Many couples find themselves in a place where the playfulness, flirtiness and intimacy in their relationship completely shuts down. You know you love each other and want to be together, but you just don’t feel as connected as before.   Reigniting those exciting fun feelings can feel really hard, but what if we could do it by simply opening up little doorways of connection?   How do we reimagine connection and communication in our relationships both inside and outside of the bedroom? In this episode, I’m joined by the creator of the viral How to Keep Monogamy Hot video series, and author of Swing, Ashleigh Renard. She shares how couples who feel shut off from each other can find playfulness again.   We all have these pre-set expectations about marriage. Let’s just imagine the playbook we’re each playing by is the worst habits of our in-laws and our own parents. -Ashleigh Renard   3 Things You’ll Learn in This Episode - How to ‘de-taboo’ talking about intimacyWe don’t have to agree to feeling less than satisfied. What steps can we take to voice our needs?  -How to create doorways to connectionHow do we align love languages so that both us and our partners feel valued and desired?  -Be loyal forward, not backwardInstead of asking ourselves if our choices make our parents proud, why do we need to focus on making our kids braver?    Guest Bio Ashleigh Renard, creator of the viral How to Keep Monogamy Hot video series, is the Carrie Bradshaw for married people. After sharing her own story of rehabbing a shabby marriage in her memoir, Swing, she now answers hundreds of requests from her audience each day on how they can improve their relationships. As a synchronized skating coach and choreographer, she spent over two decades fostering cooperation and teamwork for adolescent girls. Part coach, part storyteller, part cooperation whisperer, Ashleigh has inspired millions of couples to radically reimagine the connection and joy available to them in their marriage. Her memoir, Swing, has been optioned as a streaming series and Keeping it Hot with Ashleigh Renard, an unscripted marriage fixer upper show, is also in development. For more information, follow @ashleighrenard, go to https://ashleighrenard.com/ and buy her book Swing here.