That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor - What It Is and How To Get It

By Jaimi Taylor

There is something great about A-list living and That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor, the final book of a twenty-one book series (The Insiders' Lifestyle Guides), is the final step to achieving that elicit charming lifestyle. Charm is a person with a certain energy, intensity, spirt and dash. Give others esteem, prestige, warmth, and friendliness, and you will be living with charming people. Switching your interest from yourself to others casts that rare spell called charm.

That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor - What It Is and How To Get It by Jaimi Taylor is a fun and entertaining short read. Since jet setting is part of such a grand lifestyle, the Insiders' Lifestyle Guide series theme includes a cultural or travel experience with every book.

Information is Timeless: Everyone holds a secret desire to be part of the A-list seeking a confident, fashionable, and extraordinary life. These series guides make transformation routine to which all men and women will relate - The Complete Makeover Series.

Actionable Strategies: The Insiders' Lifestyle Guide series contains specific strategies in each book and edition that can transform lives. It details social skills of boosting confidence, replacing bad habits, and reinventing one's self. This book will appeal to professionals, parents, and generations of young adults.

Appeal of the Authors: The Insiders' Lifestyle Guides are written by a team of contributing authors, all with a witty, quirky, slapstick appeal.

Series Overview: The Insiders' Lifestyle Guides is a first, of a twenty-one book series, that will be revised and re-launched periodically with all new material. Each book features famous themed cities represented of the book covers and includes an introduction comprising a short story about its featured city.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Aauvi House Publishing Group
• Release date: May 3, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301813360

Jaimi Taylor

Jaimi Taylor is one of the contributing writers for the several Insiders' Lifestyle Guides book series (A Complete Makeover Series). See the several press releases below to learn more about each book. She is also the author of Derailed - Memoirs of a Botched Hysterectomy - A Story About Endometriosis: A Narrative Non-fiction memoir. A native of Northern California, she lives with her husband in California. Together they have a precious Shih Tzu named Precious. Smashwords Titles by Jaimi Taylor: Derailed - Memoirs of a Botched Hysterectomy - Hysterectomy to Remove Fibroids and Cyst - Really was Endometriosis! Routines and Rituals - Simple Pleasures of Life Romance - Up Close and Personal That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor - What It Is and How To Get It Press Releases at AauviHouse.com Press & Media: San Jose, CA (August 23, 2012) - Aauvi House Publishing Group, Rags to Riches Entertainment Division, Announces New Book Release - That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor - What It Is and How To Get It by Jaimi Taylor San Jose, CA (August 1, 2012) - Aauvi House Publishing Group Announces Book Release Re-Launch, Derailed - Memoirs of a Botched Hysterectomy, a true story about undiagnosed endometriosis by Jaimi Taylor San Jose, CA (July 12, 2012) - Aauvi House Publishing Group, Rags to Riches Entertainment Division, Announces New Book Release - Romance - Up Close and Personal by Jaimi Taylor San Jose, CA (May 7, 2012) - Aauvi House Publishing Group, Rags to Riches Entertainment Division, Announces New Book Release - Routines and Rituals - Simple Pleasures of Life by Jaimi Taylor You can also join Jaimi in the fight against endometriosis my following her on Twitter @EndoObserver or visit her blog at EndoObserver.blogspot.com

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That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor

What It Is and How To Get It

JAIMI TAYLOR

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Rags to Riches Entertainment Group

An imprint of Aauvi House Publishing Group

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Published by Aauvi House Publishing Group at Smashwords

Copyright 2013 Jaimi Taylor

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Titles by Jaimi Taylor

DERAILED – Memoirs of a Botched Hysterectomy (Endometriosis Awareness)

Routines and Rituals – Simple Pleasures of Life

Romance – Up Close and Personal

That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor – What It Is and How To Get It

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Contents

Book Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Introduction

1 – Effortless Charm

2 – Prelude to Je Ne Sais Quoi

3 – Looking Young, Fresh, and Not Overdone

4 – A Physical Grace or Attraction

5 – Well Educated and Informed

6 – Genuinely Interested in Others

7 – Gets Things Taken Care of Without Making a Fuss

8 – Energy, Intensity, Spirit and Dash

9 – Living with Charming People

10 – Encounters with a Certain Something

Closing Remarks

End of Book

About the Author

About the Publisher

Books by Aauvi House

Excerpts by Aauvi House

Credits

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Introduction

In its brief history, Aauvi House Publishing Group has become the new it marketers of information-based lifestyle solutions in the self-help and how-to markets for all age groups. Reinforcing a belief that living a planned extraordinarily fulfilled lifestyle is of paramount importance to its readers.

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series is a first, of a twenty-one book series, that will be revised and re-launched periodically with all new material. These books feature famous themed cities represented by the book covers and include an introduction comprising a short story about its featured city. Annually, the series guides will be rolled up as chapter inserts into a single book and sold during the holiday season.

Anyone who desires the secrets to A-list living, values their appearance, is concerned about lifestyle or just needs more information can benefit from reading and continually referring back to the Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series. Each book – practical in its approach – is full of facts that teach you how to make the most of your life, how to achieve peak performance, and how to maintain general health. In short, the Aauvi House Publishing Group, Rags to Riches Entertainment imprint’s ability to offer its readers a more complete and concise migration path to an extraordinary red carpet lifestyle, just got better.

Information Is Timeless

Everyone holds a secret desire to be part of the A-list seeking a confident, fashionable, and extraordinary life. These series guides make transformation routine to which all men and women will relate.

Actionable Strategies

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series contains specific strategies in each book and edition that can transform lives. It details social skills of boosting confidence, replacing bad habits, and re-inventing one’s self. These books will appeal to professionals, parents, and generations of young adults.

About the Authors

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series are written by a team of contributing authors, all of whom have a witty, quirky, slapstick appeal.

About Our Cover Story – Washington, DC

Since jet setting is part of such a grand lifestyle, the Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series theme includes a cultural or travel experience with every book. That is, between promotional junkets, film festivals and red carpet appearances, celebrities can rack up as many frequent-flier miles as they do trips to rehab. And so can you, once you have an insider bird’s eye view of the possibilities.

Whether traveling by plane or virtually by way of these pages, our cover story is Washington D.C. The Washington Monument is the most prominent, as well as one of the older, attractions in Washington, D.C. It was built in honor of George Washington, who led the country to independence and then became its first President. The Monument is shaped like an Egyptian column, 555 feet high, and averages 30 to 40 miles visibility in clear weather.

Washington, D.C., formally the District of Columbia and commonly referred to as Washington, the District, or simply D.C., is the capital of the United States. In 1790, the Residence Act approved the creation of a capital district as permitted by the U.S. Constitution. The District is under the exclusive jurisdiction of the United States Congress and is therefore not a part of any U.S. state.

The states of Maryland and Virginia donated land along the Potomac River to form the federal district; however, Congress returned the Virginia portion in 1846. The City of Washington, located east of the preexisting port of Georgetown, was founded in 1791 to serve as the new national capital. Congress consolidated the whole District under a single municipal government in 1871. The city and the U.S. state of Washington, which is on the country’s Pacific coast, were both named in honor of George Washington.

Washington, D.C., had an estimated population of 617,996 in 2011, the 25th most populous place in the United States. The centers of all three branches of the federal government of the United States are in the District, including the Congress, President, and Supreme Court.

About That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor

There is something great about A-list living and That Je Ne Sais Quoi Factor, the twenty-first book of a twenty-one book series, is the final step to achieving that elicit charm. Charm is a person with certain energy, intensity, spirit and dash. Give others esteem, prestige, warmth, and friendliness, and you will be living among charming people. Switching your interest from yourself to others casts that rare spell called charm – that je ne sais quoi.

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Effortless Charm

We’ve all met them, haven’t we? People who just get along effortlessly with everyone – those incredible individuals who seem to glide through life on a permanent high. These are the people we are all slightly jealous of because they are always doing something interesting or they always seem to have another amazing adventure to share. We can’t stay jealous, though, because they are just too damn likable. When other people discuss them, they always use that word: charming.

If you asked anyone what makes someone charming, the vast majority of people would have no idea. It would be some vague, intangible quality that doesn’t help us in developing that desirable characteristic. But help is at hand to break these things down, so that you too can develop these life-enhancing social skills.

Being charming is not as difficult as it may seem, and can be hugely rewarding: You get invited to more parties, you make more friends, you get more business opportunities, and important people are more likely to remember you. Above all, you have more fun.

In Conversation, Put the Spotlight On Others

There is nothing more boring than someone who hogs the conversation and only ever talks about themselves. Charming people know this, and so only mention themselves sporadically or if asked a direct question. Even in this event, they will skillfully steer the conversation onto another subject.

In conversations, you should always give other people the spotlight. Most people’s area of expertise is themselves; by knowing this, and allowing them to shine, they will think of you as a great person.

Be A Social Facilitator

A great way to demonstrate your charm is by introducing people to one another. This is an especially valuable skill if that introduction can be mutually beneficial, whether in a professional or personal sense. You will always be remembered as the person who introduced them. And the fact that you did it without seeking advantage to yourself will earn you massive bonus points. It demonstrates that you are socially intelligent, that you like helping others and that you aren’t motivated by purely selfish interests.

Show Enthusiasm

This tip covers two major areas: First, being genuinely pleased to see someone always makes them feel good because it suggests they are a nice person. It also says that you like and value their company. They’ll like you for making them feel good about themselves.

Second, and just as important, is your everyday outlook on life. If you want to be charming, you need to make your default position one of positivity and enthusiasm.

Smile

The most obvious – and probably the simplest – of these tips is to learn to smile more. If you have a perpetual frown, people are on guard. If you smile, it shows you are nonthreatening, and probably are a nice person as well. A smile can be totally disarming, as well as being contagious.

Studies have shown that smiling makes people happier, so not only will you make others smile and feel happy, but it will help your mood as well. This translates into being more confident and outgoing, which are important qualities for anyone who is charming.

Use Peoples’ Names When Talking To Them

Dale Carnegie, author of the most famous guide to charm ever written, once said: The sweetest sound to a person’s ear is their own name. Remember this and apply it.

You have probably noticed that most people don’t use names in the midst of a conversation. Be the exception. For instance, greet someone with his or her name or use his or her name when you ask him or her a question. He or she will love you for it. Doing this has the added bonus of helping you to remember that person’s name the next time you see him or her. But don’t go overboard or it will seem strange.

Groom For the Part

An integral part of being charming is in feeling good about yourself, and a surefire way to achieve that is to take pride in your appearance. Before you go out, make sure you look as good as possible: Be well-groomed, smell good and dress in clean, smart clothes. When you know you look good, you feel good and it allows you to project the most positive version of yourself. When you feel good, it is easier to make others feel good. You won’t be caught up in your own anxieties, allowing you to focus on others more fully.

Engage Less Social Individuals

We all know what it is like going to a party or business function where you don’t know anyone. We have all had an occasion where we stand or sit in the corner, hanging on to a drink for dear life. As a charming person, you can spot the people who are a bit nervous or shy, and can bring them into the conversation. While introducing yourself, comment on the event and give them a chance to have a conversation, rather than a terrible evening. You will be remembered for that.

Accept Comments Graciously

For some reason, people are generally not very good at taking compliments. Giving a compliment is okay, but when we receive one, we squirm, look uncomfortable and may mumble something about it being no big deal. A charming person does not do this.

Receiving a compliment is like being given a gift: If you don’t accept it graciously, it can cause offense. There are two magic words you can use whenever someone gives you a compliment, that are gracious, dignified, and avoid you sounding egotistical: thank you. Leave it at that. Simple it may be, but devastatingly effective as well.

Give Sincere Compliments

There are few things less charming than a contrived compliment. The important point is to be sincere: If you see something you like about someone, tell them. Don’t try to find something for the sake of being complimentary; that feels false. However, you like the person’s clothes, accessories or the way they did something, tell them. People can sense when it is sincere. If an individual isn’t good at taking compliments, just move on gracefully, rather than trying to force them to accept it – that will make both of you uncomfortable.

