In this episode of The Brainy Business podcast, host Melina Palmer interviews Vanessa Bohns, a social psychologist and author of You Have More Influence Than You Think. The conversation explores many concepts, including the spotlight effect, invisibility cloak illusion, the focusing illusion, and more, and how they impact the way we show up in the world. Vanessa explains that even when it feels like everyone is looking at you, people are more focused on themselves and are not constantly judging our every move. The episode also dives into the importance of dissent and expressing our opinions, highlighting that speaking up can have a significant impact on conversations. The challenges of virtual presentations are discussed, including the absence of audience feedback. Vanessa shares techniques to keep virtual meetings engaging, such as utilizing the chat function and allowing everyone to contribute. She also reassures listeners that it's more important to focus on the overall message than getting every word perfect. The main takeaway is that individuals have more influence than they think, and being mindful of our words and actions can have a profound impact on others. This episode provides valuable insights for individuals looking to enhance their influence and navigate communication (both virtual and in-person) effectively. Delve into the fascinating realm of influence and perception and learn their true power in your life and business. Unveil the intriguing concepts of the spotlight effect and invisibility cloak illusion and explore how they could be affecting your view of yourself and others. Discover the significant role of audience reactions on speakers and understand the saying-is-believing effect from an all-new perspective. Identify the challenges of virtual presentations and learn effective techniques to engage and sustain the interest of your participants. Realize the extent of your influence and the imperative need to practice mindfulness in your interactions. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Introduction, Melina Palmer introduces episode 318 of The Brainy Business podcast featuring Dr. Vanessa Bohns. She mentions that this episode is a refresh of a previous conversation and explains the reason for choosing to revisit this topic because of how it ties in with this upcoming Friday’s conversation with Andrea Learned. Melina encourages listeners to consider their own influence and how they can make positive changes.  00:02:35 - Vanessa Bohns' Background and Approach to Influence Vanessa Bohns, an experimental social psychologist, discusses her unique approach to studying social influence, which focuses on examining the gap between our intuitions about influence and the reality of our influence. She shares a personal research experience that led her to explore this topic and highlights the importance of understanding how we perceive our own influence. 00:05:59 - The Spotlight Effect and the Invisibility Cloak Illusion Vanessa explains the spotlight effect, which refers to our tendency to believe that others are paying more attention to our embarrassing or negative features than they actually are. She also discusses the invisibility cloak illusion, where we feel invisible to others but are actually being noticed more than we think. These concepts demonstrate that people pay attention to us as a whole, not just our insecurities. 00:09:47 - Having More Influence Than We Think Vanessa discusses how our influence extends beyond our self-perceived flaws and insecurities. She explains Erica Boothby's research on the invisibility cloak illusion, showing that people pay attention to us and our behaviors more than we realize. This insight reveals that we have more influence over others' behavior and actions than we think. 00:14:44 - The Influence of the Audience, Just being their–even if you don’t say anything–can shape the experience and conversation. For example, the presence of a woman in a room can shape the way others talk about an is