Aunt Barbara's Powerful Little Book of Comfort

By Barbara Dean Aliaga

You have the power to change everything. Right now. It is the opportunity of this sudden loss in your life that challenges you. Ask for what you need. Ask in prayer. Ask in wishes. Ask and you shall receive. Be patient. Answers will come as you continue to focus on positive thoughts, “I will be all right” and “Things will be fine, I just know it!” Stay active. Dare to follow your dreams. Write in your journal about your dreams for creating a brighter future. Replace every thought of fear with a thought of confidence that your needs are always met and always will be met. Stay away from what has no value (negative thoughts) and continually visualize your well-being. It is time to start now.

It took me a long time to understand this concept. Somehow I felt all thoughts came from a higher being and I was only to observe them, not control them....I am more aware now. You control your reality with your thoughts the same way a driver maneuvers a car with the steering wheel. Think of your thoughts as your steering wheel to consistent happiness. Steer your way through these sad times into the light of well-being.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Barbara Dean Aliaga
• Release date: Nov 12, 2011
• ISBN: 9781466005457

Barbara Dean Aliaga

I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area during the 50’s and 60’s. I entered the convent in 1963 and delighted in teaching elementary school. I like to brag that my first class held 54-second-graders and I taught them to sing in 3-part harmony because I didn’t know that they couldn’t. I am always grateful for the foundation I received during the five years I remained in the convent. I have a BA in English/Drama and have always been gifted with a positive spirit. I married in 1970 to a then returning Vietnam Medic Veteran who previously found himself part of “Operation Peter Pan” in the 60’s from Cuba. We fell in love at first sight and are enjoying life now on Camano Island. We enjoy our one son, our daughter-in-law, and our two extraordinarily fine grandsons. I have worked as an executive director of The Harman Eye Clinic in Arlington, Washington and have been with the firm since 1989. I am proficient at running a company, but my joy comes from encouraging staff members to reach constantly for their potential -- to live happy lives! In the 1980’s I published three technical books through International Self-Publish Press: “Start And Run A Profitable Home Typing Business,” “Keyboarding for Kids,” and “Learn to Type Fast”. During that time I also wrote a book about TMJ, called “TMJ, Breaking the Cycle of Pain,” and a little children’s story, “Michael And The Acorn Necklace.” Actually, “William Pardon Tankerfield the Third and A Google of Wishes” was first begun in the 1980s. I am passionate about educating, exploring new thinking, painting and writing. Creativity is the air I enjoy so much that I can stay up all night lost in doing what I am doing right now. I am available for readings and speaking engagements. Write to me through email -- Barbara at Artsali dot com

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Aunt Barbara’s Powerful Little Book of Comfort

By

Barbara Dean Aliaga

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Aunt Barbara’s Powerful Little Book of Comfort

Copyright © 2011 by Barbara Dean Aliaga

ISBN: 978-1-4660-0545-7

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Chapter One: Understanding Devestation

Chapter Two: Getting Started

Chapter Three: Thoughts Can Change Your Situation

Chapter Four: Rest Is More

Chapter Five: The Power of Thoughts

Chapter Six: When Darkness Surrounds You

Chapter Seven: Using A Journal For Growth

Chapter Eight: On Health And Wealth

Chapter Nine: Questions And Answers

Chapter Ten: Letting A Situation Define You

Chapter Eleven: Moving Forward

Chapter Twelve: BONUS Journal Assistance

About the Author

Thanks, Acknowledgements, And Dedication

Thank you to my niece, Maria Pilly, who has inspired me to write this book.

Thank you to my daughter-in-law, Justine Slack, for providing her editorial services. As all writers know, the unsung hero of any book is the editor who can detect the most isolated typo, grammatical snag and often hidden formatting blunder not to mention courage to say this sentence is incomplete. Ms. Slack provides a much-needed standard for self-published writers. I highly recommend her. ([e-mail])

This workbook to recovery is lovingly dedicated to all who have experienced a devastating loss.

Chapter One: Understanding Devastation

Devastation seldom sends a gold-leaf, save-the-date announcement. Sadly, you already know this. I imagine the shock of your devastating event has hit your life like lightning with a SWACK, and with little or no warning. You are left confused, off-balanced and miserable.

Devastation can come to those who have experienced a sudden detachment from the people, places and things so interwoven with their personal identity that it is hard to distinguish self from the lost person, place or thing. This book is written for those who have lost a loved one in death, in divorce or separation; those who have left home to go off to college or left their family and moved to a new location far away; those who have lost their homes, companies or jobs.

You may feel lost and alone. You may feel that no one can understand your sorrow, your need to sometimes be left alone and sometimes be supported. You are in such pain. It is all you can do to open your eyes in the morning. If you are able, you stumble through the day’s chores, but your heart cannot get away from the pain. You wonder if there is anything that can get you through this most unexpected situation.

It does not matter whether your best friend has died, you have suddenly found yourself in the hospital, you have lost your job, or you are going through a separation, ... Whatever your loss, you feel devastated and nothing or no one can seem to alleviate the pain.

You ask whether there is anything or anyone who can make the pain go away. Nothing in your life has ever felt this bad. Nothing.

Before we begin, may I tell you that I am most compassionate about your feelings and thank you for trusting me enough to at least consider the thoughts and suggestions within this book. What I will tell you, you already know, but because of this tremendous storm you have temporarily forgotten. I recommend you read a chapter each day rather than all at once. I am here with you during this great time of change and growth. Be at peace. Take a breath and feel the moment of quiet self. Try to find time to get away from your challenge and enter a time of inner, renewed quiet and eventual strength. You may not want to hear this right now, but you can survive, you can be happy once again. So, let’s begin.

Chapter Two: Getting Started

There is a unique opportunity for you to grow toward a peaceful and happy existence. At this point, you may doubt that you will be able to get through this day. I wish for you to get beyond your sorrow for a brief but comforting moment. I imagine you want to grow from this devastating experience, to take the seeds of anguish, plant them in this now fertile soil, daily cultivate the positive sprouts of peace as well as weed out the ever-present sprouts of negativity.

You need to get moving, taking small but consistent steps. In the fifth grade I learned that idleness is the devil’s workshop. And, over the years, I know this to be true. You may