Do you find yourself stuck in repetitive, usually negative, thinking about a particular situation, experience or behaviour? Rumination is the unpleasant experiencing of obsessively going over the same old thoughts again and again. Too much rumination stops us from being present.Rumination keeps you stuck - you worry about an issue but don't actually help to address it.Often rumination relates to habitual underlying, negative thoughts or core beliefs that reinforce an idea of us not being 'good enough'.Frequent, repetitive, obsessive thoughts are mostly rooted in earlier, often traumatic or troublesome events.  On the continuum of rigidity and chaos in life, a person who ruminates a lot tends to be very rigid: it's a defensive, frozen position to protect themselves from perceived threats.In this podcast we talk about the potential root causes of rumination and how to address these troublesome thoughts.The Relationship Maze courses:What is your argument style? Find out in our short quiz.Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship.