8. So you fell out of love

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8. So you fell out of love

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Oct 5, 2020

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In a culture of cancellation that tells you to leave when you're not feeling it, the perspective to stay and do a deep dive into yourself instead of dropping out of the relationship, may be a controversial one. In this episode we normalize falling out of love, while also giving you 10 steps to restore your faith in the partnership.

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Oct 5, 2020

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Here we talk relationship anxiety, ROCD, and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your man.

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1. How I Broke Free From Relationship Anxiety: After years of having doubts in my (now) 8-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from... by The Anxious Love Coach
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3. Sex anxiety: when you don't feel like having sex: In this episode, I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom. by The Anxious Love Coach
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23. The worst place to find relationship advice: This podcast episode was recorded on Instagram live after I was inspired by a conversation with a client, where she and I discussed the worst places to find relationship advice and why -- and where to find good relationship advice instead. ... by The Anxious Love Coach
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4. The "Trust Your Gut" Debunk with Chelsea Joy Horton: When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD... by The Anxious Love Coach
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6. Ever worry you're a narcissist?: One of my biggest fears in the past was that I'd be perceived as a narcissist. I resorted to frequent people-pleasing so people could think I was "good" in order to try and prevent this. Problem is, it led me to being more resentful and self-centered... by The Anxious Love Coach
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11: Why Relationship Anxiety Can Spike During the Holidays: I tried to break up multiple times with both my long-term partners of whom I experienced ROCD with -- and a hard majority of those "pull-aways" happened around the holidays. Back then the timing seemed so random, but I see today something much... by The Anxious Love Coach
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5. When people say "Maybe you should leave": When I was in the thick of Relationship Anxiety, comments like: "maybe you should leave" "maybe he's just not the right person for you" "you're young, maybe you just need to explore" were enough to send me into a gut-wrenching spiral of anxiety. In... by The Anxious Love Coach
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8. So you fell out of love: In a culture of cancellation that tells you to leave when you're not feeling it, the perspective to stay and do a deep dive into yourself instead of dropping out of the relationship, may be a controversial one. In this episode we normalize falling out... by The Anxious Love Coach
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22. Self-conscious of how others view your partner? with Chelsea Horton: Have you formed an alliance with society/family/friends or with your partner? In this episode, Chelsea Horton, Relationship Anxiety Specialist and dance therapist, joins me on IG live as we explain what's really happening when we feel embarrassed by... by The Anxious Love Coach
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10. The Truth about Independence with Mollie Birney, MA by The Anxious Love Coach
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26. Fighting Fairly in Your Relationship with Mollie Birney, M.A.: Today, I chat with my dear friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about how to utilize conflict in a relationship that is expansive and actually enhancing and -- dare I say -- enjoyable? Conflict is intended to be challenging but it doesn't have... by The Anxious Love Coach
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19. Wisdom on relationships from the aunt we've always needed: I'm honored to bring my aunt, Diane Sigala, onto Anxious Love Coach today. In the throes of relationship anxiety, my aunt was a regular phone call I made to help me understand relationships (and men!) better. This is a delicious and sweet episode... by The Anxious Love Coach
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27. I don’t always know what I’m doing in relationships either, guys: This is a raw and real voice text I recorded on my walk. I discuss the challenges/uncertainties of being a relationship coach. This episode includes my thoughts on this work, why uncertainty and doubt are absolute critical pieces to being open-minded,... by The Anxious Love Coach
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28. How Confessing Your Thoughts to your Partner is Making your ROCD worse: If you’ve ever found yourself confessing your intrusive thoughts to your partner in order to feel better, you’re not alone! However, you might be doing more harm to yourself and to your relationship than good. In this episode, I offer a... by The Anxious Love Coach
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9. How to Stop Being Controlling With Your Partner: You’re not attracted to a partner you control — and controlling behavior is a common way to avoid feeling “out of control.” However, it’s a huge contributor to feelings of dissatisfaction and disgust in relationship and ROCD. In this... by The Anxious Love Coach
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37. The week I thought I might be a lesbian: I just returned from a women's sensuality retreat in Costa Rica and re-discovered my love for my own femininity, women, and sisterhood. There are elements of this podcast that I think would be enormously helpful for women in relationships with men who... by The Anxious Love Coach
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15. Why Your Partner Can’t Meet All (or Even Most) of Your Needs: This one comes deep from personal, local, and recent experience from my heart. When we are feeling starved in multiple aspects of our lives, it's common to look to our partners to fill in the gaps. In this episode, I make a point to help you identify... by The Anxious Love Coach
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35. Can your menstrual cycle affect your relationship anxiety?: Are you more anxious about your relationship right before your period? In this episode, we will address the menstrual cycle from a more holistic lens, and how to leverage each phase you're in to maximize the potential for you to connect with yourself... by The Anxious Love Coach
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21. Working through Triggers with our new Co-coach Sheridan Ruth: I’m so thrilled to introduce Sheridan Ruth to our community at Anxious Love Coach. She is a fantastic yoga therapist, meditation teacher, and embodiment coach with her own experience with relationship anxiety. We’ve brought her on as a co-coach to... by The Anxious Love Coach
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18. Maintaining a sexual connection when your partner is depressed with Luci Lampe: If your partner is going through a dark phase and isn't able to be your rock, it's challenging to maintain an erotic connection or spark. If you're in the thick of this, there's hope-- and you're going to want to listen to this raw deep dive with... by The Anxious Love Coach
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14: When Your Partner has a Low Vibe and is Bringing You Down: When your partner is operating at what we might call a "low vibe," it's only natural our attraction will wane for the time being. We might take the lack of attraction we feel in that circumstance at face value and panic about whether we're in the... by The Anxious Love Coach
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34. Ever wonder if you're making a mistake by staying in your relationship?: Ah... my favorite dark rabbit hole... "Am I making a mistake?" If you question every decision you make, period, your relationship will fall under that line of scrutiny too. In this episode, I address how this line of thinking (not just in your... by The Anxious Love Coach
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25. Awakening Through Your Womb Space with Tantric Arts Teacher Shayna Hiller: I'm overjoyed and humbled to bring on someone hugely impactful in my life. Shayna Hiller is a yoga and tantric arts teacher living in Venice Beach, California. Shayna has also been a business coach for me in the past and is one of the reasons I... by The Anxious Love Coach
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