Shining Life: Weight Loss Miracles for Women

By Sharon Hamilton-Green

Shining Life is for every woman with a keen desire to lose weight and embrace her lighter side. This program targets weight loss at its source – within! The actions work on the subconscious resulting in mental and physical transformation. It is specifically for women as they are beautiful, spiritual beings that have become very good at living at only a fraction of their true potential. Women are masters at allowing their physical appearance to hold them back in life. This 77 Step course takes the reader on a journey into self and restores the mind, body and spirit to health and wellbeing. Inner beauty is encouraged to shine until it manifests as outer beauty.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Robin Beck
• Release date: Oct 18, 2015
• ISBN: 9781920535636

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Shining Life

Weight Loss Miracles for Women

Sharon Hamilton-Green

Published by

Kima Global Publishers

Kima Global House

50, Clovelly Road

Clovelly

7975

South Africa

ISBN: 978-1-920535-63-6

© Sharon Hamilton-Green 2014

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Guiding Principles

                     I understand that self-love is the key to improving my life.

                     I acknowledge the importance of balance between mind, body and spirit.

                     I remember that every person is a unique vibration and a magnificent expression of life.

                     I accept that overweight is an outer expression of an inner issue.

                     I feel strongly that I need not go hungry on a healthy eating program.

                     I know that eating too little is just as self-sabotaging as eating too much.

                     I promote healthy habits which result in a healthy lifestyle.

                     I understand that I need to be gentle and patient with myself when learning something new.

                     I need to have the courage to feel in order to heal.

                     I believe that I deserve to live the life of my dreams.

Commitment

I _____________________________ hereby commit to participate in this program of transformation.  I endeavour to take the actions required to heal the past and I look forward to a brighter future.  I believe in ME.

