Tales of the Single Woman: A Humorous Encounter with the Single Nigerian Woman
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The book adopts a humorous, yet story telling, approach to an issue that has become a major conversation header in the Nigerian society.
It ends with advice on how woman can live their single lives fearlessly and without apologies.
Chioma Obiefuna
The book is about the very interesting and multi faceted life of the single woman in the West African country, Nigeria. Chioma Obiefuna is a Nigerian woman, resident in her home country. After acquiring degrees in Mass Communications and an MBA in Business Administration, she worked in the financial services industry for ten years before leaving her consuming job to pursue more personal goals and interests. She is a keen observer of human nature; she is also friend to many single women in her home land and have watched, listened, empathised and sympathised with their many emotional roller coasters and journeys including the funny and not-so-funny. On many occasions, she has found herself wincing over the general attitude, perceptions and jokes directed towards this amazing group of women, without regard to their personal life achievements. Her personal motto is to live life happy, utilising the power of the mind over matter. She is a strong believer that the pursuit of personal happiness is as unique as every individual and no one should feel obliged to live the dreams and aspirations set down by societal guidelines. She is also passionate about the philosophy of not being slaves to our environment but working hard at living our best lives, whether or not it is in conformity with the society's acceptable standards. She is wife to a refreshingly unconventional man, mother to three lively children and friend to an assortment of people whom she shares many conversations with.
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Tales of the Single Woman - Chioma Obiefuna
© 2011 by Chioma Obiefuna. All rights reserved.
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First published by AuthorHouse 08/02/2011
ISBN: 978-1-4567-8769-1 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4567-8770-7 (ebk)
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Contents
DEDICATION
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Introduction
Reasons for the Single Life
Tales of Some Single Women
Humorous and Not-so-humorous reactions to the singles in our midst
Challenges of the Matured Single
The Single Types
The New Single—Living Your Life
in the Ultimate Way
About the Author
DEDICATION
border.jpgI dedicate this book to all the fabulous single women in Nigeria. Special greetings to my best friends and those who opened their hearts and shared their experiences with me for this project… . you know who you are. I love you girls. Keep the humour flag flying!!!
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
border.jpgI would like to express my most sincere gratitude to my husband, Chudi, a very strong neutral—who contributed ideas to this project.
Introduction
border.jpgIf you’re reading this book, then I’m going to assume you’re as open minded as I am… . and have a sense of humour too. Oh yes!! In our cultural climate, a sense of humour is necessary to survive as a single matured woman. Before I go further, let me clarify: this is not an academic work. I am not a psychologist, a sociologist or a scholar in any way. I am not even single. But before you say ‘Why is she writing this stuff then?’, let me say that I fall under one of the categorisations outlined in later pages of this book. I’ll leave you to decide which one you think I fit into. Mostly, however, I know quite a number of single women and I have watched, listened, empathised and sympathised with their many emotional roller coasters. I have also been mortified by certain observations I have made on the general perception and attitude towards the mature single woman and have found myself wincing on many occasions at some of the jibes taken at them or the jokes coined from their status.
Unfortunately, in our society, the single woman is not as respected as she should be. No matter her accomplishments, she is judged as slightly less than whole if she is without a husband by her side. People would applaud her, but they would also wonder about the reason for her status. Some would pity her, some would gloat about her inability to get a man and there would be those who would imagine all the attitudinal issues she must have which have made her unattractive to the opposite sex.
All these perceptions can be attributed to the accepted ‘soul mate ideal’ advocated by social scientists and the general populace at large. This basically reinforces the idea that human beings can only be fulfilled when they have a partner in the form of a husband or wife. Looking at it, this ideal is also espoused by the religion of Christianity whereby God looked at Adam, saw he was lonely and decided to make him a helpmate. From this, we can safely assume that God felt there was a vacuum in Adam’s life, concluded that he needed a partner to complete him, hence the woman. I firmly believe this is the reason why everyone feels that need to have someone whom they can share their lives with, almost as if we are created with an innate vacuum in our DNA. This