Love & Limits: Guidance Tools for Creative Parenting
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Love & Limits - Elizabeth Crary
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Before You Begin
Everyone Is Different
Parenting is the most wonderful job you can do and probably the most frustrating. Successful parenting causes people to grow and change. Parents are pushed and tested in ways unmatched in any other work. I’m glad you’re reading this booklet. It suggests that you are willing to grow with your child.
Love & Limits has tools you can use with your children. It has many tools because everyone is different. Something that works well for another person may not work for you. That’s okay. There are enough ideas here for everyone. Your job is to find a tool that will work—for both you and your child.
Some people want one tool they can use all the time. There are none. No tool works all the time. This is because children grow and change. When a tool no longer works, try another tool. Keep trying until you find one that works for you and your child.
Both you and your child will feel better about each other because you have used tools that build your child’s self-esteem instead of tools that hurt or shame him or her.
Where to Start
Love & Limits offers you both child guidance tools and a four-step process for solving problems. If the problem is serious or really bothers you, use the process to guide you. If your problem is not serious, you can experiment with different tools. First, we will review the tools and then the process.
Star Points and Tools
Love & Limits offers many child guidance tools. These tools are grouped into five points or sets of tools. As you can see in the star above, each point focuses on a different aspect of parenting. The more points you use when dealing with a problem, the more likely you will be to resolve the problem satisfactorily.
Avoid the problem. Many problems can be avoided by reducing stress, by changing things or the schedule, or by offering choices. When you reduce the number of hassles with kids you can work more effectively on the issues that are important to you.
Look for good behavior and reward cooperation. The behavior you notice and comment on is the behavior you get. This is true regardless of whether you praise or nag. You can encourage desired behavior by looking for it, giving the child time to cooperate, and rewarding the desired behavior.
Acknowledge feelings. Many problems arise from children’s feelings. Children need to know that feelings are different from behavior. And they need to know that their feelings are accepted (not judged or changed). Often, simply acknowledging their feelings reduces objectional behavior.
Set limits. Providing the clear, reasonable rules kids need is an essential skill for effective parenting. There don’t have to be many rules, but they need to be clear and reasonable for the child. Back up rules with consequences and dependable follow-through.
Teach new skills. Some parenting conflicts arise because parents expect children to have skills that the children do not have.