Discipline: Take Control of Your Life
By Harris Kern and Adriana Ace Castle
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Do you suffer from procrastination?
Do you suffer from poor goal management?
Do you ever wonder why its so hard to focus?
Are you disorganized?
Do you let negative emotions derail your goals?
Do you sleep too much and have a difficult time getting out of bed each morning?
Do you have what it takes to compete in this economically challenged marketplace?
When times are rough, its easy to feel overwhelmed and just accept things the way they are.
However, successful people are ones who take control of their life via discipline.
Discipline is the defining element in your life. With it you can achieve anything; without it you will struggle to exist.
No matter how many books you read, if you don't commit yourself to self-discipline, the books will not help and you are back where you started.
What if discipline was a meta-skill composed of easy steps that you could learn?
How would that change your life?
Harris Kern and Adriana Ace Castle have distilled their combined 55 years of experience as life coaches and organizational consultants into a knowledge manual that features the 10 Commandments for Success.
This book simplifies the complexity of gaining the ability to discipline yourself into ten principles that you can understand and use right away.
Let us help you train your mind to build structure and to live life with a sense of urgency.
Take the first step in your journey to achieving your goals by reading DISCIPLINE: Take Control of Your Life.
Harris Kern
Harris Kern is one of the world's leading life and organization mentors. Harris has been mentoring people for over thirty years to attain the highest level of efficiency. He helps individuals develop key skills i.e., self-discipline, leadership and EQ. Harris is an acclaimed author and publisher of over 40 books, some of the titles include Going From Undisciplined to Self-Mastery and On Being a Workaholic. Harris is a frequent speaker at business, leadership and management conferences. Mr. Kern is also the founder and driving force behind the Harris Kern Enterprise Computing Institute and the best-selling series of IT books published by Prentice Hall. The series includes titles such as: IT Services and CIO Wisdom, among others.
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Discipline - Harris Kern
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First published by AuthorHouse 3/8/2011
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To my son
Kevin:
I hope one day you will remember the good times we
shared and not the difficult times we had to endure.
Son, you are my EVERYTHING!
I Love you SO much!
Dad
Table of Contents
PREFACE
ABOUT THE LEAD AUTHOR
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
INTRODUCTION
The First Step
Harris Kern’s Discipline Maturity Model
Being Structured
I. THOU SHALT TREAT EVERY DAY EQUALLY
Establish a Maximum of Two Priorities
Establish a Daily Routine
Keep Organized
Treat Your Life like a Business
Constantly Strategize
Remain Future Focused
Establish and Maintain Values
Summary
II. THOU SHALT TRAIN THE MIND
Mind Games
Be Intolerant of Failure
Control and Re-Direct Emotions
Think With a Sense of Urgency
Summary
III. THOU SHALT BE DILIGENT IN GOAL MANAGEMENT
Establish Realistic Goals
Goal Management
Establish Milestones
Plan for Worst Case Scenarios
Summary
IV. THOU SHALT PROTECT THY RESOURCES
Always be on the Lookout for Wasted Time
Establish a Daily Routine
Watching TV
Unnecessary Drama
Lack of Planning
Manage Energy for Peak Performance
Financial Management
Predict Daily Expenses and Supplemental Income
Budget Your Expenses
Start a Savings Account
Be Risk-Averse
Do Not Get Into Credit Card Debt
Eventually Purchase a Home
Summary
V. THOU SHALT LEARN TO SAY NO WITH GRACE
Summary
SUMMARY OF SECTION I: ACQUIRING DISCIPLINE
Focus
Commitment
Management
Control
VI. THOU SHALT IMPROVE EQ SKILLS
List of Emotional Intelligence Competencies
Learning to Apply the Competencies
The Key Virtues
Applying the Virtues
Summary
VII. THOU SHALT GROW TO BE A LEADER
List of Leadership Competencies
Applying Leadership Competencies
Leadership and Discipline
Building the Right Team
Organization Case Studies
Summary
VIII. THOU SHALT ALWAYS STRIVE FOR PERFECTION
Manage Life by the 80/20 Rule
Life is All About Accomplishments
Continuously Seek Knowledge
Summary
IX. THOU SHALT MANAGE SLEEP OPTIMALLY
What is Sleep?
