Life's Biggest Punishment

By Myriam Donin

A respectable, kind, decent and honest man, was put against his own child to such an extent, even though he was advised time and again of the child's disabilities, What happened due to this is mind boggling.
I weighed 47 Kg most of my life. Within a few days I shot up to 64Kg (gained 17Kg.) My friends told me to stop eating. I wasn't eating, as a matter of fact I was eating less than usual. How I lost 12Kg was extremely painful, but it just happened.
Fortunately my Doctor advised me what happened!!!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Myriam Donin
• Release date: Feb 18, 2013
• ISBN: 9780620556477

Myriam Donin

Life's Biggest Punishment is a true story of how a botched circumcision ultimately led a young man to take his own life. It is a must-read for all parents.Gary looks perfectly normal. Except he is living with a crippling disability: BORDERLINE Cerebral Palsy. Being diagnosed at not 100% disabled means that he does not receive the compassion and support that every disabled child deserves. Instead, Gary is shunned by his family and friends.Even his own father a respectable, kind and honest man, is pitted against his own child, even though he is advised time and again of the child's disabilities. The events that follow Gary's isolating and misunderstood youth are almost too horrific to contemplate.Share in the experience of a mother who never gave up searching for the truth about her son's circumcision and disability, and of how she made meaning of life after his suicide.IF THIS MEMOIR CAN HELP ANYONE NOT GO THROUGH THE DIFFICULTIES OR PUNISHMENT THAT I HAVE GONE THROUGH, IT WILL BE WORTHWHILE TO HAVE BEEN ABLE TO ASSIST YOU.

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Life’s Biggest Punishment

Myriam Donin

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Copyright 2020 Myriam Donin

ISBN 9780620556477

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CONTENTS

Dedication

Forward

Chapter 1: About Me

Chapter 2: The Start of How Things Happened

Chapter 3: My First Great Son

Chapter 4: My Second Great Son – Born Perfect

Chapter 5: Some Things Gary Had to Cope With

Chapter 6: Dreadful Almost Unheard-of Incidents

Chapter 7: Finally Understanding Gary’s Condition

Chapter 8: Losing Gary

Chapter 9: Trying to Pull Myself Together

Chapter 10: Experiences of Others on Circumcisions

Chapter 11: A Mother’s Day to Remember

Love and Gratitude/There’s A Hole in Me

About the Author

DEDICATION

In memory of my late son

Gary Hilton Lynn

19 October 1963 – 15 December 1987

And in the end,

It’s not the years in your life that count …

It’s the life in your years.

Abraham Lincoln

FORWARD

This story is one of Life’s Biggest Punishments. I have stumbled from one disaster to the next, but the worst of it is what happened to my son. Something a parent can never get over.

Some instances are so shocking that it is hard to believe that they could actually have happened.

Experience has made me, not only a better person but an exceptionally strong person. I can cope with anything that comes my way, on my own, for that is what I am used to.

I quote: All that is required for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.

CHAPTER 1: ABOUT ME

Someone who didn’t know me well but knew quite a lot about me once said to me your life has been horrific. I jumped back, looked at her as if she was being ridiculous and said How can you say such a thing? Her answer put me in my place, as she said You know no better. I was really shocked but she made me realise that she was 100% correct.

To this day whatever I say or do, with the best intentions, gets misinterpreted, which at times makes me scared of my own shadow. Yet maybe I am contradicting myself when I say that what I have gone through in just about every aspect of my life has made me SUPER STRONG.

This story will not divulge all the dreadful things I have gone through but is about the worst thing that I or any person could possibly go through.

I don’t know how I carry on living, but perhaps I am here to tell one part of my shocking life in this book, which won’t be very long, but hopefully will assist people who have gone through a similar, more than awful experience. Maybe I will be able to relate the other parts of my horrific life in another book.

I am an ordinary woman, not a celebrity; their books are widely read so I am not expecting much.

I used to be an outgoing person, but due to this worst of all the tragedies that anyone can go through I have become withdrawn and prefer to be a loner most of the time. Apparently some people think I am a snob – little do they realise I am just the opposite – my life gives the incorrect impression.

Most of the people at the place where I live, which is a retirement home and is extremely comfortable, sit all day in the café, just next to the main dining-room, and spend their days pulling other residents to pieces, and complaining about the food. On some occasions, I have been told, as I am normally out, and don’t sit around all day, that people even strike out at one another. I have a car and am able to get out, so this is quite a large plus in my life.

I said to one resident, as you complain about the food daily, why don’t you buy something at the supermarket just opposite us every now and again. Her reply was that she has no money. I said if you have no money then if you were living in your own home you wouldn’t be able to buy anything better than what we are getting that you continually complain about. I told her I did a three-year cordon bleu course but I certainly didn’t make any of those recipes on a daily basis. I know good cooking I said and as far as I am concerned there is nothing wrong with the basic food we are getting. (There are about 350 people living in this retirement home.) She didn’t answer me but I believe still complains about the food almost daily.

My life has been too