Dating with a Purpose

By Kay Rose Nachilima

And let’s face it... we are now living in a hook up culture which even makes it harder to find love and date without a purpose... especially if your goal is marriage not just hanging out. Dating can be fun, but going on endless dates wasting your time and money isn't fun.... So one must have a goal...what's your pursuit? Is it marriage or just having fun? I am sure most of you want to get married, so if you have no intentions of marrying your date then don’t waste his/her time, or yours. It’s as simple as that. No one benefits from going on never ending dates with someone who really has zero interest in getting to know you better. So what’s a nice Christian girl supposed to do?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kay Rose Nachilima
• Release date: Nov 18, 2014
• ISBN: 9781310753244

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Dating with a Purpose

Kay Rose Nachilima

Dating with a Purpose

Copyright ©2014 by Kay Rose Nachilima

Published by Kay Rose Nachilima at Smashwords

Smashwords Edition

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be copied or printed without consent from the author.

This Book is Dedicated to:

My heavenly Father: Your will and not mine. Your Purpose and not mine. You paid the highest price for my life and I owe you everything Lord.

To my beautiful children Mutale and Shechinah, you mean the world to me...I love you.

Chichi, Granny & my sweet nephew Daniel: Thanks for all the love and kindness you have shown ...Much love Kay

To all the Christian singles across the globe who desire to honor God in all they do while finding that special someone to share life with.

GDA/BSOG

You are my second family, I love you all.

Family and Friends

Thanks you for everything.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter One: What’s the Purpose of Dating?

Chapter Two: That All-important First Date

Chapter Three: So…What Comes Next

Chapter Four: Love Bribery will get you Nowhere Good

Chapter Five: So…What are you Looking for in a Man

Chapter Six: Do’s and Don’ts for Deciding who to Date

Chapter Seven: Making yourself Dateable…the Right way

Chapter Eight: Questions to ask Yourself Before Going on a Date

Chapter Nine: What does God have to Say

Conclusion

Bonus Chapters - Secrets of Dating

Chapter Ten: Is he really into you, or is he just looking for a good time?

Chapter Eleven: Say No to dating Married Men!

Chapter Twelve: 20 Marriage Tips I wrote for my two beautiful girls

Chapter Thirteen: Wondering why you are still single...wonder no more

Chapter Fourteen: The Problem with men is

Chapter Fifteen: 8 Types of Women that can rock your marriage life

Chapter Sixteen: Work Place and College Dating Tips in the Hook-up Culture

Chapter Seventeen: 5 Things to Remember When Love Goes Wrong

Chapter Eighteen: How to Create and Nurture a Healthy relationship

Chapter Nineteen: How to find a good wife

Chapter Twenty: Being Beautiful is Easy! Connect with his heart

Chapter Twenty One: Cleavage! Ladies, have we gone too far

Chapter Twenty Two: 10 Dating Tips for Men

Chapter Twenty Three: Single Mothers and Marriage

Introduction

It’s not always easy being single. There are times when you desire companionship (other than what you get from your goldfish); the kind of companionship that lasts forever. It’s the companionship called love and marriage.

But then you take a look around at all the broken marriages, the dysfunctional relationships and the craziness society has turned the act of dating into. I mean, seriously, how many reality shows (and I use the term ‘reality’ loosely) are there dealing with finding and hanging on to love?

And let’s face it… we are now living in a hook up culture which even makes it harder to find love and date without a purpose... especially if your goal is marriage not just hanging out. Dating can be fun, but going on endless dates wasting your time and money isn't fun.... So one must have a goal...what's your pursuit? Is it marriage or just having fun? I am sure most of you want to get married, so if you have no intentions of marrying your date then don’t waste his/her time, or yours. It’s as simple as that. No one benefits from going on never ending dates with someone who really has zero interest in getting to know you better. So what’s a nice Christian girl supposed to do?

Well for starters, you can read this book. Secondly, you need to let what you read seal the deal in remaining true to God and to yourself. Don’t let the world’s view of dating, sex and relationships replace God’s plan and design for the people he created. And finally, pray. Pray continually for God to bless your life, protect your heart and show you who and what he desires for your life.

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. ~Matthew 6:33 NIV

One

What’s the Purpose of Dating?

Well, duh, you say! To find a man, that’s the purpose for dating.

Yes, it is, but it’s not about finding or dating any man, it is about a man finding you. But don't date aimlessly. Do it on purpose! Know what you want before you put yourself out there or before you invest your time. As a Christian, your purpose for dating should be to seek out the man—the one God wants you to share your life with. I think we can both agree, however, that there’s a lot more to it than picking someone out and deciding or having a gut-feeling that he is ‘the one’. It takes more than just the sparkles or butterflies that come with being attracted to each other.

My mother once told me that, there are only two outcomes from dating relationships: getting married or setting yourself up for a break-up. The secret, she said, "is knowing if the person you are dating is worth getting married to if they are not, then it's not worth investing your precious time going on dates back and forth with someone you don't see the person you are dating as someone you can submit to, proud to call a husband and father to your future kids.

If you date with a purpose, you will date smarter. You have to set some standards for yourself and be able to