Are you truly listening to what other people say when you’re having a conversation?  Whether we don’t understand a subject because we’re not paying attention, or we misunderstand a situation because we already think we have the answer, it all comes down to one thing. In order to be efficient communicators, we first have to master the ability to listen.  A lot of people think listening is about the listener making sense of what the speaker is saying, and although that’s useful, the true conversation happens when you are helping the speaker make sense of what they mean and helping them understand what they say.   In today’s episode, Oscar and I discuss the key ingredient of being an effective communicator. He shares with us powerful techniques that we can use in our relationship with literally everyone, from our co-workers, clients, and friends, to our family, spouse or children.   Oscar Trimboli has coached, mentored and advised people in a wide range of roles, from founders, CEO, CFO, COO, CMO, CTO and a variety of other leadership roles in financial services, technology, professional services, education, and not for profits. He has been asked to speak to leadership teams and their organizations about the importance of clarity to create change, how to embrace the digital economy and the role values play in the achievement of your purpose.   So, listen to Episode 208 of Becoming Your Best, to gain a different perspective on mastering the power of being silent and deep listening.   Questions I ask: What is deep listening? (03:41) What's the difference between a good listener and a great listener? (11:00) Explain what the four villains of listening are, and what's that other side of the coin? (18:58) For someone listening to this right now, whether they're at home, whether they're in the workforce, wherever they're at, what's one thing that across the board you say, "Do this today, and it will have a big impact in your life." (26:54) For those who would like to find out more about you, Oscar, how could they find you? (29:05) In this episode, you will learn: The difference between active listening and deep listening. (04:25) Two simple but essential phrases you could ask people, in order to hear their full thoughts. (05:04)   Three tips to help you remove distractions while you’re listening. (12:13) The story of one of Oscar’s clients, that proves how learning to listen can change your life. (15:54) The difference between how men and women listen. (18:00) Why it’s easier to practice deep listening with strangers than with the closest people. (24:44)  Connect with Oscar: Website  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.