My guests on this week's Best You Podcast episode are Scott Kaufman and Jordyn Feingold. Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist. He is founder and director of the Center for Human Potential and host of The Psychology Podcast, which has received more than 20 million downloads. He is is author/ editor of 10 books, including the forthcoming Choose Growth, A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt, coauthored with Jordyn Feingold.Jordyn Feingold, M.D., is a physician, researcher, and well-being expert integrating the science of well-being and human flourishing into health care and medicine, and is founder of the emerging field of Positive Medicine.Check out the episode to learn more about how to address personal shame and guilt, how to approach yourself without judgement, how to build up your stress tolerance, the difference between having high aspirations vs. high expectations and so much more._____________________________In this episode:(These timestamps are based off of the audio only version of the episode.)4:09 When did you make the decision to write this book together?6:03 Jordyn, what were some of the things you did that expressed your interest in the topic and allowed you to be able to work with Scott on this book?9:47 What does growth mean to you?10:22 Do you think that personal growth always has to mean something bigger or can it simply mean change?12:15 How can integrating the dark sides of ourselves lead to changing ourselves for the better?14:57 What are some things someone can do to discover what one of their negative parts of themselves might be and how can they start to move past it?19:48 What is stress tolerance and how can somebody build their stress tolerance?23:32 How can I make sure that I pick my most important stress tolerance to work on, so that I'm not trying to concentrate on too many at once?24:56 What is the sailboat framework and how can someone apply that framework?29:03 If someone has low self-esteem, do you think they should not go on a high level of exploration?36:00 How can somebody learn hopefulness?39:32 Is there a way that people can teach themselves to expect good outcomes rather than bad ones?41:44 How would you define high expectations vs. high aspirations?46:38 Scott and Jordyn's 3 Keys to Getting Closer to Their Best Selves_____________________________Scott and Jordyn’s Keys to Getting Closer to Their Best Selves:Jordyn’s:Have less screen timeKeep stretching her physical goalsKeep reminding herself there is no finish line to personal growthScott’s:Jump more into the stream of his existence_____________________________Follow Scott and Jordyn on Social Media:Scott’s Instagram: @scottbarrykaufmanJordyn’s Instagram: @jordynfeingoldCheck Out Their Book, Choose Growth._____________________________Want to try out the 10 Week Transformation - THE premiere results oriented fitness program?Go to: https://www.nickcarrier.com/10wt to learn more and get signed up!____________________________Start Getting Your Eating Habits On Track So You No Longer Fear the Scale, But You Have Confidence In Your Body!https://www.nickcarrier.com/6rules____________________________Follow Nick on Instagram: @carrier_bestyou