Signature:________________________  Date:_______________________

Table of Contents

Introduction

How to use this course

Guiding Principles

Step 1: Power

Step 2: Goals

Step 3: Rewards

Step 4: Acceptance

Step 5: Change

Step 6: Self-Love

Step 7: Reflection

Step 8: Anxiety

Step 9: Criticism

Step 10: Visualisation

Step 11: Affirmations

Step 12: Positive Thinking

Step 13: Vibration

Step 14: Reflection

Step 15: The Writing on your Walls

Step 16: Comparisons

Step 17: Dream Board

Step 18: Resistance

Step 19: Blessings

Step 20: Forgiveness

Step 21: Reflection

Step 22: Compliments

Step 23: Bless your Food

Step 24: Slave to the Scale

Step 25: Breathe

Step 26: The Inner Child

Step 27: Abundance

Step 28: Reflection

Step 29: Your Health Bank

Step 30: Addiction

Step 31: Choice

Step 32: Relationships

Step 33: Shame

Step 34: Prosperity

Step 35: Reflection

Step 36: Cravings

Step 37: Self-Image

Step 38: Anger

Step 39: Shine

Step 40: Quick fix

Step 41: Communication

Step 42: Reflection

Step 43: Spoil Yourself

Step 44: Stress

Step 45: A Tale of two Strawberries

Step 46: Exercise

Step 47: Healthy Habits

Step 48: Detachment

Step 49:  Reflection

Step 50: Commitment

Step 51: Connect with Nature

Step 52: Integrity

Step 53: Operation Clean Up

Step 54: Emotional fillers and triggers

Step 55: Just Say No

Step 56: Reflection

Step 57: Fear

Step 58: Go Green

Step 59: Laughter

Step 60: Setbacks

Step 61: Abundance

Step 62: Enough

Step 63: Reflection

Step 64: The Garden

Step 65: Immediate Gratification

Step 66: Gratitude

Step 67: Create

Step 68: Letting Go

Step 69: The Ego

Step 70: Reflection

Step 71: Persistence

Step 72: Meditation

Step 73: Enjoy the Journey

Step 74: Feelings

Step 75: Self-Mastery

Step 76: A Good Day

Step 77: The Miracle

My Story

Chapter 1: The Early Years

Chapter 2: Growing Up

Chapter 3: Married with Children

Chapter 4: A Desire to Change

Chapter 5: Rediscovering the Power of Dance

Chapter 6: A Physical Transformation

Chapter 7: Betrayal

Chapter 8: Loss

Chapter 9: My Heart's Purpose

Chapter 10: Action

Bibliography

About the Author

Introduction

Just change your lifestyle!  Just eat less and exercise more!  Just follow this crazy diet or take this quick-fix pill!  Isn’t this what you’ve heard before?  Doesn’t it sound so simple and easy!  But every time you try – you fail (or it works for a while). 

You lose some weight (or lots of weight) and then it all falls apart and you put it back on again (with extra for good measure).  And you listen to the voice inside begin to ask ‘What’s wrong with me?’ 

Your self-doubt corrodes your self-image a little more and you turn to the only fool-proof, fail-safe coping skill you have in your arsenal – more weight.  You view your excess weight as the cause of your unhappiness, when it is actually merely a symptom. 

Your excess weight is working for you. 

Your excess weight is protecting you. 

As bad as it feels to be overweight, it is nothing compared to the fear, anxiety, limiting beliefs and other emotional baggage that the weight is masking.  Your body is simply an outer expression of what is happening inside you. 

Gaining weight is an inside job and that is where you have to go to make the change.  Your inner intelligence will not allow you to shed the excess weight (and keep it off) until you have the emotional and behavioural skills to replace it. 

You are a being of balance and you can only take your body to a place where your mind and spirit are ready to go too. 

As to the question ‘What’s wrong with me?’  The answer is simple.  ‘Absolutely nothing!’  In fact, your body is speaking to you and giving you messages.  That is its role and function.  You just need to learn to listen and understand the messages, make the adjustments required, and the message (excess weight) will leave naturally.

Why is this course specifically for women? 

Because women are special! 

Women are beautiful, spiritual beings that have become very good at living only a fraction of their potential.  Women are masters at allowing their physical appearance to hold them back in life.  Women are notoriously good at ignoring their own needs and suppressing their desires. 

And then, of course, there is the fact that I myself am a woman (when last I checked).  And I know what losing weight did for me.  Weight loss is more than a physical transformation.  It is a spiritual journey that holds unimaginable blessings.  It makes what seemed impossible – possible.  I think we are so obsessed with weight and body image because it is important to us. 

We care about what we show the world. 

Women want to look their best in order to feel their best.  But that is where we misunderstand the reality.

Your physical appearance reflects what is happening in your inner world, so you actually have to feel your best in order to look your best!

It’s all about feelings and how you navigate your emotional experiences.  When you don’t process your feelings in a healthy manner, they become emotions that lodge in the body and infuse the cells.  One of the most common manifestations of these unresolved emotions is overweight.

Weight issues have the ability to mask fears and anxiety, depression, guilt, self-hatred, anger, aggression and numerous other emotional states that you don’t feel able to face.  The issues your weight is masking are the issues you don’t want to look at. 

These are the issues that you don’t feel able to handle with the skills you currently believe you possess.  Picking up weight shelters you from life experiences that you are not sure you can cope with.  Even though having a weight problem brings its own set of drama, that drama is hiding the real challenges you are struggling with internally. 

As the weight comes off, these challenges will reveal themselves.  Issues will come to the surface that may surprise you. 

Do not be alarmed. 

These issues are not being created by the weight loss.  They were always there – just suppressed.  Let them reveal themselves and use the techniques outlined in this course to honestly look at what is standing in the way of your perfect body.

I believe that you wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t ready to tap into the courage within and develop the emotional mastery required to put your weight problems behind you.  The new skills will create sustainable health and wellness, not just temporary weight loss or yo-yo weight fluctuations. 

