She Rules: A Must Have Rulebook for Dating

By Rachel Renee

Dating is HARD! But not anymore! Rachel does all the dating for you and gives you all the secrets that will have him coming back begging for more.
No more sitting around waiting for his calls. No more being dumped. These tested techniques will have him calling you non-stop and you will be the one doing all the dumping.
Whether you're new to the dating world, tried it but had little success, haven't dated in a while, or recently out of a long term relationship and have forgotten how to date SHE RULES will help you regain your confidence and give you the tips you need to succeed.
Get a hilarious look into real life dating scenarios. Discover all the tools you need to get what you want out of him.
This witty, controversial, direct yet truthful and effective guide to dating reveals concepts to help you understand men in an entirely new way and how to keep the power in your hands.
It's YOUR way or NO way!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Jan 9, 2014
• ISBN: 9781452588476

Rachel Renee

After receiving a degree in Journalism, Rachel went on to study "relationships". “Women always ask me for dating advice and how I get men so wrapped up. ‘What’s the secret?’” After developing a few key components she then dedicated four years of her life to dating all types of men to test out some techniques she came up with. SHE RULES are the basic fundamentals every woman MUST know when entering the dating world. Rachel now lives in Los Angeles, CA where she continues her study of “relationships” and documents her findings for further “testing”.

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ISBN: 978-1-4525-8846-9 (sc)

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Balboa Press rev. date: 1/9/2014

Contents

Understanding Biological Imperatives

Get The Game

Standards And Boundaries

Groupies, Boosters & Gold Diggers

Men Think Different

Manage Your Time

Control Your Emotions

Taken Men

Single Men

No Money, No Time

Training Time

Trick and Trap

Catch a Clue

Dirty Talk

Fillings Over Feelings

Pay to be Played

Seduce Your Man

Make It A Habit

Time Fillers

Prelude

About the Author

Special Thanks

Photo Credits

Understanding Biological Imperatives

B IOLOGICAL IMPERATIVES, what is that? This is the answer to all of your questions. Once you learn this and get it down, this is what’s going to keep him on his toes with you. This is what’s going to give you the upper hand in all of your dating relationships. So what is it, you ask. Essentially these are the needs of every living creature to carry on with life. So basically the answers and reasoning to why women are the way that they are and why men are the way that they are. As you probably already know, women are stereo-typed as always wanting to be in a relationship and waiting for the man to want to take things to the next level. It’s mainly women that are waiting around for a man to pop the question, right? And men are mainly known for not committing and not settling down. It seems like all men want to do is spread their seed. Poppa was a rolling stone, isn’t that what they say? So how could majority of women want to settle down and majority of men want to run around? We are both people with the same basic needs of survival right? However when it comes to men and women a few of our biological imperatives differ from each other.

Women seek security. This is how you get the gold diggers label for women. Women want to be secure and stable. Subconsciously they go after things to fulfill this missing aspect in their life, which mainly these things happen to end up being money and men. Men secure women by making them their wife and taking care of their financial needs. But men on the other hand, men seek satisfaction. They need to feel good about themselves. They need to feel manly. So what do they go after? Money and sex. The more money they have the better they feel about themselves. The more women they have, the better they feel about themselves. And of course sex to fulfill their physical needs for satisfaction. He just wants to feel good. He needs sex to make him feel good and he needs money to make himself feel good. And this is how women and men seem to always want two different things. It’s because indeed they do want two different things and therefore it is depicted in their behavior.

Once you understand a man’s biological imperatives, this will always give you the upper hand. You know what he wants, you make him think he is going to get what he wants, but you never end up giving in. The more he thinks he is going to get what he wants from you, the more he will give you to ensure it will happen. This is the name of the game ladies. Now you just have to learn how to use it to your advantage. Use your knowledge to benefit you.

