Ain't Nobody Coming!: Chronicles of a PreNup Pops

By Keith McDaniels, Jr

Ain't Nobody Coming! - Chronicles of a PreNup Pops is a riveting portrayal of fatherhood from a purely organic perspective. The reality-based style of writing candidly illustrates the "real" about blended households, and raising children from multi-kindred backgrounds. This book provides an insightful perspective on the intimate details of "non-traditional" fatherhood, and the complexities that accompany cohabitational relationships. In this book you will experience an urban account of fatherhood that is often overlooked, but pervasively embedded in every city in America. Ain't Nobody Coming is a must read for fathers, and prenuptial parents who seek an honest reflection of the demanding realities of blended parenthood.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Keith McDaniels, Jr
• Release date: Jul 24, 2018
• ISBN: 9780463306376

Keith McDaniels, Jr

What's good fam!!! I'm a divorced father of (8), and currently engaged to the most beautiful joint I've every seen! So let me break it down, (6) kids are my bio-seedlings, and the other (2) sweet-hearts belong my soon-to-be wife! I'm an entrepreneur (hustler), and author. Fatherhood is my calling and passion. I write for My G's (and bonus parents) that hold it down for their "blended" fam, but haven't taking them nuptials. I'm all about empowering fathers and building strong families!

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Ain't Nobody Coming! Chronicles of a PreNup Pops

Copyright 2018 Keith McDaniels

Published by Keith McDaniels at Smashwords

ISBN: 9780463306376

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Table Of Contents

Dedication

Introduction

Chapter One - From Boyfriend to PreNup Pops

Chapter Two - Dummy Hero

Chapter Three - Keeping Your Distance

Chapter Four - Keep it almost 100

Chapter Five - You Ain't my Daddy

Chapter Six - No Limit Soldier

Chapter Seven - Girlfriend Prenup

Chapter Eight – Finding Your Way

Chapter Nine - No Defeat

Chapter Ten - Protecting Your Crown

Chapter Eleven - Standing Your Ground

About The Author

Connect with Keith McDaniels – The PreNup Pops

~ Dedication ~

This book is dedicated to my late son, Cameron McDaniels. Never in my life have I been so inspired by watching the fight, and determination to live more than in my son during the 15 days he was alive. You gave your daddy strength to live when all I wanted to do was give up. Until we meet again – I love you - Dad!

~ Acknowledgements ~

I would like to show sincere appreciation and thanks to my beautiful fiance Alveeta Rodriguez for her complete commitment, encouragement and support! You've been my rock through some dark days baby, and I'll always love you for "being there!"

~ Introduction ~

I go hard as a Prenuptial Pops. Like for real, I take my job as a Prenuptial Pops (PNP) so serious, that I catch fire when I can't handle my business for my kids. So when it comes to my money, and being able to provide for my kids, I don't let no one or anything jam me up. Just to keep it funky with you, I feel like a dude that can't or won't make it happen for his kids is a sucka and gets no respect from me PERIOD! Especially a dude with one kid, maybe two kids, and out there just pissin' his money away on some dumb ish! I know we all do some crazy mess with our money from time to time, but I don't know too many men who don't take extreme pride in being a Pops.

But the thing of it is, sometimes life hits hard Bruh. Things happen in such a way that jack your money up for a minute. Whether it's losing your job, child support, car problems, jail, baby mamma ish, whatever – at the end of the day, it’s all on YOU! There is no feeling in the world any worse than when circumstances beyond your control adversely effect your ability to support your fam. Supporting the fam as a PreNup Pops is quite different than that of the biological dad. The biological dad has the benefit of the doubt from the kids, and "baby momma" because it’s assumed that homie naturally wants to take care of what’s his. However, when it comes to the PreNup Pops that assumption doesn’t always fly. You must continually prove yourself as a PreNup Pops until the kids and they momma decide that you’re good! The BS’ness about that ish is that even the expectations and requirements are significantly greater for the PreNup Pops than "baby daddy."

