Quit people pleasing, quit doing things YOU don't want to do, quit draining your tank just to fill up someone else's. BE SELFISH in every decision, show up for yourself, chose you, and support yourself 100% of the time. We far too often look for others for validation or try and compromise when that is just betraying ourselves. Every-time we aren't selfish in our relationship it causes frustration and resentment. What if we came together and did not have to compromise on what we truly wanted in a relationship, how would that look, what would that even feel like?! Chose selfishly to be the best possible version of yourself and meet your spouse in that same situation. 
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