave me a beautiful dream about single women getting married……..the dream was so vivid, and encouraging. Immediately I began to share the dream with others. In November 2011, the Lord told me to "Gather His Daughters" together and share the dream & the Word that He would give me for them. God began to tell me that "his heart was grieved for his unmarried daughters, He said that our cries had come up to him; that he had heard our prayers for husbands and that He would answer."

I immediately called my pastor’s wife, Laura and shared with her what the Lord had instructed me to do. She was in complete agreement and asked if she could help. What a blessing she is! I thank God for her, and the treasure she is in the kingdom.

In Genesis 2:21-22 ….the bible says that "the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed it up with flesh. And then the Lord made the woman….and brought her to the man." And just as God created Eve for Adam, he created a man just for you. He has someone very special in mind for you. All you have to do is trust Him to bring you to your husband. Can I please tell you that what God has for you is far better than what you can choose for yourself. He wants to give you a man that will honor and cherish You, a man that will respect and love you as you deserve. Women are God’s unique and special creatures; you are very special to the Lord.

Sister’s, do not take matters into your own hands, you do not have to try and bless yourself; or hook yourself up, let God hook you up. If God doesn’t have it, then you don’t want it. God wants you to know today that there is no lack-no shortage of anything in His kingdom! Whatever it is that you need, God has it for you. You do not have to leave the church, you don’t have to backslide. Hold on to God, and let God hold on to you. Don’t give up and walk away from God thinking you cannot wait any longer. God will help you to Wait, if you let him.

To all of the dear women that are reading this book today and have not yet accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, I’d like to invite you to welcome Jesus into your heart’s. He is standing with open arms waiting to be your friend. God has so many blessings that he wants to give to you - All of his promises are for you as well! Open your heart today and invite him in, He created you & desires to have a relationship with you. "For I know the plans I have for you …plans for good and not evil…to give you a future and a hope." (Jer. 29:11)

Precious women of God, if you have prayed and asked God for a husband, then know that God has answered your prayer today! "Before they call I will answer, and while they are yet speaking I will hear them." (Isa. 65:24) The next thing you must do is Wait for God to bring him to you and trust that God will keep his promise to you. You do not have to go looking for him - he will find you. "Whoso findeth a wife…findeth a good thing …." (Prov. 18:22) God wants to bless you beyond your wildest imaginations. You are valuable and important to God! Let God write your Love Story, Sister! There is not a man on the planet that can love you more than God loves you. The Father’s love for you is indescribable. God wants to give you a husband that will love you like God loves you. Like Christ loves the Church. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it." (Eph. 5:25)

God will come through for you. Remember He is faithful that promised. God’s time is not our time, but, he’s always on time! May God continue to keep you in His tender loving care.

Prayerfully,

Judy Scott

‘Don’t Put the Cart before the Horse’

-Don’t begin Dating before Inquiring of God First’

Before you say ‘I do’ and before you fall in love, seek the Lord first. In other words, don’t go falling in love and make a commitment to someone before you’ve sought the Lord. What should you do? When someone asks you out and if he’s someone that you think you would like to go out with, the first thing you need to do is Pray about him and get God’s approval. The bible says "In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy path." (Prov. 3:6) Now, remember you’re not praying alone, he should be praying also. So, you would say something to the effect of "Yes, I would like to go out with you, but, I’d like for us to pray about it first. Would you join me in praying over the next 2 weeks, as we inquire of God?" After the two week period and IF you believe that you have your Heavenly Father’s approval then you accept his invitation for the date. After the first date you both may decide you’re not interested in each other. Sometimes in the span of just one hour of talking to someone you’ll know that you’re not interested. The bible says ‘….out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks" (Matt. 12:34)

However if you both decide you’d like to continue to see each other and feel that ‘this could really be it’ then you bring others in. You then want to go to your pastor(s) and tell them that you’ve met someone special and ask them if they will pray with you. (you’re not going to your pastors as a couple, he should go to his pastor and you go to yours) Also, this is where you tell your parents & friends, mothers in the church, other Godly people that hold you accountable that you’ve met someone very special; that the two of you are dating and getting to know each other and ask if they will be praying for you. "In the multitude of Godly counsel is safety." (Prov. 11:14) Now I am sure you would agree with me that this is not the ‘norm’ in the church today.

