Breakout the Stiletto Heels: A Christian Women’s Guide to Dating on Purpose

By MechelleRenee Stokes

Breakout the Stiletto Heels is a manual for single Christian women that desire to date on purpose. Using her specialized 90-10 Rule, Mechelle Stokes illustrates a winning combination of personal growth and Christian dating strategies. No subject—even those considered taboo in Christendom—is off-limits. This smart, authentic, how-to narrative is a must-have for women who crave godly dating success.

• Language: English
• Publisher: MechelleRenee Stokes
• Release date: Aug 2, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301751396

MechelleRenee Stokes

Mechelle Renee is not your average beauty, but she embodies mover and shaker tenacity. Born in South Carolina, and raised in West Palm Beach, Fl, she is a woman with a plan. Those who have had the privilege of gracing her presence would call her inspiring, humorous, focused, and enthusiastic.However, all of these accolades have come with a price. Her life has not been a cakewalk, but Mechelle Renee's faith in God and determination to bring Emotional healing and Kingdom understanding to the hearts and minds of women across the world have catapulted her through life's dark moments.As an entrepreneur, author, and life coach, Mechelle Renee is one to be sought after for Spiritual Growth, Emotional Healing, and Authentic Living.Connect with her today!

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Breakout the Stiletto Heels: A Christian Women’s Guide to Dating on Purpose

By Mechelle Stokes

Copyright 2013 MechelleRenee.com

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Acknowledgements

I’d first like to thank the CEOs of my life: God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. Thank you for your inspiration and guidance when writing this book. To my beautiful mother and two sisters, I couldn’t have done this without your love, patience, and support. Finally, to every D.I.V.A. (Divine, Intellectual, Ambassador of God) who reads this book I dedicate this to you.

Introduction

Section I: Lord, Keep Me Please!

Pillow Between My Thighs

Three Important Gates

Masturbation Getaway

Masturbation Rehab

Night Sweats

This Man is Fine! (Keep Me from Impure Thoughts)

Lust: Don’t Believe the Hype

Power over Wet Dreams

Section II: Taking Precautionary Measures: Character Analysis and HB Plans

Creating Your HB Plan

Boundaries: Cross This Line and You’re Out

Go Beyond the Surface of a Man

Are You Sending the Right Signals?

Section III: The Soul of a Woman

Check Your Emotions

The Power in Securing the Cookie

The Power of Soul Ties

God the Scissor Hands

What Is Your Emotional Scent?

Move Forward in Your Emotions

Section IV: Spider Woman Boot Camp: Training Your Woman’s Intuition

Spider Sensory Training (SST)

The Armor of God

Section V: Free2BeYou: Addressing Matters of the Heart and Godly Confidence

The Healing Process

Freedom in Your Own Skin

Dress Code: Fabulously Comfortable and Sexy Conservative

Section VI: Dating is the Name of the Game

A Date with the King

Dating God is Not New for Me

Wait…Can Christian Women Date?

Group Interviews: Collecting Dating Resumes

The First Three Dates

My Thoughts about Online Dating

Hearing Two Voices at Once

The Purposeful Dating Experience

Three Bonus Dating Nuggets for Single Christian Women

Pray for Your Future Husband

Being Christian Does Not Make Him the One

Quiet Your Desperate Plea

Final Thoughts

Introduction

I wrote this book with you in mind. You are single Christian women who desire a closer walk with God, and are ready to embark on a journey; I call, Dating on Purpose. This book was written for different types of single women—singles with no kids, single mothers, seasoned singles, divorcees, and widowed women who have healed and are ready to date again. This book is for all of you!

This work is not a Walk Ye, this is the Only Way manual. Instead, it is a guide that depicts and explains Christian living as a single woman, and offers dating nuggets that will help along the way. For instance, some ladies may already be dating, and are interested in understanding the metrics of compatibility, or whether or not to move their relationship to the next level. Other women may struggle with holes in the soul, that cause a repetitious cycle of unhealthy dating, and they want answers on how to escape. There is something here for everyone.

In this book, I express my authentic journey as a single woman. I share my trials and errors, in hopes, that this helps to successfully progress your dating journey. Not only will this book help prepare you to Date on Purpose, it provides tips for restoring the real you. Get ready because we are going in deep. You will be stretched in your mind, challenged in your heart and encouraged to come to terms with internal demons. Together we will laugh, cry and nod our heads in agreement. And most of all, we will finally triumph over fear together.

Single Women Unite!

Writing this book is my way of welcoming you into my world, my thoughts, and my life lessons as a single Christian woman. Please join me, grab a glass of Moscato (or fruit juice) and find a comfortable spot on the sofa. We are going to have the time of our lives. Let’s begin.

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I can still remember the overwhelming joy I felt, and how nervous I was when I said, I do to God’s proposal for my hand in marriage. My first marriage was not in a big church, standing in a beautiful white gown, with love ones watching. Instead, God and I eloped. He and I—two lovers—were the only individuals present for the ceremony. It was paradise.

My living room was beautifully decorated with an indescribable presence. A heavenly choir of angelic singers serenaded us in the background. It would have taken your breath away. I can still remember hearing the vibration of love coming from God’s voice as we exchanged our secret vows of commitment and love. The more He spoke His love to me, the more I cried uncontrollably. Now that I think about it, I’m glad that I didn’t have on makeup that day because I would have been a sore sight to see. When I finally pulled myself together, grabbed my last piece of tissue, and dried the remaining tears from my eyes, the Lord reached out for my hand and gently slid the ring of holiness back onto my finger—pronouncing me as His lovely wife.

That was four years ago when I made that holy covenant with God. I made a vow to the Lord that I would not partake in premarital sex of any kind again. I would wait until I was married to the man of His choice. To say that this decision was a walk in the park would be a major understatement, but to tell you that it was pure hell would definitely be an overstatement. It was not easy, but doable. With the Lord’s help guiding me through, I overcame many nights of sexual withdrawals, and adult temper tantrums. It was God’s grace and mercy that kept me from relapsing.

Over time, I grew to value my love for God more than a quick meaningless sexual fix. The palate of my emotions began to change its cravings. My longing for sex decreased, and I craved more of God’s limitless love and intimacy. Prayer helped me through the rough patches of life, and grew me closer to God while I continued to mature in holiness.

Holiness, I’m learning, takes a lifetime to perfect. I had to allow God to develop me through this process of life. Like a diamond in the rough, He mined and polished my purity’s potential. If you can relate to what I am saying or may have made the mistake of crawling back into bed with someone, I want you to know that the Lord forgives you. Now forgive yourself and let it go. Don’t you dare live under condemnation any longer! Just pull back the covers, get dressed, and decide in your mind and heart that this will be the last time I have sex (of any kind) with an individual who is not my husband.

Get up woman and brush yourself off because it is