Get The Game

F IRST AND foremost, we have to make sure that we are on point with our game. Get used to the fact that we are in the millennium and women nowadays have game too! Sometimes even better than these men out here! When a guy talks to us and we respond back with interest, then most likely we used ourselves as bait to get that man to talk to us in the first place. Duh! As a woman you must know what you’re doing and you must know how to bag a guy, it’s not rocket science. It’s very simple. It’s even easier when we meet a guy through mutual friends because it’s not as awkward. They’re not really considered a stranger and automatically you look at each other as friends, simply because the two of you share the same friend. But what I mean by, this makes things easier, is that it makes it easier to run our game on a man we meet through a friend and it makes it more likely for him to fall for it. Chances are, we’ve already been given the rundown about him. We walk in already knowing who we’re there to catch and all it takes is a little thing called FLIRTING. We know exactly who our prey is and he has been chosen carefully for a reason. Whatever the reason may be, but the goal is to add him to the team. We must have seen something in him, something that was beneficial for us and now we’re just there to recruit him. We’re just going to add him to the team of players we already have working for us. Each man is just a player on the team, but we’re the coach. Each man has something special about him, a different reason he has been recruited, a different position on the team. But trust me when I say each man is scouted out and chosen before we even meet them.

Please be sure to do your homework on a man. Choose wisely and carefully. We prefer quality over quantity. Do not be afraid, even if you feel like you’re not ready, you don’t have the experience, you don’t have the confidence because this is very easy. Believe it or not, a guy is the easiest thing to catch. A little eye contact and a pretty smile on the face will do the job. Once we get to talking, it’s a wrap! 9 times out of 10 we already know what we need to know about him, if we sought him out carefully. There should always be one thing you know about him, that should be the main reason you sought him out. The main reason you baited yourself to hook him and reel him in. We just have to act like we don’t know anything about him. Hence this should always be the reason why we even gave him the time of day.

Perfect example: A friend of mine took me to meet up with one of her guy friends and his friends. Before we got there, she tells me that her guy already told her, his friend plays for the NFL and is single. So of course, naturally my ears perk up. We walk into the restaurant, we meet all the guys, and all I focus on is which guy I need to be flirting with. Since I didn’t know who was who, I was playing it safe and keeping open convo with all the friends. Shortly after I was able to pick up subtle clues and hints as to who was calling the shots and paying the bills. At the end of the day, regardless of a man’s profession, hustler, athlete, businessman, et cetera, all that matters out of a group of men is who the shot callers are. Those are the men that have already been scouted out before we even meet them, or during the first meeting. And this is the reason us women have used ourselves as bait to get the man’s attention in the first place.

I know it sounds bad, but, hey, it’s human nature! Don’t make me out to be the bad guy because I’m shedding light to what’s already going on in the world every day! Now I’m not saying that men don’t do the same when it comes to women, I’m just telling you what’s really going on with us women that have been single for a while and don’t jump in and out of relationships quickly. We are constantly doing our homework on men. Basically, who is and isn’t worth our time.

Now, sometimes we run into those men who fool us. Walking around looking like a million bucks from the outside, but the inside of their wallets is broker than ours. But these fronters are not hard to reveal after a few convos and maybe a date or two. The guys who do the most talking, trying to sound like a big shot, trying to show off, are usually the ones with the least amount of money, trying to convince anyone around them of the opposite, including themselves. This is not the type of guy you want to go for. If for some reason he does have money and he’s a big flasher and always wants to talk about what he has and show it off, then chances are he is new to having money.

These guys should quickly be avoided because as quick as he fell into money will be as quick as he falls out of it. Typically when you see that guy that’s quiet, sitting down, acting with class, probably wearing a nice watch and some brand name shoes, he is the one with the most money in the group. If you’re unsure, an easy way to tell (if you’re out) is, who is grabbing the check for the table? The guy that’s paying the bill is the guy that’s funding a night out with his boys. This is the guy we want to stop before he walks out the door if we haven’t already. And as I stated before, it’s super easy to do, make sure you make constant eye contact (but don’t stare like you’re a weirdo) and smile. Make sure you walk, talk and act like you’re worth a million bucks. I don’t mean act stuck up or like a snob, I mean act with class and confidence. I don’t care if you just got out of the gym or have been dancing all night and you’re stinky, smelly and sweaty. I don’t care if you don’t have makeup on or if you’re not wearing your best outfit, you act like you smell amazing and look even better. Who do you think is the most beautiful woman ever, celeb or whomever it may be? I want you to imagine her, and imagine how she would act. Have poise and confidence and keep your head held high. One thing a man will notice out of a room filled with people is a woman with confidence. Talk to your girlfriends in his view, make sure you look like you’re enjoying yourself, care-free, just a night out with the girls and keep your SMILE! Very important!! Men love a woman’s smile.