You have to walk a fine line as a PNP. There is very little room for my-bads and mistakes. You have to damn near be perfect. If you don’t have a little buck in you, if you’re not that dude, then you’re not really going to make it as a PreNup Pops. Bruh you have to keep your cool in crazy situations, and be on that grind hard every single day. There are no breaks, nor room for let downs. Your hustle game as a PNP must be on point at all times. Real talk, nobody really gives a s#%t about your effort when it comes to making sure them kids are straight. The amount of responsibility for the PreNup Pops is so unfairly compared to that of the baby daddy, that it makes every mistake you make magnified beyond reason. You got to be about your business and stay true to the game! You can’t be worried about what baby daddy is doing - or not, you have to put in that work regardless! It really comes down to how you view yourself. If you’re a dough-boy and not real assertive, ain’t nobody going to respect you. Sometimes you got to be that n!gg@, stand your ground and take your space. At the end of the day, you’re the man of your house, not them kids, not they momma, and damn sure not them baby dads!

My lane as a PreNup Pops was not handed to me bruh. On some real G’ness, I earned my damn spot. N!gg@s ain’t trying to have some dude come in and put restrictions on what he can do or not do with his kids. Men are territorial, and for the most part protective over their kids. I understand what it is, but as a PNP you got to be direct and come hard! Like I said weakness is for them soft dudes that be crying cause baby daddy be punkin’ them over taking care of his kid. Them real dudes can peep a b#t&h n!gg@ in a minute. So, if you gonna get it in as a PNP, you got to be hard in the beginning. At any moments time you have to be ready to defend your position as a PNP at whatever cost. The kid's mom don’t want to hear you fussing at her about the kid's dad, and then you freeze up when baby daddy comes around. I’m not saying you got to be an a$$ for the sake of proving something, but you got to know how to get your s#%t right when necessary. The hard truth is that you’re not only a parent to the kids, you’re also establishing your strength as a man. Weak n!gg@s become weak PNP's. That’s just what it is! This PreNup Pops game is not for every man! Before you get boo’d up with the momma, be sure that you’re for real. This is hard work, and not for no suckas!

No body put me on game with this PreNup Pops. I really was not afforded the luxury of having a smooth transition into being a PNP. On some real ish, I was on the verge of bouncing before I even got in the game good. To keep it fully one hun’ed, I thought my lady was a terrible mom. I didn’t want anything to do with supporting her in raising them little janks! Before I became PreNup Pops I was the live-in boyfriend (PreNup Pops). Which put me in a jacked-up position with the baby dads from the jump. Bruh, there was no real formal introductions on any level. We didn’t meet up at the bar, play any ball together or try to have any real understanding between each other. Nor did my lady and I establish my role as a parent before we moved in together. It was a crazy transition with no kind of damn communication as far as I was concerned. My dude I was lost in the sauce and pissed off every day!

I was really unprepared and took for granted my capacity to carry the full load as a PreNup Pops. I have five kids from my previous marriage, and felt extremely confident in my swagg as a parent. My three oldest kids were teens, and the eldest was in college at the time I began my role as the soon to be PreNup Pops. My youngest kid was the same age as my lady’s youngest daughter, so I felt my parenting skill set was still on par to have a positive impact on her kids. Both my lady’s kids were still young, and I felt my experience would compensate for any gaps in my parenting swagg with her kids. My hustle was to create trust with her kids while I peeped what was really good with them dads. I’m not a drama seeking kind of dude, but I did know I couldn’t sit back a wait for someone to give me permission to handle my business when it came to her kids. I quickly learned that you have to out think and outperform the best intentions of all parents involved when establishing your position as a PreNup Pops. You got to figure this game out for yourself. You have to learn on the fly and keep it funky at all times. You can’t get caught slippin’ even a little bit. You got to have your ish on lock, and know how to keep it movin when s#%t ain’t really going well. You can’t be the HNIC one minute and crying like a little b#t&h the next!

It’s important that you remain alert and keep refining your hustle as a PreNup Pops. True n!gg@s know as soon as you get comfortable, someone or something always seems to pop up. If you don’t personally continue to grow as a dude, and always keep your knowledge up regarding your role as a PNP you’re gonna get ganked! There are no webinars, instructions, nor real resources out there for urban dads trying to parent a blended family "Prenuptially". You got to stay motivated on your own bruh! You get tested and challenged as a PreNup Pop in ways biological dads don’t. Nobody running and jumping on your lap calling you daddy, and making you feel like the man every day. You got to be able to work hard, sacrifice and still keep a good attitude with no recognition. That’s real G! And if you’re not a solid dude, you got to sit your a$$ down somewhere and figure it out! They aren't handing out any awards for weak dudes who decided to get into the blended parenting game cause the pu$$y