Hi mamas. This week I talk to Dr. Elyse McNeil, Mental Load Expert and Founder of Share to Thrive, who is passionate about helping couples thrive in their relationships by providing them with strategies to help them navigate the mental load of parenthood.   In this beautiful conversation, we discuss Elyse’s preparation for her own transition into mothering, and the kinds of conversations she and her husband had to facilitate sharing the load.  We discuss the importance of open and intentional communication early on to avoid unconscious agreements that often lead the default roles that are socially prescribed to us.   We also discuss: -       The importance of both parents being involved in the day to day load of parenting, enabling them both to build skills and confidence together. -       How exploring patriarchal motherhood ideologies can help us distinguish between imposed expectations and our personal standards, leading to self-growth and the release of unrealistic ideals. -       Whether its really possible to split a load 50/50. -       The importance of creating permission to relinquish the need to be productive and to embrace rest in motherhood, and how this needs to be made a priority, rather than an afterthought.   Elyse has such beautiful insights and I hope you enjoy this rich conversation.  Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources: Why Am I So Angry Workshop*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas *** This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more. @lifeafterbirthpsychology  www.lifeafterbirth.com.auFree Inner Critic WorkbookFree Values Aligned Living Workbook  Find out more about Elyse here: Elyse on Instagram