Secrets for Stopping Bullying: Book 1 - Secret Signs

By William Ford

A must have book, easy to understand. Designed with the high school reader in mind and parents of bullied children (helping them to understand what the bullied person is going through) - Book 1 deals with bullying prior to physical aggression. It outlines to the innocent, the things which attract bullies and make certain people the target of bullying (both individually and socially). The book then outlines a number of solutions that a bullied individual can employ to minimize the problem.
This book deals with the precursors to bullying, being those things which we term "awareness". Here we outline in detail things an individual can do to minimize contact with bullies in the first place. Book 1 concludes by dealing with verbal solutions which may be employed to minimize/avoid bullying.

• Language: English
• Publisher: William Ford
• Release date: Jun 5, 2012
• ISBN: 9781476091990

William Ford

I have trained in a number of martial arts disciplines for the past 51 years attaining the rank of 12Th DAN in Chen Do. Whilst this has been most beneficial to me in my careers (which included law enforcement and security), I also saw that violence was never the answer. After many years of instructing others in these styles I saw the need for a passive approach to social aggression [bullying] It has long been one of my life's aim to devise a non-violent solution, which allows the intended victim to protect themselves, without resorting to the traditional violent responses in most forms of 'self defense'. This book and the next two in the series are the natural progression in helping our young people cope with an evermore complicated social environment without violent responses.

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Secrets for Stopping Bullying

– for Kids –

book 1

Secret Signs

By William H. Ford

Published by W. H. Ford at Smashwords

Copyright 2012 William H. Ford

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1 - Introduction

Chapter 2 - The Science of Bullying

Chapter 3 - Targets - What makes People Targets of Bullies.

Chapter 4 Awareness & Confidence

Chapter 5 - Solutions to Bullying

Chapter 6 Awareness Solutions

Chapter 7 - Verbal Conflict Management - Overview

Chapter 8 - Types of Behaviour

Chapter 9 - Barriers to Communication

Chapter 10 - Being an Effective Listener

Chapter 11 - Conflict has its Benefits

Chapter 12 - Taking an Aikido Approach to Conflict

Chapter 13 - Control Methods

Chapter 14 - Six Steps to Control

Chapter 15 - Five Steps to Solution

Chapter 16 - The Decision Process

Chapter 17 - Review the Outcome

Chapter 18 – About Book 2.

Chapter 19 - About the Author

Chapter 20 - Conclusion

Chapter 1 - Introduction

Welcome to the first anti-bullying and anti-violence handbook.

This book is designed as a guide, for use by those individuals who find themselves being bullied, or for those in authority, charged with their well-being.

For bullying to be successful, there must be a physical outcome. (You will be ‘bashed up’ – secrets may be threatened to be exposed - someone you love may be threatened ...etc...).

Mostly bullying is about confidence, or rather, lack of it, brought about by fear.

Most serious schoolyard bullying turns to violence.

This includes cyber bullying

Those with little or no confidence are often the subject of bullying.

So begins a vicious circle:

I am being bullied.

I need to be confident (or show confidence).

I am afraid.

Therefore I show in my body language, responses and actions that I lack confidence.

So I am bullied (possibly even more) and the cycle continues to spiral.

Awareness

Verbal Conflict Management

Whilst there may be some slight variables with ‘Verbal Conflict Management’, the verbal section will apply almost equally to students/staff and teachers/supervisors.

Book 2 contains the Passive Power System – simple Non Violent physical responses which may be used, if verbal conflict suddenly escalates and becomes physical. Passive Power Non Violent physical responses develop instant CONFIDENCE in the individual and break the fear cycle.

The photos in this book use adults, but almost anyone can perform the moves. Certainly anyone of high school age or above will find them easy to do.

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Chapter 2 - The Science of Bullying

Bullying is about power and control.

Mainly it involves someone’s perception of another person.

Bullies are threatened by differences in others, which they are unable to accept.

For bullying to be successful, there must be a physical outcome of a threat, or perceived threat by the victim. It can be at school, in the workplace, or anywhere.

For example, if I have a fear I will be