Daughter(S) with Absent Fathers: Daddy's Guide to Relationships

By Derwin Wince

Daughter(s) with Absent Fathers is a short book of letters a man on a train is regularly sending to his daughter he rediscovered. They reintroduced themselves after she became an adult.
They met by accident. He was simply trying to stop a young man from yelling and pulling on his girlfriend out in public. The man had finished yanking her and her child out the car by the time he approached them. Papers fell out. Her purse fell out.
Now the couple was looking at an interferer. That is, until they saw his eyes. It was then and there they came to realize it wasthat womans father. Suddenly this young man had the door opened for her and her child to get back in. Her eyes never left her fathers. Her body was helped back into the car. Next he had thrown her purse into her laps. Then he got in and they were gone.


Embarrassment in the public caused this father to look down. Eighteen years had flashed by with repeats of horrors, screeches and pain since he last saw this sight. Except then it were she, he, her mother and her new boyfriend. Now this time around, on the ground, were envelopes. There lay an address that, for him, spelled change on the horizon.
From those papers came one letter with his daughters name and address. He thought a contact. He thought to keep it a secret from her boyfriend. How does one keep secret letters from him, he thought. Thus you have in this book those letters. Letters of advice about dealing with relationships in this book called Daughter(s) with Absent Fathers.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jan 12, 2010
• ISBN: 9781469118895

Derwin Wince

Many personalities in one best describe this author. A single minded individual amongst altruism that borders between the lines of genius, sanity and the reality of psychic ability. Sharing the thoughts of many men from around the globe about one subject…lost daughters.

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Contents

Foreword

Explanation No. 1

May We Introduce Ourselves?

Explanation No. 2

Greetings Baby girl!

Explanation No 3

Why I’m Gone?

Explanation No. 4

Yeah, Why We Not Together Right Now?

Explanation No. 5

What Happened to Mama?

Explanation No. 6

The Law and Our Families

Explanation No. 7

When Will I See You Again?

Explanation No. 8

How to Become a First Lady?

Explanation No. 9

How to Handle Love?

Explanation No. 10

How We Say Goodbye?

This book is dedicated to people everywhere who helped to improve a child’s life. And to the daughters out there, who through reading this book heard the call of the true fathers in the spirit of this writing.

IN THIS BOOK, DAUGHTERS WILL FIND

1) Guides to help her:

* Decide on having a relationship, for herself

* Get a father’s point-of-view about how to choose a relationship

* Manage her relationship with everything else

* Help in avoiding later-turned violent boyfriend(s)

2) What fathers want to say to daughters who like boys, now?

3) What fathers went through to become absent dads?

4) How moms and dads started out and ended?

5) An explanation if mama’s avoiding the issue.

6) A quiz on if your man is acting like a Man.

7) The should I stay or should I go story and its backwash

Foreword

Dear Daughter(s): (while you were sleeping with angels)

In the old days of slavery in the Americas, slave masters were known to be the first to love their daughters just so these girls would not be so broken hearted in their near future relationships. Broken hearted, then confused, then sexually and abusively exploited. Today, some argue many cultures and races have continued this policy from slave freedom up to I’d say the 1960’s just to prevent their daughters from becoming sluttish. It was then I as the writer and Dad of this book as well as your father came into being. Who knows, I was probably the result of my parents rode trip with friends somewhere back then. And now I have you. Hopefully I can speak for your father who loves you and has become absent in your life.

Yeah, these caravans of flower children of the 60’s promoted sex as often as one could get it! Then many American women began to have multiple baby daddies by accident due to their freedoms or dates that didn’t turn out right. Times today haven’t changed, as I’m sure you may think you were a product of non-planned pregnancy, too.

Except, it’s the party and fun loving people of your times who have overstepped sex’s purpose and encourage daughters to love their friends more so in America than in other cultures. That’s right, today it’s peers who say, avoid listening to mama, cause daddy’s gone, or anyone else who can see lust as the motive of their agenda with you young lady. That’s why I wrote this book to help you when they have begun to isolate you from your mama. The last person on earth I’m trusting God to take care of you.

As a result, today’s relationships are developed form friends who say people should holla, especially when your mama say don’t. Mamas’ being right themselves is not the issue at this moment… you are. So pay attention. What I think happens to these friends who like to break up families and hearts through bonding. Then these friends, who have taken over family relationship opinions, take advantage of your naïve aspirations. My book’s going to talk about that baby girl. Dear daughter.

I’m going to explain to how to detect friends who end up caring more for that boy who later cheated on you than they do the daughters who fell in love with them. You are looking like a sam sausage head in the public as you cling the more to him after the discovery of cheating. At the same time I’m promoted manhood and giving brothers props where it’s due. Especially if daughter, you might already be gone too far. That is, in the game of relationship rights and privileges. And maybe why some of you getting mistreated and beat up today. Possibly just like my daughter who is far away.

So, daughter(s) I wrote this book for you to help you remember how to get back on the track of being little angels who turn into women. Welcome to Daughter(s) with Absent Fathers.

Explanation No. 1

May We Introduce Ourselves?

Daughter, I’d like to start out our conversation by discussing things about your fathers that many of you don’t even know. A few of those things consist of: (1) our professions, (2) the different types of fathers, (3) information about our other children, (4) ourselves as daters, and our (5) spiritual foundations. All you have to do is be patient for a minute until we can get to the juicy talk of boys. So calm down and act interested in what makes up a father from a father’s point-of-view.

As professionals we were bread to make the money. The types of jobs we do don’t vary that much from women nowadays in America like they use to so what we do you could do, too. As the Dad of this book I can say my profession is an educator or I have a white-collar job.

I’ve spent sixteen years as a substitute teacher, community college board member, and university campus administrator. So daddy’s had some big jobs seeing a lot of little girls go through school. And I truly hate that circumstances have it that I can’t personally teach my own. And I’ve done this in Baltimore City, MD, Chicago, IL, St. Louis, Mo, and East St. Louis, IL.

From these schools I’ve learned and seen a lot of absent father to daughter scenarios that panned out for the worst. The collection of the tragedies is what inspired me to write future warnings for you and your generation. After all, my baby daughter hasn’t turned ten. But spiritual conviction tells me to speak up now for all daughters on behalf of their fathers. So dear daughter it is true to say that daddy’s the man on his job. I’m definitely not a big boss, though.

The trouble those young ladies were dealing with while trying to get a high school diploma was a great supporter of the cause of this book. They took some punches for the mothers as a result of their fathers being gone. The worst kind.

They became the little girls grown up too fast. The blame is on the daughter. She takes that false blame and loses notches on her morality belt as she explores her womanhood. This white-collar job has helped me prepared to train you for dealing with relationships as well as overcoming them. Especially the relationships of whatever kind that you received at the excuse of blind ear and closed eye replies from mom. That stuff does tough things to these girls and I’m glad to learn from those experiences without going any