Things You Can do during the Day That Will Improve Your Sleep at Night
Things to Avoid in the Evening
De-stress Before Going to Sleep
Make Your Bedroom a Sanctuary
Start Winding down an Hour or Two before Going to Bed
Think of Things You Have to Look Forward to the Next Day
Set Up Rewards for Your Body
Suggestions for Waking Up
Ridding Yourself of False Beliefs
Talk to Yourself about the Value of Time
Sleep Affirmations to Say to Yourself a Few Times a Day
What to do if You Get Foggy or Tired during the Day
Summary
X. THOU SHALT FOCUS ON THY HEALTH
Exercise
Play Mind Games to Consistently Exercise
Challenge Yourself
Manage Eating Habits
Play Mind Games and Train Your Mind
Eat Smaller Portions and Fewer Carbohydrates
Manage Your Weight
Summary
SUMMARY OF SECTION II: MASTERING DISCIPLINE
FINAL WORDS
HARRIS KERN’S CASE STUDIES
Single Mother with Poor Financial Management Skills
Helping Others But Not Himself—The Yes Man
Family Issues Preventing Your Success
Excelled in Her Career but Failed Miserably in Her Personal Life
Career Stalled
Poor Financial Management—Living Beyond His Means
The Alcoholic
Mr. Emotions
The Elderly Lady with Severe Arthritis
The Ineffective Executive
Academically Intelligent But Challenged…
Tries To Take On the World and Shuts Down
Small Business Owner with No Structure
She Couldn’t Study Consistently
The Entrepreneur
The Overweight and Unorganized Business Owner
APPENDIX A: ASSESSMENT QUESTIONNAIRE
Personal Information
Work Status
Initial Goals
Initial Challenges
1. Dreams/Vision
2. Drive/Attitude
3. Structure/Routine
4. Communicating/Relating
5. Health
6. Finances
7. Miscellaneous
APPENDIX B: MATURITY MODEL
Preface
glyph.tifI was thirteen and I needed discipline. I didn’t know what I needed until I started actually talking to my next-door neighbor. This man with a physique that Apollo might have wanted if the deity were actual flesh took one look at my skinny ass and told me I look like shit.
I started working out at his house at least three times a week.
My neighbor taught me more than physical conditioning and discipline. I learned how to communicate effectively, motivate myself and treat my life with urgency. I also learned how to control my emotions by redirecting my negative feelings into positive acts or to drop the pain completely. I may have been a little robotic until I grew up more and learned through life experience why we have emotions, especially the positive ones. But, the upside was achieving, on my own before the age of twenty, two milestones that few teenagers achieve: the first house and first brand new car.
I bring up the learning experience at the hands of my neighbor to bring home that while I may write several volumes about discipline that help people understand the concept there is no substitute for learning from the right teacher. Humans need to learn from good teachers, because we aren’t born with the means to defend ourselves or to contribute to the tribe. A baby is easy meat for any predator not kept at bay by either a bonfire or a twelve-tumbler deadbolt lock set into a solid block of oak.
As the child grows up, the need for discipline and learning grows exponentially. We learn to feed ourselves by going shopping with Mom and her fistful of coupons, or crazy Uncle Frank takes us into the woods and teaches us to sharpen sticks for use on the squirrels in the park. My neighbor was the more modern version of crazy Uncle Frank and I learned how to be a complete human being.
If I believe in healthy and positive mentoring relationships as being better than any old book, why did I write this and my other books on discipline? Well, good teachers can’t reach everyone and bad teachers abound, so the legacy I want to leave behind is that of books that teach the basics of the principles needed to survive a world with 500 channels and nothing on. Or put another way, it helps for the teacher to have a book from which to start the discussion about discipline, or conjugating verbs.
So there was a long period, starting 30 years ago, where I took my education and sense of order into the Information Technology industry. The high-pressure deadlines and cooperative environment in the office meant the self-disciplined always led the pack. I thrived on writing tons of IT books, more than I have fingers and toes. And I learned the techniques that work on writers.
But, I kept being called on to fix, order and create discipline in the office. The light bulb went off and a side business was born. There wasn’t anything at the library except the occasional phonebook using four-syllable Psych 101 words. I mentored people and organizations using my neighbor’s wisdom and what I had learned speaking to other successfully ordered people.
Early on I was glad of the scarcity of discipline books because there was less noise to get in the way of the lesson. People knew about Sergeant Stryker or R. Lee Ermey yelling at recruits to teach them proper bayonet techniques. They even sort of knew about the discipline dished out by...well, stereotypically, her name is Helga or Veronica and this discipline requires costumes and safe words. This last type makes people laugh when they hear the word.
But, when I realized it was time for the teacher to write books to start the discussion about discipline so that other teachers and students had the right tools, I dreaded visiting the self-help section in the library. Imagine my surprise to find that the books were still phonebooks and the jargon was up to five syllables (progress, I suppose). Even my first three books on discipline were a little too long, when I wanted a reference work with a sheet of principles that could be hung on the refrigerator next to the report cards. And I knew this time out I wanted a partner…
Adriana came to me as a client and immediately impressed me with her wit, charm, intelligence and most importantly sensitivity; a quality that for me only shows up in my coaching, but less so in my writing. Thirty years of ordering other peoples’ existence has actually turned me into a drill sergeant. You call me avert disaster, but my latest book has to provide those principles with juuuussst a liiiitttle bit more sugarcoating than I normally do for myself.
What held my interest was