Excess fat is the cocoon you use to protect yourself from life’s knocks and disappointments.  Excess fat is the cloak that you throw over the unhappiness that is undermining your true potential. 

Isn’t it time for the butterfly to emerge from the cocoon?  Isn’t it time to lift the cloak and accept yourself unconditionally? 

Remember that you can change anything as long as you can accept it! 

Accepting your current physical appearance does not mean that you will be trapped there. 

The law of attraction states that if you offer yourself acceptance, you will attract more qualities that you find acceptable.  Rejecting and criticising your current state will only attract more of what you don’t want.  Once you start viewing yourself in a more positive light, you will notice the most amazing changes.  You will begin to look more attractive every day.  Compliments will come streaming in.  Won’t that be wonderful? 

But it starts with you. 

All sustainable, real, positive change begins within.  People only mirror what you feel about yourself so it has to start with you!

I cannot emphasize enough how important it is that this weight loss journey be a loving journey.  Self-criticism, self-hatred, impatience and a lack of belief will derail you.  But only you can decide whether the ‘derailment’ is permanent or temporary. 

The way you thought and felt about yourself in the past has created the body you have today.  The way you think and feel about yourself in the present is creating the body you will have in the future.  Learn to press the reset button every day. 

It doesn’t matter what unhealthy choices you made yesterday.  Today is a new day – a chance to start afresh.  Just press reset.  If you had a brilliant weight loss day yesterday then, by all means, praise yourself and learn from it.  But don’t allow it to create expectations.  Today is a new day. 

Just press reset. 

Whether you have 300 Kg to lose or 3 Kg to lose, your approach and your thinking need to be that you have 1 Kg to lose.  And once you have lost that 1 Kg, you still have only 1 Kg to lose. 

Bring your attention to the present moment because that is where the power lies to make a real personal transition.  Remember that change is external.  Your behaviour can change.  Your habits can change.  Your body shape can change.  

Transition is internal.  It happens inside.  In order for change to be lasting and real – you need to make a personal transition.  This step by step course will lead you through a personal transition and result in your magnificent transformation.

Having been through this process myself and losing a whopping 56 Kg (a whole backstreet boy!) I made a few unexpected discoveries that I would like to share.  One of the challenges that presented was plateaus.  I would reach a certain weight only to find myself unable to shift.  I would become so frustrated and despondent that I just wanted to give up. 

I also exhibited intense emotions that appeared unrelated to anything in my current circumstances.  For example, when I weighed 79 Kg I became fiercely over-protective of my children and quite aggressive in my attempts to keep them safe.  I thought I was losing my mind! 

Once I took time to become quiet and go within for answers, unexpected memories surfaced.  The last time I weighed 78 Kg I was living on an open property with my children and there was an attempted break-in which made us feel very unsafe.  We also had a gentleman working on the property and he began to behave strangely and scared us tremendously. 

All the suppressed and unresolved emotions from that period of my life surfaced again when I was about to reach the same weight.  This observation poses an interesting question.  Is it possible that memories are stored in the cells and that the resultant emotions are merely suppressed by weight gain?  Absolutely! 

Then it seems reasonable to expect these emotions to resurface once the weight comes off.  But no one warns you to expect it.  The feelings that arise seem unconnected to present circumstances, therefore, they can overwhelm you.  Have the courage to welcome these feelings.  Take the learning and the understanding from the experience. 

And then let it go! 

Just breathe it out and release the emotional charge attached.  Use this technique to cope with all issues that crop up so that you don’t need to use excess weight anymore. 

Another misconception that I suffered under (without even realising it) was that I expected to be really happy when I had lost the excess weight I carried.  I expected to experience a pervading sense of joy that would colour my entire existence.  It is true that I was happy about the weight I had lost but happiness did not automatically become my default emotional state. 

In fact, I felt more exposed than before and discovered that there were aspects of my personality and my behaviour