Since the bible doesn’t give us a script on how to date, there is a ‘free for all’ in the church.

This is what usually happens. A brother see’s an attractive woman, he asks her out, she says Yes. They begin dating, she usually falls quite hard for him; after dating her awhile he decides that he’s not that interested in her and for whatever reason dumps her! He’s then off to the next sister; they begin dating, etc… Before you know it, he’s dated at least 8-10 women in the church and sometimes outside of the church. And what are the sister’s doing? They are sitting around ‘rolling their eyes’ at each other, talking about each other. This kind of ‘dating’ in the church causes nothing but confusion and division.

Well, we all know that God is not the author of confusion. Yet, this is what happens when we do things our way and not God’s way. The word of God is the blueprint for our lives. God’s word always, ALWAYS has the answers we’re looking for. Even in this 21st century, with the rules constantly changing - God’s Word will never change. God’s Word is the standard for our lives. He will not change his word for us or to accommodate us. Sister’s, we are not desperate. We are not hard up. We will not settle for less. If you respect yourself, you will get respect.

Whether your pastor is male/or female you should ask your Pastor to cover you in prayer, this way you are acknowledging God first and his will for your life - when you acknowledge your pastors, you are acknowledging God.

Your pastor is your spiritual covering, they sit in God’s stead - pastors sometimes see things that you can’t see and if your pastor happens to be a man, that’s even better, because men know men. But, you definitely want to include him/them in this process.

Another reason to seek the Lord first ladies is, we are emotional creatures. We fall in love easily or so we think. Many times we think we’re in love when we’re really not. Sometimes we are feeling lonely and just want to be with a man. Some women will begin dating a man and after only a few dates we are ‘ready to pick out the china pattern’, or a brother at church holds the door open for us or speaks kindly to us and we think he really likes me! He’s just being a gentleman! Now you know this happens! So slow down, Girl. Let the Lord lead you. Pray and ask God to give you wisdom in every area of your life. Ask God to show you how to interact with single men and how to carry yourself. Respect yourself and you’ll get respect. Get that ‘desperate’ sign off your forehead; men can see that sign a mile away and you’ll become easy prey for the wrong kind of men. They also see that ‘needy’ sign a mile away – and for a real man of God it is very unattractive to see women throwing themselves at men. A real man of God wants a real woman of God.

You should not be flirting, not with your body or with your eyes, etc. Just because you’re single and he’s single does not mean you get a free pass. You are a woman of God - God’s woman, act like it! Your ‘single’ brothers in the church are your brothers in the Lord. Treat him like you would treat a brother. He might be a fine brother, but he’s still your brother. When you walk, walk like a lady, not like you’re hoping that he’s watching. When you talk, talk like a lady. You should always carry yourself in a respectful manner, always conscious that your Heavenly Father is watching you. He knows your heart, and your motives. You can’t fool God. He see’s through your game playing - he see’s through your manipulations. Don’t be one of those women who sit and scheme on how they are going to put the ‘moves on him!’ He has shown no interest in you, but, you are determined to get him to notice you anyway. Women do not chase men. Men are supposed to do the chasing. Women are not supposed to ask men out, it’s the man that asks the woman out. We are not supposed to throw ourselves at men. We do not go seeking after them. They are to seek after us. It’s he that findeth a wife…. If you go around seducing men and doing what you want to do you will not get who/what God has for you. If you ask a man, a real man of God how he feels about a woman asking him out or to have a woman pursuing him, he will tell you that he is ‘turned off’ by it. Come on sisters, you know how women in the world do when they’re looking for a man – they put on their freak-um dresses and go to the Club to get them a man! Women of God don’t put on freakum dresses and go looking for men. God forbid! You’re in the church now - we don’t behave like that in the church. Let God give you your man. Trust him to bring him to you. We are women of God, let’s act like it. We don’t want to grieve the Holy Spirit.

You may be longing for a companion, you may be wondering, Lord, when are you