Naturally when getting to know a man he will stand guarded, whether he acts like it or not. And all men think they are slick on their toes to not catch feelings or ever fall for one woman, which can be true in most cases. But beware, there is always one female slick enough to make him think she is different and she’s the one. And if he is of any value, then he should know this is all game. And like the straight dummy that he is, he will open up and let her in and this is where he fails. Because you see, ladies, the trick is opening these guys up and getting to know aspects about them that the typical person doesn’t care to find out about them. The trick to this is taking control of the situation and conversations, and not just going with the flow and always going along with what he says. Be a challenge! Give him the challenge he needs and wants. Men love a challenge. Keep him in suspense, keep him on his toes. Don’t always respond back to every single text and don’t always respond back immediately. Don’t always take forever to respond either, mix up the reply time, let him wonder. Don’t always accept every single invitation he offers you to go out with him. You can only get so far being a yes woman and saying yes to everything he says and suggests.

If this is your show, then act like this is your show and act like you’re in charge. I don’t mean be bossy and demanding, but don’t be afraid to grab hold of the reins and take control. Put your best foot forward, get to know this guy and poke around a little bit. Find the right topics to bring up and ask the not frequently asked questions. Let him do all of the talking. Men love to hear themselves talk. Keep engaging into whatever he is saying by asking, Why? How so? What makes you think that? How did it end up? Et cetera. Whenever he stops talking that is your cue to throw in one of those engaging comments to keep him going. If you let a man talk about himself, when the date is over he will have had an amazing time with you and won’t understand why. He will want to see you again.

Another thing you want to do aside from smiling and letting him talk is to laugh. Just laugh at everything he says. Even if it’s not funny just laugh. Men really like this, it makes them feel good inside. He’ll end up thinking something like I like having her around she laughs at everything I say. He can’t help but to ask you out again because he likes having you around now. You listen and engage, he watches your beautiful smile while he talks and you laugh at all his jokes. This is what guys like. It makes them feel like a man. And we all know men like when they can really feel like a man. Make sure you suggest other activities to enjoy together other than the typical dinner and a movie date. This will show you their real interests and who they really are as a person much quicker.

Most importantly, you will open them up on your terms, not theirs. Once this happens, they will give in and fall, and will never realize you are the girl they were warned about.

Now, one thing you don’t want to do when you’re out with your girlfriends, even if you have revealed who your target is, is do not overdo it! Always remember that. Don’t push it and be overly flirty. This is not cute and your message will get crossed with a desperate woman throwing herself at a guy message. He’ll do one of two things if he does receive this message from you. One, he’ll be completely turned off and won’t give you the time of day. He’ll turn his attention to another woman that stood out and baited herself the right way. Or two, he still likes what he sees, so he’s going to try and take you home as a good time. He will never take you serious nor treat the situation seriously.

Upfront you want to be sure to gain his respect. This is key, you want a man that respects you. It will determine how he will treat you the remainder of the relationship. And if you have his respect, he will treat you properly, like a lady should be treated. Don’t ever settle for anything less than being treated like a lady. You don’t ever want him to think that this is ok and you will stand for it. Hold your ground when it comes to respect and demand it in how you behave. Don’t let him walk all over you, and don’t let him get over on you either. If this means turning his invitation down because he decided to ask you out at 11 o’ clock at night to catch a movie, then turn it down. I don’t care how much you think you like him or need him on the team.

At the end of the day, a man will never respect a lady that doesn’t demand his respect. And be real for a second, what would you think about someone else getting an invitation out at midnight? Booty call; right? So don’t do this to yourself. Don’t put yourself in these positions. Don’t be afraid to tell a man no if