Know How To Use Touch

Adeptly knowing how and where to touch someone can be extremely powerful. For instance, placing your fingertips very briefly on their upper arm is surprisingly powerful and can really reinforce a point that you are making. This isn’t an easy skill to master, however, and you need to be a good judge of how comfortable others are with being touched. If used properly, it can be incredibly charming.

Nonetheless, always use touch on safe areas: arms, shoulders, or hands – nowhere that is overly intimate. Keep your touch light and keep it brief, as a lingering hand can be very discomforting.

Be Humorous

The most charming men and women have the inherent ability to make people laugh. To achieve this, you need to have the open mindedness to have a laugh at yourself, and also be well read at the same time. Everyone loves to be around witty people as they can greatly lift the doom and gloom in everyone’s lives. Be in good spirits, always!

There is a place for serious discussion and there is a place for the light-hearted, so be ready to contribute in either environment. Witty comments tend to be spontaneous, clever and unexpected. So being witty is not an easy skill to develop but there are some things you can do.

Observe witty people in action and see how they contribute. Be bold enough to add your comments and witticisms and carefully watch reactions to see whether you are hitting the right note. Have a stock of funny stories. Do not force them into the conversation but have them ready when you get the cue or when there is a lull.

Personal anecdotes relating to unusual experiences and misfortunes that happened to you often go down well. Develop and practice some self-deprecating stories. Jokes, quotes and other people’s witty remarks can also be used sparingly and with acknowledgement. But beware of smutty or offensive stories in mixed company. Laugh at other people’s funny stories, even if you have heard them before, but never give away someone else’s punch line.

How To Have a Witty Conversation

Being witty is a good way to use your intelligence and knowledge to amuse people and enliven conversations. It can also be an impressive flirting tool. Everyone loves being around a person who has their wits about them, and it’s especially effective if you’re witty enough to make others feel witty as well. Here are a few ways to do that.

Listen well. Start by paying attention to what somebody is saying to you, and reflect it back to them in your own words. It shows that you’ve not only processed their ideas, it shows you actually considered them.

In being witty, however, you’re going to reflect their words in a different way – strike a comparison to something else, ideally something that you and your conversation partner are both familiar with.

You’ll be implying that you understand them by comparing their statement to something else. The more well-read, the more of that something else that you know, the more comparisons you can make, and the wittier you can be.

Use creative and vivid exaggeration. This has a way of not only providing a platform for your wit; it can also frame a discussion.

Let’s say your friend is telling you how cross-eyed his teacher is. You can say, in response, She’s so cross-eyed that when she cries, the tears run down her back!

Use puns. Take a word or phrase that the other person just used, and use it in a different way that still ties into the conversation.

If you’re feeling witty, and there happens to be a stethoscope laying around, you might hold it up mimicking a doctor and say, Evidently a case of bacteria!

If you have to say, get it… back-tear-ia? then you need to work on your delivery.

Wittiness means keeping the context clear. If there wasn’t any medical context to the conversation, that response would be totally random, and not very witty.

You can also use a word in a sentence in a way that more than one of its meanings are relevant.

Use metaphors. Let’s say someone says, out of the blue, It’s 6 o’clock! You can say, Thank you, Big Ben! (Big Ben is a nickname for a giant bell in a clock in London.) This is a particularly sarcastic example, because you’re also implying (by saying thank you) that you’re obviously not thankful.

Not all metaphors have to be sarcastic. Describing your son’s messy room, for instance, as the site of Hurricane Bob, is a witty and creative way to say it’s quite messy, and Bob’s responsible.

You can also use witty metaphors to compliment or admire someone.

Respond with a relevant quotation from a movie, book, or significant figure. The more obscure the reference, the wittier the statement – but the greater the confusion if the person you’re talking to doesn’t know what you’re referring to.

If someone says, I’ll try and you say, Do or do not; there is no try, they may or may not realize that you’re making a Star Wars reference. If they wittingly respond with The force is strong in you, you’ll know they got it.

Reply quickly and nonchalantly. The wittiness is not only in how creatively you can link ideas and draw comparisons, but also in how quickly.