Eliza Boquin, LMFT and sex therapist; owner of Flow and Ease Counseling, and Co-Founder of Melanin and Mental Health joins the show today. She and I had a candid conversation about sex, shame, and how that shows up in our intimate relationships. Unresolved sexual shame prevents us from being emotionally close to our partners, unable to enjoy pleasure, and may cause to check out of our relationships mentally. We discuss whether you should "do it anyway" and have sex just to please your partner when you're not motivated.  *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some of the information discussed on the podcast can be sensitive in nature, therefore listener discretion is advised. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.  Visit Eliza Boquin, LMFT: Flowe and Ease Healing Center or Melanin and Mental Health Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Podcast Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones  adatewithdarkness@gmail.com Sign up for the free ebook on how to determine if you are a toxic person and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse at www.drnataliejones.com Individual and group membership coaching sessions will be opening soon. Get on the mailing list to be the first to know here. Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation going via social media: Instagram: A Date With Darkness Twitter: @Adatewdarkness Facebook: A Date With Darkness To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group