Self-Thought Abuse: Self-Healing & the Blunt Truth

By Aubree L. Simmons

Self-thought abuse is when you abuse yourself through thoughts, which later turns into beliefs and habits. This book offers a step-by-step approach to rewire the thought process and break free of the re-occurrences of self-thought abuse. It provides a blunt understanding of why it occurs and how to stop it from occurring.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Sep 25, 2015
• ISBN: 9780996786423

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Relating:

We will begin by relating a story about a couple that shows evidence of how we self-thought abuse ourselves. Let’s call this part of the book, Yep, I do that. The story below will form a picture in your mind of what commonly occurs with most couples.

The Story of Emily and Peter

Emily sits on the couch checking her phone while waiting for her husband Peter to come home from work.

Emily Thoughts:

This is the fifth night in a row he has been late. Why hasn’t he called to tell me where he is at? Is he still at work? I will give him 5 more minutes and then I am calling.

Peter is at work and running behind schedule.

Peter’s thoughts:

Man, look at the time, I can’t wait to get off work. I wonder what my wife is doing? I should call my wife, though she probably already knows I’ll be home late.

Emily’s husband pulls into the drive.

Peter’s Thoughts:

Damn, I’m glad to be home to relax and unwind. I am so tired.

Emily hears her husband’s car door close and gets very excited. Peter walks through the door and she immediately makes attempts for his affection. Peter is not expecting to be greeted at the door, and hasn’t had time to even put his things down.

Peter’s Thoughts:

Wow, my wife looks happy.

Emily is full of energy and has spent most of the day daydreaming about spending time with her husband tonight. Emily reaches out for his attention, and it’s not like how she pictured it in her mind.

Peter’s Thoughts:

What is she doing? I need a shower and a minute to relax a little. Why is she trying to be all over me the minute I walk through the door?

Emily’s Thoughts:

Did I do something wrong?

Emily asks him, Did I do something wrong? Peter says, No.

Peter’s Thoughts:

Why the hell would she ask me a question like that? Here we go again, another argument about something.

Emily’s Thoughts:

I don’t believe you! There must be something wrong. I just wanted you to notice me. All I want is you to love me.

There is a silence for a brief moment. Emily stares at him, and then walks away into the kitchen.

Peter’s Thoughts:

She didn’t like my response. Now she’s mad. I can see the look on her face.

Emily’s thoughts:

What the hell did I do? Something is wrong. I try so hard to make him happy, but he just doesn’t care.

Emily wants Peter’s affection, and she wants to hear words of love and care. Emily has knots in her stomach. Emily feels a flutter in her stomach, and begins to feel sick. Emily’s husband walks over and says, I love you. Peter kisses Emily’s forehead. Emily’s excitement is gone. Emily accepts his kiss and says, I love you too. Emily walks away.

Peter’s Thoughts:

Why did she just walk away? Something is wrong, and maybe if I keep reminding her that I love her she’ll be alright.

Emily’s Thoughts:

I try so hard. I love him so much, but I don’t understand why he acts the way he does. It’s not enough; I just want him to love me more.

Emily gets quiet after his attempts to make her feel better. She begins to do small chores in the kitchen and ignores Peter.

Peters Thoughts:

I don’t need this right now, I just want to relax and forget about work. I really don’t want to deal with this tonight!

Peter walks out of the kitchen and into the family room. Peter begins playing video games to let go of his day. Emily starts to prepare dinner in the kitchen. Emily and Peter are not talking to each other.

Emily’s thoughts:

He doesn’t love me. Is this relationship ever going to work? He never wants to help me out in the kitchen. Where the hell did he go? Shit! He is playing video games again. I hate those video games! I wonder if I took a bat to the console he would get the big picture. Hello… Peter…. I am right her! Can’t you see me? He doesn’t care about me at all.

Peter’s Thoughts:

What a crappy day. I worked like a dog all day and to come home to this? Why is my wife not happy? I just need a moment to let the day go. Shit, just got killed-Respawn!

Emily’s thoughts:

I don’t even know how his day was, nor does he know how mine was. He has no idea how lonely I am. Why isn’t he talking to me? Why isn’t he letting me in? I must not be attractive to him anymore. I wonder if he likes someone else. Maybe that is why he has been coming home late?

Emily has finished preparing dinner. She calls the kids down from their rooms. She tells Peter dinner is ready. Everyone comes to the dinner table. The kids are telling Peter about their day at school. Every time Emily asks Peter about his day she hopes it will open up a conversation between them. Every time Peter tries to answer one of her questions one of the kids interrupts. Peter gets frustrated with trying to talk over the kids and just gives up on it.

Emily’s Thoughts:

Why is he ignoring my questions? I must not be important enough for him to acknowledge me. I can’t believe it! What a jerk he is being tonight.

Peter’s Thoughts:

I cannot get a word in edge wise with these kids interrupting. I will just wait until after dinner to talk to my wife. This is too much to deal with right now.

After dinner, Emily starts to clean up. Peter is not helping Emily in the kitchen, and he has gone back to the couch to play video games. Emily is frustrated from not getting the attention she wanted at the dinner table. Emily does not speak to Peter about wanting help cleaning up after dinner.

Emily’s Thoughts:

Really! What makes him so special that he can just go to the couch and play his video games while I clean up after everyone? Why is it so easy for him to entertain himself and not care about me?

Emily’s frustration turns into actions. Emily starts to bang pots, pans, and dishes. Emily starts to yell at the kids to put things away. Emily begins to