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    Without Consent, How To Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse
    Without Consent, How To Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse
    Without Consent, How To Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse
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    Without Consent, How To Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse

    By Jeffery Kirkendall & Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall

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    Without Consent was conceived to meet the needs of the 32 million American women who have been sexually abused as children, this powerfully compassionate work avoids the typical cliche solutions of so many "self-help" books. Written in a clear, concise manner, this book is of immeasurable benefit to victims and their families as well as mental health professionals.

    The authors contend that it is the immobilizing effects of fear and shame which prevent most victims from ever telling anyone about their experiences. Although many of these women outwardly appear to suffer no ill effects from their childhood experiences, closer study has shown that the majority of them still bear serious emotional scars.

    The authors promote a balanced approach to confronting and resolving issues resulting from childhood sexual abuse. They define the problems resulting from abuse, outline individual exercises for recovering, describe support systems to be utilized, and delineate when the involvement of a competent professional therapist is needed. Without Consent offers victims a proven workable framework for overcoming childhood sexual abuse one-day-at-a-time.

    The authors effectively explain the manner in which a person's thinking is influenced by abuse and the resulting "core beliefs" that sexual abuse victims share. They describe the everyday emotional effects that adults struggle with as a result of childhood abuse. They show specific ways in which former victims keep themselves powerless or "out of control." Finally, they reveal the many ways in which intimate relationships are effected by abuses of the past.

    With sensitivity and wisdom, obviously born of their own personal and professional experiences, they assist victims in realizing that they are not alone, shameful, defective, or crazy. They offer effective techniques or "tools" to alter core beliefs, change self-defeating emotional patterns, develop habits for healthy power and control, and strategies for cultivating trust, intimacy, and healthy sexual relationships.

    The theme which dominates the pages of Without Consent is that for the victims of childhood sexual abuse, not only is there hope, but "'life can be lived with joy and fulfillment."

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherJeffery Kirkendall & Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall
    Release dateJun 9, 2012
    ISBN9781476278797
    Without Consent, How To Overcome Childhood Sexual Abuse
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    Jeffery Kirkendall & Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall

    Married for twenty-six years, Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall and Jeffery Kirkendall pioneered work in the field of treatment for childhood sexual abuse in the late 1970's and 80's. At the time of Without Consent's firstpublication, this husband and wife therapy team had provided psychological services to more than fifteen hundred victims and families dealing with childhood sexual abuse. The blend of their professional backgrounds, Carol's personal recovery from childhood sexual abuse, and Jeff's perspective as a husband of a recovering victim uniquely equips them with professional understanding, empathy, and practical day-to-day insights and suggestions for breaking out of victim patterns of thinking and behaving. Carol and Jeff have lent their expertise to the psychological and psychiatric communities, social services, criminal justice system, religious communities, academic communities, the military, and the arts. While Carol is retired from the business of therapy, Jeff continues to write, teach, and consult on the issues of the day. As a couple, they continue to work the principles they put forward in Without Consent and celebrate each day together as a profound gift.

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